the "Mad Max" mentality

[Disillusioned]

I'm an example of what happens to middle-aged men who don't find love: we develop a Mad Max mentality.

 

We've lost the people in our lives who were closest to us, so then we set out on our own and move from peer group to peer group, never really fitting in, but never really able to let go completely... stationary nomads. We become very jaded along the way, quick to strike out at people who try to make us into something we're not.

 

Yet I keep on ticking, flying in the face of this asinine thing called convention, holding out a flicker of hope (however quixotic) that enough people out there will "get it" and start an enclave for platonic singles... and call its nomads back home.

 

In the meantime, while I wait and hope for enough platonic singles to discover the power of solidarity and start that online refugee camp (after having tried and failed to start it myself), I'll keep doing what I've been doing for the last 5 years: couching my unorthodox social commentary in fiction-writing.

[Morals]

I'm an example of what happens to middle-aged men who don't find love: we develop a Mad Max mentality.

 

We've lost the people in our lives who were closest to us, so then we set out on our own and move from peer group to peer group, never really fitting in, but never really able to let go completely... stationary nomads. We become very jaded along the way, quick to strike out at people who try to make us into something we're not.

 

Yet I keep on ticking, flying in the face of this asinine thing called convention, holding out a flicker of hope (however quixotic) that enough people out there will "get it" and start an enclave for platonic singles... and call its nomads back home.

 

In the meantime, while I wait and hope for enough platonic singles to discover the power of solidarity and start that online refugee camp (after having tried and failed to start it myself), I'll keep doing what I've been doing for the last 5 years: couching my unorthodox social commentary in fiction-writing.

 

I don't get it, you say you want love, yet you couldn't find it?

 

So in response you want a group of singles who are looking for only platonic relationships in order to cure this inability to find love?

 

Doesn't really make sense to me, I also think you are misuing the word "quixotic",give the context, because it usually implies impractical romantic ideals.

 

This really comes off as more of a "I can't find love so I hope I find a group of singles who are as miserable as me, maybe they can relate to me!"

[TaraMaiden]

Sorry... all I'm seeing is Tina Turner with the big hair and long legs....

[Disillusioned]

I don't get it, you say you want love, yet you couldn't find it?

 

So in response you want a group of singles who are looking for only platonic relationships in order to cure this inability to find love?"

 

Every time I've tried, the game-players took over with their usual nonsense---"what, no sex and no alcohol? How lame!" It was enough to make me wonder why I even try. Even Realdolls are not designed for the needs of platonics.

 

Nor am I alone in thinking so. Allison Pescosolido, one half of divorcedetox.com, basically nailed down all the hunches I had about meeting the right person, but I'm not sure if she knows just how much pushback there'd be against her techniques if she tried to expand her Done With Dating group.

[Disillusioned]

This really comes off as more of a "I can't find love so I hope I find a group of singles who are as miserable as me, maybe they can relate to me!"

 

BZZZZZ! You're obviously reading from the POV of someone who neither understands nor has any use for a platonic relationship. My mood is more one of irritation at single society's insistence on acting stoopid.

 

Who knows? Maybe it really is all about sensory pleasures and not caring about long term goals.

[Morals]

BZZZZZ! You're obviously reading from the POV of someone who neither understands nor has any use for a platonic relationship. My mood is more one of irritation at single society's insistence on acting stoopid.

 

Who knows? Maybe it really is all about sensory pleasures and not caring about long term goals.

 

I still don't follow you. The thing is platonic relationships with the opposite sex are hard to come by. Think about what initally causes a female to be interested in another guy. Essentially it boils down to looks or personality. Why would any female LOOK for platonic relationships? The unfortunate truth is most platonic friends (of the opposite sex) for women are either boyfriends that were, or boyfriends that are to become.

 

I'm not suggesting that you shouldn't look for platonic friends. But attraction draws people to one another, whether it's similar tastes, or good looks. Like any relationship, friends come naturally...you can't force it.

 

Like I said, your original post came off as a "misery loves company" post. If that's not correct then perhaps you need to elaborate on your position or situation, seeing as how only me and Tara are the only ones who have responded.

[paddington bear]

the problem with this utopia of platonic singles is that if there were such a group, at least one pair within the group would develop more than platonic feelings for each other, this would piss off the others no end "this is A PLATONIC GROUP ONLY' and banish them forever, slowly people would drop off, daring to feel more than platonic feelings for one another, leaving only a group of bitter males and females there bemoaning the fact that they weren't the ones who found someone to love.

 

Have you no platonic male friends to hang out with? Seems like you need companionship and feel like an outsider flitting from group to group and not fitting in because of whatever age you are and are single. Having some male buddies would help and would be less complicated than convincing yourself that platonic female friendships are the answer - that is like saying to yourself 'I'll never be good enough for any woman romantically, so I will take the crumbs of a non-romantic relationship, because that's all I'll ever get' - which could possibly be the vibe you are giving out, which could be a contributing reason why you are single, you don't believe you deserve not to be.

[Disillusioned]

The thing is platonic relationships with the opposite sex are hard to come by.

 

A major reason is because there's hardly anything out there geared toward platonics. Many people who DO want a platonic relationship don't even know what the word means. Chicken-and-egg problem.

 

which could possibly be the vibe you are giving out, which could be a contributing reason why you are single, you don't believe you deserve not to be.

 

Now you're starting to get into the same conundrum as another recent thread in which another OP took issue with the "confidence = magnetism" thing. Ain't gonna happen unless we all wake up one morning with ESP. BTW if I became any more confident, I'd be arrogant.