annabelle84 Posted June 13, 2010 Share Posted June 13, 2010 (edited) Hey everyone! It has been over 4 weeks into my break up. Apart from missing him when something that reminds me of us shows up, I think i am coping not so badly. But something is bothering me. He broke up with me after 4 years because of issues with had. He blamed a lot on me. Though I know I wasnt the only onr to blame. When we broke up, he told me that even if I didnt believe that he loved me. He said he need time alone in order to heal. He also said things like "if you find someone else to make you forget the pain I am causing you I'll understannd" and "we don't need to stop talking" ... that last one didn't seen like a very good idea to me. He told me he didn't have anyone else inline (if you know what I mean). But after 2 days into the break up I changed my mind and been an idiot (lol) and stared talking to him (ok... basicaly asking him t take m back, because it was been so hard). (i shouldn't heve done this... i know) Here is what's bothering me... he told me he didn't want me back and started no contact after I finally broke, told him I loved him and would be here when he wanted to talk (and that I would wait for him). He told me I had too go on living my life and not dwell on something that was on the past. I asked him ifwe would be back together and he said he didn't know the future. I asked him if we could be friends and he said we could after this time. He blocked me on facebook and other networks, he didn't answer a friend of mine when she texted hem to ask if he had someone else and that I was suffering. he hasn't spoken to me since. And.... it seem he is very much friends with a girl I was suspicious about when we were dating. His friends all added her on facebook and aparently she is now on his top friends. CAn someone tell me what the hell is going on....? How can he say he loves and cares for me and never talk to me like this. It doesn't sound like someone who cares would be acting. I really do need to get an explanation. I don't think I'll be breaking no contact... but i keep hoping that he contacts after his end term exams are over. But it sounds that the best for me would be to not even think about it. I know you guys cant guess anything because you are not psychics, but do you think I still have a chance? Edited June 13, 2010 by annabelle84 Link to post Share on other sites
harkkam Posted June 13, 2010 Share Posted June 13, 2010 I know exactly what you are going through because right now I am going through something like that right now. Me and my ex had many memories we dated only for a year but we really enjoyed our time or at least I did as i am told now. But we argued and fought a bit too much over small things and eventually she decided it was better for her not to be with me. She told me to not contact her and leave her alone and to stop texting her and that I needed to move on with my life. She told me that she loved me however. The thing is that a person can still love you but tell themselves why its better for them to stop loving you anymore. They may have feelings for you but they are just in the process of letting them go and having them disappear and vanish. So the love that they proclaim is not really love its just there for the time being and they know and have enough self control to push the shut down button. I am not that kind of person, I am loyal and as long as I love a person I keep loving them and even if I stop loving them I try my best to make it work for the sake of waht the two of you have created together. The bond that you two shared, I try to work even in the absence of happiness because I believe that you were happy together at one point and that you owe it to each other to try and fix whatever isnt working. People quit to easily these days and thats a problem thats why there isnt any stability. We should all try and find people who are not quitters and who can be loyal. Anyway thats my two cents Link to post Share on other sites
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