FeelingLonely98 Posted June 9, 2010 Share Posted June 9, 2010 So, this past Monday I got an email from the EX saying "Happy B-day - have a great day." It felt great to trash it and NOT respond. PEACE! Link to post Share on other sites
You Go Girl Posted June 9, 2010 Share Posted June 9, 2010 He could have been going through the motions, feeling some obligation to send you that. Or it could have been sincere. Which do you think? Anyway, happy belated birthday! Link to post Share on other sites
mikeymad Posted June 9, 2010 Share Posted June 9, 2010 I say let sleeping dogs lie. YGG, maybe in this sense it is best we don't ask her to go into that "what if" mindset of trying to figure out what her ex mean by their actions. It is a waste of time and energy. Just my opinion. FL98- Congrats on indifference. Link to post Share on other sites
trippi1432 Posted June 9, 2010 Share Posted June 9, 2010 (edited) So, this past Monday I got an email from the EX saying "Happy B-day - have a great day." It felt great to trash it and NOT respond. PEACE! Hey FL98 - Long time no see, hope other things are going better. Good for you!! I got a Happy Mother's Day from my ex...I stupidly said thanks. Now I am wondering if that "obligates" me to wish him a Happy Father's Day? Oh, and FL - you will love this one....my DS asked me last month if he could have the pressure washer to give to his dad for his dad's birthday. :laugh: You know those credit card commercials? Priceless.....!!! LOL! Um, the answer was NO! :rolleyes: BTW - Happy Belated Bday! Edited June 9, 2010 by trippi1432 add Link to post Share on other sites
You Go Girl Posted June 9, 2010 Share Posted June 9, 2010 I say let sleeping dogs lie. YGG, maybe in this sense it is best we don't ask her to go into that "what if" mindset of trying to figure out what her ex mean by their actions. It is a waste of time and energy. Just my opinion. FL98- Congrats on indifference. Good point Mikey. Not knowing the story myself, and not wanting to dredge it back up either! Link to post Share on other sites
sumdude Posted June 9, 2010 Share Posted June 9, 2010 So, this past Monday I got an email from the EX saying "Happy B-day - have a great day." It felt great to trash it and NOT respond. PEACE! Hey FL, happy belated man! It's a pretty good feeling when you can do that and feel pretty much nothing right? Not spend much mental effort thinking "gee I wonder what she's up to..".. Man I haven't heard a thing from my ex in a year and a half and expect that outside of an accidental run in to never see or hear from her ever again. Link to post Share on other sites
floridapad Posted June 11, 2010 Share Posted June 11, 2010 Happy belated bro. Just got back from Costa Rica and man do I have some stories to tell. Gotta have a beer sometime soon. Hope all is well with you. Good job with the ex's e-mail. No need to revisit that scene even for a birthday e-mail. Talk to you soon. Link to post Share on other sites
imagine Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 I would love to hear the updates for FL98 and Floridapad. Keep us posted. I gather that both of you are doing well. Link to post Share on other sites
Author FeelingLonely98 Posted June 13, 2010 Author Share Posted June 13, 2010 FL98 - maybe this Wed. we can grab a brew? Imagine - divorced 4 months ago. No regrets. Moving on with life. Haven't wanted to ask how the ex-W is doing (don't really care) - BUT I think she is still stuck living in a tiny room in her mom's cheap apt. She still doesn't have the means to get her own apt. I think she is still dating the teenage immigrant boy. Her son (ex(?) step-son) moved out a month ago. Consequently, now the House is clean and neat all the time. Light bills are like $65-70 / month. I'm making it just fine on one salary. My HS son just graduated with honors. Dating a nice girl for almost 5 months now. Going great - remembering Gunny's advice "no romance without finance"! :-) I'm happy... Trippi - great f'ing story!! TY all for belated b-day wishes. PEACE! Link to post Share on other sites
imagine Posted June 13, 2010 Share Posted June 13, 2010 FL98, Thanks. I missed the part of the step son leaving, although you mentioned that it was imminent. Congrats for your son! Link to post Share on other sites
trippi1432 Posted June 13, 2010 Share Posted June 13, 2010 FL98 - maybe this Wed. we can grab a brew? Imagine - divorced 4 months ago. No regrets. Moving on with life. Haven't wanted to ask how the ex-W is doing (don't really care) - BUT I think she is still stuck living in a tiny room in her mom's cheap apt. She still doesn't have the means to get her own apt. I think she is still dating the teenage immigrant boy. Her son (ex(?) step-son) moved out a month ago. Consequently, now the House is clean and neat all the time. Light bills are like $65-70 / month. I'm making it just fine on one salary. My HS son just graduated with honors. Dating a nice girl for almost 5 months now. Going great - remembering Gunny's advice "no romance without finance"! :-) I'm happy... Trippi - great f'ing story!! TY all for belated b-day wishes. PEACE! Good to hear you are doing well. I'm probably planning another Florida holiday again around Thanksgiving/Xmas time....will have to see if we can all get together and compare war stories.... Take care!! Link to post Share on other sites
2.50 a gallon Posted June 15, 2010 Share Posted June 15, 2010 FL98 aka Bandit I just got back, missed your first post. And now your second post, has me wondering if she finally might have started figuring our how screwed up her future years are going to be. Maybe, she is starting to think about what she has thrown away and somehow deluded herself that by being nice that she can still use you as a fall back position Keep your guard up Gallon Link to post Share on other sites
Author FeelingLonely98 Posted June 15, 2010 Author Share Posted June 15, 2010 FL98 aka Bandit I just got back, missed your first post. And now your second post, has me wondering if she finally might have started figuring our how screwed up her future years are going to be. Maybe, she is starting to think about what she has thrown away and somehow deluded herself that by being nice that she can still use you as a fall back position Keep your guard up Gallon I like that --> "Bandit". I am quite fortunate and lucky, eh? She'll never be able to use me in that regard ... Totally over her. She made her bed, right? I'm in eternal NC mode now. (I can only post 9 more times after this - then I reach 1000!) Link to post Share on other sites
2.50 a gallon Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 FL98 I will miss you my friend. Why not retire FL98 and start a new with a new usename? Something along the line of bandit, though I checked the members list and bandit / bandit5 / bandits are the only ones taken Gallon Link to post Share on other sites
LittleTiger Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 FL98 I will miss you my friend. Why not retire FL98 and start a new with a new usename? Something along the line of bandit, though I checked the members list and bandit / bandit5 / bandits are the only ones taken Gallon Great idea Gallon, that's what I did (ex LonelyTiger!) though I never got anywhere near 1000 posts! Good to hear from you FL98 and great to hear things are going well for you. Very belated 'Happy Birthday' from me! Link to post Share on other sites
Author FeelingLonely98 Posted August 1, 2010 Author Share Posted August 1, 2010 Great idea Gallon, that's what I did (ex LonelyTiger!) though I never got anywhere near 1000 posts! Good to hear from you FL98 and great to hear things are going well for you. Very belated 'Happy Birthday' from me! So the ex's b-day waS a few weeks ago. It came & went without any type of reciprocal greeting from me. Hope she had a great day - NOT! :-) on a side note ... I still have access to her online bank statement - about a month ago I looked at it on a whim. Still hovering between 0 & 100 every 2 weeks when pay day comes around. AND the best part us that it looks like she is fully entrenched in living with her Mother as I saw that her checks now have mom's address. Guess she's not living happily ever after with the 18 YO boy??? PEACE!! Link to post Share on other sites
2.50 a gallon Posted August 1, 2010 Share Posted August 1, 2010 FL98 Wanna bet the new BF didn't take her out to a fancy dinner on her b-day either! Maybe pizza parlor with games, and she has to buy her own beer. Reality is starting to set in, do you think? Have you heard from FP? Gallon Link to post Share on other sites
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