What do I have to do to make this work?

[Jerry18]

It's a long story but I was introduced to someone on MSN by a friend a few months ago because we shared a common interest in an event. At first, I didn't like her in a romantic way, in fact, I was more or less indifferent to her. However, after talking to her for a while, I've started to like her.

 

Most importantly, there are some things that I respect about her. We're in college (not the same one of course, in two different countries). She has an amazing work ethic but at the same time she's a real person. I've never felt that way about girls before. I've had crushes on them, but I've never admired one.

 

We've talked a fair amount and I think she might like me. But, I really think she's special.

 

I don't even know how to make the logistics work, because even if anything happens it'd have to be after we graduate. But, I really hope I can have a relationship with her. I haven't seen her picture yet, but I don't think that'll matter.

 

Please give me advice on what I can do right now to win her over.

[impz]

It's a long story but I was introduced to someone on MSN by a friend a few months ago because we shared a common interest in an event. At first, I didn't like her in a romantic way, in fact, I was more or less indifferent to her. However, after talking to her for a while, I've started to like her.

 

Most importantly, there are some things that I respect about her. We're in college (not the same one of course, in two different countries). She has an amazing work ethic but at the same time she's a real person. I've never felt that way about girls before. I've had crushes on them, but I've never admired one.

 

We've talked a fair amount and I think she might like me. But, I really think she's special.

 

I don't even know how to make the logistics work, because even if anything happens it'd have to be after we graduate. But, I really hope I can have a relationship with her. I haven't seen her picture yet, but I don't think that'll matter.

 

Please give me advice on what I can do right now to win her over.

 

Don't mind me being skeptical. Before you say how I am speaking without experience, I did meet my wife online (through my blog) and we were in a LDR for 3 years. Now then,

 

1. How long have you known her? What do you know about her? I am not talking about her personality. I am talking about knowing her job, what she does, her financial status etc.

 

2. How do you know if she's a real person? (webcam, meeting up, voice calls, pictures don't count). I am particularly troubled if you do not EVEN know how she looks like, and you are thinking of hooking up with her.

 

3. Do you have an action plan? Have you planned out how to make sure that both of you will have a good idea who is moving over to who, and how the distance can be breached, and that there is a clear timeline.

 

Once you can answer confidently to these 3, I am sure you can have your answer.

[aerogurl87]

Well first you should start with seeing what she looks like and then actually meeting her face to face. I've been in two LDRs that started online, and the face to face encounter was always different than what I imagined them to be like. Although both times it was better than what I expected . So discuss meeting in real life and see what she looks like before you start wondering how to "win her over".

[carvidep]

Well first you should start with seeing what she looks like and then actually meeting her face to face. I've been in two LDRs that started online, and the face to face encounter was always different than what I imagined them to be like. Although both times it was better than what I expected . So discuss meeting in real life and see what she looks like before you start wondering how to "win her over".

 

My two cents: Meeting face to face is not only ideal for finding out what she looks like, but also how you two interact together. Two people can fall absolutely head over heels for each other online (even using skype, phone, etc.) and then find that they don't have that connection in person.

[aerogurl87]

My two cents: Meeting face to face is not only ideal for finding out what she looks like, but also how you two interact together. Two people can fall absolutely head over heels for each other online (even using skype, phone, etc.) and then find that they don't have that connection in person.

 

That's partially what I meant also. When I met my first LDR boyfriend online he seemed cocky and really sociable. Then when we met face to face he was somewhat insecure/unsure of himself and more of a loner. But I loved him just the same. Then with my boyfriend now, online he seemed kinda quiet but when we met in person he talked about as much as I do, lol. He was somewhat different from what I was expecting, but in a good way. And as carvidep mentioned, chemistry online doesn't always translate into chemistry offline.