hurting Posted January 29, 2004 Share Posted January 29, 2004 Hi to all. I'm really new at this so please bare with me as I try to tell my story. I met this guy almost 3 years ago and absolutely hated him. Needless to say we developed a "friendship". The friendship began with a hateful kind of attraction for each other, if you will. Now, I want more. And for awhile he appeared to be giving me more. But, now... it's just a friendship again. I don't want his friendship, I've had that for nearly 3 years now. I want to tell him that I don't want to be his friend and completely walk away for this whole situation. By I care to much. Even more than I thought I did.HELP PLEASE. I need to get out of this and quick. I feel like I'm setting myself up for failure if I don't let go now. Am I wrong? Am I right? I just can be his friend, it's gotten to complicated for me. And I know I will push for more if I try to be just his friend. Advice please Link to post Share on other sites
Girlie Posted January 29, 2004 Share Posted January 29, 2004 Have you spoken with him about how you feel? And what do you mean by he appeared to be giving you more for a while? Were you dating? Obviously, you can't force him into anything. All you can do is tell him how you feel. Unfortunately, if he doesn't return those feelings, then it will be difficult for you to remain friends with him. I'm sorry you are experiencing this. If you haven't talked to him already, do so. If you have and things aren't going the way that you want, like I said, you can't force it. You'll have to heal and move on with your life. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
InvinoVeritas Posted January 29, 2004 Share Posted January 29, 2004 If you don't think you can be his friend, then don't be. Yeah, it's gonna hurt at first, but you can meet other people, and maybe at a later date you can start talking again and start a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
hurting Posted January 29, 2004 Share Posted January 29, 2004 Thanks ladies. I feel a little better. I've told him how I feel in terms of my feelings toward him, but not that we can't be friends if there's no potential. I need advice on how to handle this part. I don't want to come off as selfish, although I know that is exactly what I am being. We've shared a kiss and some other intimate things. We talk(ed) almost everyday. He'd send me e-mails about how glad he was that we were friends. And if I need something, he'll give it to me hands down if he has it. I catch him looking at me in a "that's nice" manner. We once talked about him relocating if I have to move to find a better job. He seemed genuinely concerned about the possibility of me moving and how far I would be from him. We discussed gift exchanges at Christmas. A couple of times he can to my place of employment just because he was in the neighborhood. Did I read the signs wrong? Did i make a left when I should have made a right? Is that how I came to be in the state of Confusion instead of the state of Happy Endings? Link to post Share on other sites
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