Hman Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 Im new to this, I met this military girl at the bar, we hit it off, had a great time, the next day we were hanging out all day and the day after. Her friend flew in ( a guy ) from her home town, we all met up for food and drinks, she was with me that night. She said she wanted to spend time with him cuz he was only going to be here for five days , since our dating has only been four days what can I really say..I touched base with her from time to time that week, now he is gone and we are texting back and forth a lot she let me know that she is KINDA seeing a guy back home..She is stationed here ( a few states away ) but she still wants to see me. Im down with that!! BUT about me, im single,like to go out with women, and I only take my time with someone I really want, I really want her. What questions should I ask her today? besides ( do you love him,will he ever move down here,how long were you to together,ect. Or should I just be friends. Because I do really like her, I feel I will be the one getting hurt the further I continue. Plus it will also let her know Im just a one women man when Im serious. Im not into games with her. I have a bit of anxiety because I like her and would like the chance to be with her........What to do? what to ask? I know I could be friends with her, I have been with all the others in my past...ANY INFO OUT THERE ME?? JUST NEED A LITTLE HELP. Link to post Share on other sites
WTRanger Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 Kinda seeing? Kinda only counts in horseshoes and hand grenades. Trust me, a guy doesn't fly to see a girl he knows to just "hang out" (well, he hangs something out) and talk about the good ole days. The minute that happened the writing was on the wall. Your only real chance is to do nothing at all. Let her go and kinda be with this other guy. In the mean time, you kinda go out with other girls. If you hang around an be "friends" you'll never get past that stage and you'll lose your manhood in the process. Sure, you could be friends with her if you weren't romantically interested but that's not the case here. Link to post Share on other sites
Cracker Jack Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 I agree with Ranger. Honestly, it just seems like you're designated "filler" at this point; and by that, I mean someone who's there to entertain her until she eventually goes back home. I could be wrong--but it seems that way. Just ask whatever you want. I can't think of anything specific that'll help your situation, though. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hman Posted June 14, 2010 Author Share Posted June 14, 2010 I agree with Ranger. Honestly, it just seems like you're designated "filler" at this point; and by that, I mean someone who's there to entertain her until she eventually goes back home. I could be wrong--but it seems that way. Just wanna say thank you for being honest! when you put down that you didnt know anything specific for me to ask....Sounds strange but, it make me feel good that you were not just going to blow smoke up my ass.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hman Posted June 14, 2010 Author Share Posted June 14, 2010 Kinda seeing? Kinda only counts in horseshoes and hand grenades. Trust me, a guy doesn't fly to see a girl he knows to just "hang out" (well, he hangs something out) and talk about the good ole days. The minute that happened the writing was on the wall. Your only real chance is to do nothing at all. Let her go and kinda be with this other guy. In the mean time, you kinda go out with other girls. If you hang around an be "friends" you'll never get past that stage and you'll lose your manhood in the process. Sure, you could be friends with her if you weren't romantically interested but that's not the case here. I see your point! I just figured shes military and works with all these guys....I have a very good looking, fine female best friend?... The out come over the weekend, we just ate, hit the point for about a min then we went to a bar and had a few drinks, I gave her some ****..you know just messing around and then we went our way. Didnt make any plans for next week but who knows....I did meet another girl at the dog park and she is nice, I'll talk with her more. Military girl I'll text,FaceBook banter. I have many other female friends that I have been with. In the beginning its a bit tough, but if the two of you have the understanding thay its done...then there COULD be hope for a friendship..just not so close in the beginning, that takes time. THANK YOU AGAIN FOR YOUR HELP Link to post Share on other sites
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