GinaC Posted June 15, 2010 Share Posted June 15, 2010 We are separating after 14 years, and have a ten-year-old son and seven-year-old daughter. Things are not amicable. In Florida, the law says mothers and fathers have equal rights to equal visitaion...I am not sure of the precise wording. I have had part-time jobs, currently around the kids' school schedule, while being nagged to get a full-time job by STBX even though we don't really need the money. He has always resented having to work, since when we married, he expected to be "Mr. Mom" because I was a medical resident at the time, and didn't realize that as soon as my kids were born I would not emotionally be able to be away from them in a full-time medical practice. For one year, he was "Mr. Mom", and in my opinion, not a very good one. He doesn't "connect" with them, or really meet their needs other than at a "babysitting" level. He loves them of course...he is just too self-absorbed to be a good parent. There are great dads who put moms to shame as parents. I believe that those dads do deserve the same rights as moms to have more than the traditional "every-other-weekend-and alternate-holidays" thing for visitation. My STBX, though, says he will get 50/50 because it is the law. Period. My friend, the family law attorney, who I have not yet hired, says some judges are partial to moms still. I don't care about the house or anything else. I know the child support is something owed to the kids by both parents, so I don't see that as a financial windfall, and if it was legal (which I don't think it is) I would waive any payment of child support to me (and put it in a college trust or whatever) just to have the majority of custody. What experiences do you have with this? Thanks so much Link to post Share on other sites
pohlcat Posted June 19, 2010 Share Posted June 19, 2010 GinaC I am a man also going through a divorce. My soon to be x is better with the kids than i am, but does that mean that i love them any less. I really am doing the best i can and the kids can tell. I will take care of them 50/50 one is 11 other 17. if he means it he will be ok. Link to post Share on other sites
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