Shadowslay88 Posted June 10, 2010 Share Posted June 10, 2010 Ok so the story goes like this, I'm moving to another state in a week and i'm leaving the girl i'm absolutely in love with behind. I've been trying to see her one last time before I do but she has been sick. We aren't really dating right now but we have in the past and honestly i'm pretty sure she is the one. Shes had other boyfriends after me but she dumped them all. Shes in school and wants to focus on school mostly and I respect that, but I just wanted to tell her that i'm willing to wait for her to graduate from school. I was gonna ask her if she would wait for me, I mean she might but how is she gonna know unless I talk to her before I leave? I don't wanna tell her over the phone, I wanna tell her how I feel in person. I just hope I can, i'm scared that she is sick because I am leaving, like kinda like love sick? Maybe i'm over analyzing things. Thats why I cam here to ask for advice, someone told me to post my story on here. So I hope I get some good advice on what to do. Link to post Share on other sites
aerogurl87 Posted June 10, 2010 Share Posted June 10, 2010 First off welcome to LS. Now I think before you leave you should tell this girl how you feel. Will she wait for you? Maybe, maybe not. But if she's going to be only focusing on school like she claims then you have nothing to worry about I think. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted June 10, 2010 Share Posted June 10, 2010 Welcome to LS I'm foursquare for sharing with her how you *feel*. I'm foursquare against soliciting contracts of adhesion, like 'waiting for me', when you're both young, still growing, and mobile. That's much too limiting for either of you. If there's truly a connection, you will find each other Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shadowslay88 Posted June 10, 2010 Author Share Posted June 10, 2010 i'm just scared that I won't get to see her before I move =/ Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted June 10, 2010 Share Posted June 10, 2010 Think about why you're 'scared'. Fear of loss is part of pedestal-building. This isn't your mother dying here, is it? Think about that. Reflect upon the relative value of this dynamic in life. I built many pedestals as a young man, monuments to my ignorance. Hope you can expend your sweat and tears on more productive pursuits Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shadowslay88 Posted June 10, 2010 Author Share Posted June 10, 2010 I'm scared of not telling her how i feel, i don't wanna tell her through or over the phone. It doesn't seem the same ya know? Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted June 10, 2010 Share Posted June 10, 2010 Nothing wrong with phone (the voice part). You're not proposing marriage, rather telling her you'll miss her and the good times you've shared and hope to see her again soon. IMO, that's perfectly appropriate. She can accept it as she sees fit. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shadowslay88 Posted June 10, 2010 Author Share Posted June 10, 2010 I don't know it just doesn't seem fitting for me. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted June 10, 2010 Share Posted June 10, 2010 Analysis paralysis. What are you going to do? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shadowslay88 Posted June 10, 2010 Author Share Posted June 10, 2010 I can't really do anything, I just need to wait to see what happens. See what really bothers me is even if the phone was the only option she always has her cell phone off. The only time she ever has it on is at night. So all I really can do is wait. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted June 10, 2010 Share Posted June 10, 2010 Sure you can (do something); you can call her and leave a VM requesting that she call you back. She's a friend. No reason why she wouldn't, right? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shadowslay88 Posted June 10, 2010 Author Share Posted June 10, 2010 she doesn't have her VM set up, when i call it just says "the number you are trying to call is not in service" Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted June 10, 2010 Share Posted June 10, 2010 Creative block? Does her phone have a text service? Does she have e-mail? Does she have a physical street address? Again, a friend would respond. I've had friends I haven't seen in years send a card or letter and include their phone number and I call them right away. Why is this so hard? Ask yourself 'why'? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shadowslay88 Posted June 10, 2010 Author Share Posted June 10, 2010 Its complicated, she is often to busy for writing letters or the computer. She is so focused on school, she is even in college during the summer time. If I went to her house she'd probably get mad at me. This is why I wanna see her before I leave because I know shes not gonna talk to me for a long time. So in a way it does feel like i'm dying. Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted June 10, 2010 Share Posted June 10, 2010 How sick can she be? She needs to be totally quarantined and has raging disease or what? I'd call her and say I understand you have been unwell but you mean so much to me that I just have to speak to you in person all things considered. If she has Ebola then maybe I'd back off but if it is just some routine cold or something, it would be kinda telling if she refuses to see you before you move. I'd be rather put off. I'd sacrifice picking up a cold if I felt there was real love to be lost. If she doesn't want to see you under such circumstances she may have written you off already and is trying to spare herself some discomfort of hearing you blubber. Link to post Share on other sites
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