Errol Posted February 5, 2004 Share Posted February 5, 2004 deep breath jmargel! Tomorrow is the big day. Happy Birthday and Congrats! Have you decided where yet? Maybe you could talk to the manager at the restaurant and ask for a secluded table so that you will be less noticable to the general public? Relax and enjoy it and don't be nervous (yeah right!) My spouse told me that there is no wrong way to propose! Link to post Share on other sites
Author jmargel Posted February 5, 2004 Author Share Posted February 5, 2004 All I remember is her saying about not wanting me to do it in her apartment. The place she's taking me to for my b-day I know is going to be crowded, so I don't want to do it there. We were going to goto a club afterwards that I like, but it'll be too noisey there to do it. Ugh.. And I don't want to wait til V-tines day I'm already pschyed up for it. Only thing I can do is just try & convince her to goto the bridge with me for a walk even though its going to be cold, rainy and probably windy on that bridge. I know she's gonna fight me on that once she realizes the weather is that bad. I told her last night I want to take a walk on the bridge friday night, and she's like 'Really? In this cold weather?' lol.. Thing is I know when I get to her place she's going to be looking her best for me, and I'd hate to drag her out into the rain and get her all messed up. I need some advice here, i'm kinda stuck. Link to post Share on other sites
cdn Posted February 5, 2004 Share Posted February 5, 2004 How are you set for $$? Maybe you can skip the club and go to an elegant hotel room instead. You could have some champagne (or whatever your drink of choice is) waiting in the room and then take a soak in the Jacuzzi together after you pop the question. I think the bridge in the rain doesn't sound like much fun! Link to post Share on other sites
Errol Posted February 5, 2004 Share Posted February 5, 2004 Yikes! I just had a mental image of you on your knee on a wet windy bridge and when you whip out the ring it goes flying off the side of the bridge!!!! What about in your car? It's not the most romantic -- but maybe if you drive someplace nice--maybe where you can see the bridge? Then you can have some soft music on and be private. Make sure you have some tissues with you! Link to post Share on other sites
Author jmargel Posted February 5, 2004 Author Share Posted February 5, 2004 The car idea isn't too bad, but I wanted to get on one knee for her. Im kinda old fashioned that way. I didn't think of the hotel idea, but with it being tomorrow I don't know if I could even find a place w/ a jazacci. Money isn't a problem. And I know if I wait til v-tines day the weather will be just as crappy. I had everything so perfectly planned too. We really haven't gone to any places there that are quiet there either. Usually just restuarants, bars, clubs, etc.. Link to post Share on other sites
Errol Posted February 5, 2004 Share Posted February 5, 2004 Valentines day is not that far off and it will give you time to arrange a hotel room. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jmargel Posted February 5, 2004 Author Share Posted February 5, 2004 I can't though because of her work schedule. This saturday is the only saturday where she is going in late. All the other times she goes in for like 7am. There's no way i'm waiting another week. lol I have to figure something out. Link to post Share on other sites
cdn Posted February 5, 2004 Share Posted February 5, 2004 Call some hotels. I think you may be pleasantly surprised. I don't know where you are located, but unless it is a tourist destination, there will likely be lots of available rooms. Not too many people want to vacation where the weather is going to be cold and rainy. Good luck!!! Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted February 5, 2004 Share Posted February 5, 2004 Most hotels have quiet lounges and they are often very elegant in the fancier hotels. BTW - have a great birthday! Link to post Share on other sites
mfrmboy Posted February 5, 2004 Share Posted February 5, 2004 I wish you the best and hope everything works out for you! The bridge does sound like a wonderful place but if schedules will not allow. I dont think the car is very romantic and a hotel room is kinda like putting the cart before the horse. I mean what are you gonna tell your kids dad asked mom to marry him in a hotel room hot tub. Not a good idea. How about at her parents house? Im sure they would love it! Where ever you decide may your lives be filled with happiness, understanding and lot's of love Link to post Share on other sites
mfrmboy Posted February 5, 2004 Share Posted February 5, 2004 OH YEAH! HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Link to post Share on other sites
carla Posted February 6, 2004 Share Posted February 6, 2004 Wow Reading that brought tears to my eyes. You better bring kleenex. She will need it. After that a girl counldn't say no. Good Luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author jmargel Posted February 6, 2004 Author Share Posted February 6, 2004 Thank you all The weather has gotten a little better, its not raining has hard as they said it would. So im just hoping it holds through tonight. I figure after she takes me to dinner i'll ask her to go & walk with me on the bridge, and then ask her. I just hope I don't sound like a fool when I ask her. lol Oh and last night I was over there & I mentioned about the bad weather on friday and how I wanted to walk on the bridge. She asked me if I wanted to walk with her that night. I'm thinking 'Oh ****, I could've asked her tonight but I didn't bring the ring'. So I told her that I was just 'tired'. She's then says 'Well how silly of me to ask on a night that is nice to take a walk'. Ugh! lol.. If she only knew. I don't think she really has a clue that i'm going to ask her. She usually catches onto things like this, but she hasn't shown any signs that she has. Link to post Share on other sites
carla Posted February 6, 2004 Share Posted February 6, 2004 I say ask her on the bridge that you planned rain or shine bring an umbella. Once you ask her she won't care what the weather is. I say do it at night Maybe the stars will be out Look for a shooting or falling star and make a wish for a long happy and fulfilling future together. Good Luck. Don't forget to let us know how it goes. Link to post Share on other sites
carla Posted February 7, 2004 Share Posted February 7, 2004 SO................... Did you ask? What did she say? Link to post Share on other sites
Author jmargel Posted February 7, 2004 Author Share Posted February 7, 2004 She took me out to dinner, and afterwards I asked if we could goto the bridge. Luckily the rain stopped, and we went. She was wearing high-heel shoes and the bridge was full of ice. But she didn't complain, all she said was 'Since its your birthday we can do anything you want'. We went about quarter the way across and then I told her how much I love her, how much she meant to me, etc.. and that there was a reason why I brough you out here. Then I got on one knee & proposed. She was all smiles when she said yes. We eventually got back to her place & she was calling everyone she knew to tell them. We went out later & it was an awesome night. Best birthday ever This morning her mom called and I just heard Brandy (my fiancee) say 'shh' and then walk out & close the door. I kept asking why she was acting so weird. Found out that when I talked to her dad, her 15 yr old step sister was there & she told brandy everything! I was pissed to say the least. But I told them I was going to ask her on v-tines day, so her step-sister told her I was going to ask then & on the bridge. Brandy told me it was still a surpise, since she thought I was going to ask next week, but still. She had NO right to tell her this. Part of me wants to confront her, but I know her parents will punish her bad, and she's confided in alot of things to Brandy and I dont want to ruin that. Still not sure what to do about it. But anyways, I couldn't have asked for a better night. We are looking forward to so many things. Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted February 7, 2004 Share Posted February 7, 2004 Congratulations!!!! Two lucky, happy people! And you kneeling on the icy bridge...and her smiling and laughing, I'm sure...when's the big day, and you're web posting all the wedding pictures, right? Link to post Share on other sites
reasontosigh Posted February 7, 2004 Share Posted February 7, 2004 Congratulations!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Thinkalot Posted February 8, 2004 Share Posted February 8, 2004 Wonderful! congratulations! It worked out fine, dont worry too much about the sis spilling the beans...you can mention in a jokey way to her it bothered you if you like, but dont make too big a deal of it. So glad you are so happy! Best wishes to you both .. Link to post Share on other sites
carla Posted February 8, 2004 Share Posted February 8, 2004 CONGRATS!!!!! I wish you both the best. That is so sweet. My eyes were watering up as I read your post. As for the little sister, forget about it for now you have a wedding to plan and alot of excitment ahead of you. But the devil in me does like a little revenge once in a while. Now that you are in the family, just wait it out. Someday little sister will get married and then being the loving brother inlaw that you are you could offer to say a speech at her wedding, this is the fun part now you tell everyone about an ambarassing story about little sis. When your done turn to her and tell her that it is revenge for letting the cat out of the bag. Gotch. You feel better for the revenge bit and no one gets hurt b/c it's all in good fun. Anyway best of luck. Oh yeah warning try not to argue to much about wedding plans b/c lets face it you better get used to not having your way. lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Silver Posted February 10, 2004 Share Posted February 10, 2004 I just wanted to extend my CONGRATULATIONS to you both!! I think what you did was very romantic and both of you won't forget it. Despite her step-sister telling her, just remember that next time when you want to plan a surprise. Make sure she isn't around. Best of luck! (and a belated Happy Birthday ) Link to post Share on other sites
mixy Posted February 10, 2004 Share Posted February 10, 2004 how long have you two been together? Why is she the one?? thanks for your answer :-) Link to post Share on other sites
Author jmargel Posted February 10, 2004 Author Share Posted February 10, 2004 We haven't been together that long. I've known her since Nov. of 2002 (was with her basically as a bf) but she was with someone who neglected and treated her bad for the numerous years they were together. We were friends which grew into something more. Then in Sept. we became a couple. As to know if 'shes the one', well I can honestly say that she is my best friend, lover, companion, and can't look at life without her being in it. I learned alot with my ex-fiancee, on what to and not to do, and how to handle situations better. With Brandy (my fiancee) things just seem to go together so well. Like I said before we never fought or argued, and the relationship is not a power struggle like it was with my ex. I'm very content with her in every possible way. I guess that's how I know she's the one. Link to post Share on other sites
mixy Posted February 10, 2004 Share Posted February 10, 2004 That is really beautiful! Thanks for sharing your thoughts with me. I have been with my boyfriend for quite a while and we have a very strong and beautiful relationship. There are fights but we always work them out and there is not one day where we do not share a smile, a kind word or some supportive talks together. Therefore, I really hope he considers me the one as I love the thought of us growing old together. Hey, good luck and I really like your idea for the proposal :-) Link to post Share on other sites
axidnt2 Posted February 12, 2004 Share Posted February 12, 2004 How Sweet!!I know that if I were her I would be swept off my feet. Congratulations and Good Luck!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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