Crystal Posted July 12, 2000 Share Posted July 12, 2000 For my boyfriend's birthday, he said he'd like a professional photo of me, so I went to photo studio. The owner of the place talked to me about the different types of photos he could take and asked if I'd be interested in a nude shot. Normally I would never consider something like that, but he assured me everything would be very professional and all. Since my boyfriend says he's always wanted to see me in the nude, I got up the courage and decided to go for it. The owner then introduced me to his son, who is about my age and said he's learning the trait and would be helping out. I felt self-conscience enough doing this, I really didn't want someone my age in the room with us. It seemed that after taking my cloths off, the owner kept having to leave to attend phone calls leaving me naked in front of his son a lot longer then I really wanted, but his son was very friendly and apologetic for the delay. In the end, the pictures came out real nicely, but when I surprised my boyfriend with them, he seemed to be upset that I would take my cloths off in front of another guy. I told him it wasn't easy for me but I thought he'd like it. I did it for him. He said it was pornographic and made me feel so bad, I cried. Link to post Share on other sites
Dave Posted July 13, 2000 Share Posted July 13, 2000 Well get over it.. ) For my boyfriend's birthday, he said he'd like a professional photo of me, so I went to photo studio. The owner of the place talked to me about the different types of photos he could take and asked if I'd be interested in a nude shot. Normally I would never consider something like that, but he assured me everything would be very professional and all. Since my boyfriend says he's always wanted to see me in the nude, I got up the courage and decided to go for it. The owner then introduced me to his son, who is about my age and said he's learning the trait and would be helping out. I felt self-conscience enough doing this, I really didn't want someone my age in the room with us. It seemed that after taking my cloths off, the owner kept having to leave to attend phone calls leaving me naked in front of his son a lot longer then I really wanted, but his son was very friendly and apologetic for the delay. In the end, the pictures came out real nicely, but when I surprised my boyfriend with them, he seemed to be upset that I would take my cloths off in front of another guy. I told him it wasn't easy for me but I thought he'd like it. I did it for him. He said it was pornographic and made me feel so bad, I cried. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted July 13, 2000 Share Posted July 13, 2000 Nude pictures of a guy's girlfriend, tastefully done, hardly qualify as pornography. However, if you told him the entire story that you posted here, I wouldn't be surprised if he didn't punch out the photographer. Inviting his son into the session and then leaving you alone with him while he answered the phone is highly unprofessional. You always take a chance with gifts anyway. Sometimes people like them and sometimes they don't. All other events aside, I think give nude pictures of yourself as a gift to your boyfriend is in a whole category by itself. His reaction is not your fault. You thought he would like the gift and he reacted negatively. That's simply not something you did...it's his thing. I think what your boyfriend is implying when he says he's always wanted to see you in the nude is that he would like to be the one taking the pictures and perhaps doing other things. Link to post Share on other sites
JT Posted July 13, 2000 Share Posted July 13, 2000 Crystal, honey hello, and know you did nothing wrong. I did studio lingerie shots almost twenty years ago, and I'm glad I did. I too was uncomfortable, but the end results were worth it. As for your boyfriend, he sounds insecure. I'm sure he had to wonder about the who, what, and where; but did he even bother to LOOK or try to understand what you did to accomplish this for HIM? Believe me, you will be glad, for many years to come, for what you did. His problem is his problem. Beautful nude photos do not equal pornography. Porno is gross, beauty is art. Consider yourself beautiful, in which his insecurity misinterprets as pornography. Just one more thing... He's your boyfriend and you chose to picture yourself nude apparently BEFORE he's actually seen you in the buff? Maybe your pic's just shocked him, and he didn't know how to handle it other than blaming you. Anyway you consider this, I still think he is an insecure ass. Link to post Share on other sites
lisa Posted July 13, 2000 Share Posted July 13, 2000 I gotta say, I agree with JT. I also think, not to read too into things, that making you cry over his own insecurities may be a hint at over-possessive-ness. If he was more of a man (and possessive men are rarely that) he would have not have made you cry for wanting to please him. Especially if he has not ever seen you nude before- what an excitement and anticipation builder! And anyone who thinks the human body naked is pornographic needs to loosen up about a whole lot of things. If there is any reason why you shouldn't have taken that picture, it was because of the son watching you, and the unprofessional behavior displayed by the proprietor of the studio. I would definitely not go back there, and would pass the word on to your friends (if too embarrassed to tell the 'real' story, just say the pictures came out awful!) Crystal, honey hello, and know you did nothing wrong. I did studio lingerie shots almost twenty years ago, and I'm glad I did. I too was uncomfortable, but the end results were worth it. As for your boyfriend, he sounds insecure. I'm sure he had to wonder about the who, what, and where; but did he even bother to LOOK or try to understand what you did to accomplish this for HIM? Believe me, you will be glad, for many years to come, for what you did. His problem is his problem. Beautful nude photos do not equal pornography. Porno is gross, beauty is art. Consider yourself beautiful, in which his insecurity misinterprets as pornography. Just one more thing... He's your boyfriend and you chose to picture yourself nude apparently BEFORE he's actually seen you in the buff? Maybe your pic's just shocked him, and he didn't know how to handle it other than blaming you. Anyway you consider this, I still think he is an insecure ass. Link to post Share on other sites
betv Posted July 13, 2000 Share Posted July 13, 2000 chalk it up to very poor judgement on your part and let it go. if you 2 were living together or sexually involved it may have made him happy to have the photo but if you're only dating what are you doing giving him a naked photograph for?! live and learn. For my boyfriend's birthday, he said he'd like a professional photo of me, so I went to photo studio. The owner of the place talked to me about the different types of photos he could take and asked if I'd be interested in a nude shot. Normally I would never consider something like that, but he assured me everything would be very professional and all. Since my boyfriend says he's always wanted to see me in the nude, I got up the courage and decided to go for it. The owner then introduced me to his son, who is about my age and said he's learning the trait and would be helping out. I felt self-conscience enough doing this, I really didn't want someone my age in the room with us. It seemed that after taking my cloths off, the owner kept having to leave to attend phone calls leaving me naked in front of his son a lot longer then I really wanted, but his son was very friendly and apologetic for the delay. In the end, the pictures came out real nicely, but when I surprised my boyfriend with them, he seemed to be upset that I would take my cloths off in front of another guy. I told him it wasn't easy for me but I thought he'd like it. I did it for him. He said it was pornographic and made me feel so bad, I cried. Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts