titania Posted January 30, 2004 Share Posted January 30, 2004 My b/f and I had planned on getting married this summer and the only date that works for us is in July because of other dates being booked, work, and possibly moving away. My sister has had a date set for a long time and it would be a month after my wedding. She and her fiance are very upset about this and think it is rude of us to plan so close to theirs. I've tried explaining this is just the only time that works for us and a couple years ago I had set 2 different plans for getting married in 2003 or 2004 depending how things worked out. Anyway, things haven't been going great for us anyway and this has just added to it to where the wedding may not happen. Any suggestions? Is this bad ettiquete? Link to post Share on other sites
Helpme2004 Posted January 30, 2004 Share Posted January 30, 2004 Its your wedding not your sisters you are intitled to have it any day you want it its whatever is convient for you not her she should be happy for you. Link to post Share on other sites
tattoomytoe Posted January 30, 2004 Share Posted January 30, 2004 it is kinda tacky, especially if she does not want to share her month! you and your beau could always get married quietly, then have a larger affair at another time. Link to post Share on other sites
midori Posted January 30, 2004 Share Posted January 30, 2004 It's not bad etiquette. Some brides have got the bizarre idea that their wedding should not only occupy one day or weekend in other people's lives, but an entire season. I suspect it's due to too much fantasizing about a Barbie Dream Wedding. Much as it might pain your sister to realize, her wedding doesn't loom as large in everyone else's life as it does in hers. This link sums it up nicely: http://www.etiquettegrrls.com/pages/qaarch_weddings.html By the way, congratulations! ... although you mention other problems that might mean the wedding won't happen at all.. in which case the old saying, "marry in haste, repent at leisure" might be applicable. Link to post Share on other sites
n/a Posted January 30, 2004 Share Posted January 30, 2004 well, it's two completely different months Link to post Share on other sites
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