JustJoe Posted June 21, 2010 Share Posted June 21, 2010 AA is alienation of affection, thanks MC, for pointing it out. But if anyone truly knew my situation and the attitude of the BS, they would find it as funny as I did. U2rock is just being trollish. Link to post Share on other sites
Fallen Angel Posted June 21, 2010 Share Posted June 21, 2010 it's not my opinion....it's the fact....if i was him i would have filed AA,defamation,cyber alienation,public vulgarity and many others......you would pay for your life....thank him for not doing that......it's actually not easy to be in your shoes....yet your entire posts are filled with hypocrisy The AA suit I can understand at least (Though they are VERY hard to prove and any judgments rendered usually overturned by higher courts after thousands spent by both parties in legal fees. ), but please explain how Joe could be sued for defamation for having an affair? What in the world is cyber alienation? (Me thinks someone is reaching a bit here...) And public vulgarity?? lmao.. Joe, were you naked and vulgar in public and not share that news?? Link to post Share on other sites
JustJoe Posted June 21, 2010 Share Posted June 21, 2010 Yes FA, I went walking around Dallas with my penis hanging out of my pants, trolling for married women. :laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
Fallen Angel Posted June 21, 2010 Share Posted June 21, 2010 Yes FA, I went walking around Dallas with my penis hanging out of my pants, trolling for married women. :laugh: LMAO.. got pictures??? Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted June 21, 2010 Share Posted June 21, 2010 I think the key word here is 'trolling'. Link to post Share on other sites
JustJoe Posted June 21, 2010 Share Posted June 21, 2010 I mean that's what we OM's do, right? Produce our rigid members, exude our pheromones, and ensnare the innocent, but weak-willed. Entcing married white women , now there's a party!! Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted June 22, 2010 Share Posted June 22, 2010 And here I thought it was we women who conjured up spells and magic love potions to lure otherwise happily M men away from the Ws. As if he had no choice in the matter. And as if he wasn't the one who pursued us diligently for more than a year. Link to post Share on other sites
TinaniT Posted June 22, 2010 Share Posted June 22, 2010 I mean that's what we OM's do, right? Produce our rigid members, exude our pheromones, and ensnare the innocent, but weak-willed. Entcing married white women , now there's a party!! And it was effective. So..... How you doin'? Link to post Share on other sites
TinaniT Posted June 22, 2010 Share Posted June 22, 2010 Alienation of affection? Just a guess. Once upon a time, the BS could sue the AP for money damages for having supposedly stolen the affection of the WS. Don't believe this is still possible in most states, although some may permit it, and others have new theories (like recovering funds spent on the AP by the WS during the A as rightfully belonging in part to the BS). Yup, like 7 states still have it on the books, and it is hard to prove because if another thing can be said to have led to the downfall of the marriage, it's not valid (also pertinent if claiming a change in asset disbursement because an affair, according to lawyer) Link to post Share on other sites
sarkandlauren Posted June 22, 2010 Share Posted June 22, 2010 Simple update: I'm a mess. Emotional affair has been going on for 6 months. during this period, i've only seen him twice, we live far away. The last time we saw each other, the emotional affair became sorta physical. What hurts me is that my gut feeling is that i'm in this for emotional, and he's in it for pure physical. This whole thing is carefully planned, it is not a spur of the moment thing. We know we will see each other at this meeting. We've planned what we were going to do every nights months in advance. It is not like one of us got drunk and lost control. None of that. It awas all planned out. He asked me if I'll act all weird if we sleep together, (we work together, same company but different cities), i said no. The next day he texted me from the airport to see if we're in the same terminal, sadly no. Then he didn't contact me at all the day after. Day after that, he send me some pictures over email, just some random stuff, we said good night. We talked on the phone the next day as if nothing had happened. I don't know what to make of this.... Link to post Share on other sites
JustJoe Posted June 22, 2010 Share Posted June 22, 2010 If You're married, run away as fast as you can!! Believe me, you won't regret it. Link to post Share on other sites
Just a stone's throw Posted June 22, 2010 Share Posted June 22, 2010 Sarkandlauren - I feel for you. I've been there, frankly still am there sort of. But trying to keep any emotions out of it. Read dadoftwogirl's quote a page or so back. He's in it for the $ex. Not the emotion. As soon as you show the emotion, he'll be gone. The lack of contact after and the random emails/pictures, he's just feeling you out to see if you're okay, as he asked you if you would be and you said yes. If you're okay, and want to continue this then you'll need to find a way to justify it in your mind but if you think that getting in deeper with him is going to make him "want you more" so he becomes "emotionally attached" to you, I'm sorry but he is likely not wired that way. You are his outlet, his $ex fantasy (whether you've completed the deal or not, that's what you are to him). Again, I say this as I am living it but with my eyes open. It's yours to decide, are you in on his terms or do you need to get out? What's happening with either of your marriages? If I recall was he married or had a long term relationship or was that you? Sorry for being fuzzy on your situation. Anyway, don't hang out there a lone. If you need to talk this out, start a thread or resurrect your previous one and we'll chat more. You have friends here, remember? Hugs! JAST Simple update: I'm a mess. Emotional affair has been going on for 6 months. during this period, i've only seen him twice, we live far away. The last time we saw each other, the emotional affair became sorta physical. What hurts me is that my gut feeling is that i'm in this for emotional, and he's in it for pure physical. This whole thing is carefully planned, it is not a spur of the moment thing. We know we will see each other at this meeting. We've planned what we were going to do every nights months in advance. It is not like one of us got drunk and lost control. None of that. It awas all planned out. He asked me if I'll act all weird if we sleep together, (we work together, same company but different cities), i said no. The next day he texted me from the airport to see if we're in the same terminal, sadly no. Then he didn't contact me at all the day after. Day after that, he send me some pictures over email, just some random stuff, we said good night. We talked on the phone the next day as if nothing had happened. I don't know what to make of this.... Link to post Share on other sites
sarkandlauren Posted June 22, 2010 Share Posted June 22, 2010 Sarkandlauren - I feel for you. I've been there, frankly still am there sort of. But trying to keep any emotions out of it. Read dadoftwogirl's quote a page or so back. He's in it for the $ex. Not the emotion. As soon as you show the emotion, he'll be gone. The lack of contact after and the random emails/pictures, he's just feeling you out to see if you're okay, as he asked you if you would be and you said yes. If you're okay, and want to continue this then you'll need to find a way to justify it in your mind but if you think that getting in deeper with him is going to make him "want you more" so he becomes "emotionally attached" to you, I'm sorry but he is likely not wired that way. You are his outlet, his $ex fantasy (whether you've completed the deal or not, that's what you are to him). Again, I say this as I am living it but with my eyes open. It's yours to decide, are you in on his terms or do you need to get out? What's happening with either of your marriages? If I recall was he married or had a long term relationship or was that you? Sorry for being fuzzy on your situation. Anyway, don't hang out there a lone. If you need to talk this out, start a thread or resurrect your previous one and we'll chat more. You have friends here, remember? Hugs! JAST JAST, thanks for replying. It is very difficult since its not a situation I'm remotely proud of, I have no one to talk to. Both of us are involved in long term relationship. I need to clarify, there was one day of no contact because normally we do not talk on weekends. So it's not out of the norm. I know I'm trying to paint this story a bit more colorful and beautiful so it's not so hurtful to my feelings. I do feel like it if indeed he's in it for the physical only, it is really a lot of energy to put in just for the little bit 2-3 times a year, like i said, we live very far away and we really only see each other 2-3 times a year. I think I have shown emotion to him before, i mean, it does not need to be said out loud, but I'm sure he can feel it. I need to be connected to him everyday, minus the weekends. I don't have any intention to be together with him a long run. I do love having him to talk to like a really good friend, but I do like the little bit of love he shows me. I can live without the physical part, actually, i would prefer it (although, i really love his hug, holding me really tight, etc, all are very sweet ). I am reluctant to start a thread because i really don't need to be judged, fully understand that all the pain is brought onto by myself. But I do appreciate you replying, it's very difficult when I can not talk to anyone, not even my closest friend because this is just so wrong on so many levels. Link to post Share on other sites
Just a stone's throw Posted June 23, 2010 Share Posted June 23, 2010 Unfortunately, you are early on and don't likely have PM capabilities. When you do, feel free to PM me and I'll chat with you. No judging, no bashing. But I think you should try to post because there are others here who also will want to support you. You're not alone and please don't feel that you need suffer in silence. Hugs!! JAST JAST, thanks for replying. It is very difficult since its not a situation I'm remotely proud of, I have no one to talk to. Both of us are involved in long term relationship. I need to clarify, there was one day of no contact because normally we do not talk on weekends. So it's not out of the norm. I know I'm trying to paint this story a bit more colorful and beautiful so it's not so hurtful to my feelings. I do feel like it if indeed he's in it for the physical only, it is really a lot of energy to put in just for the little bit 2-3 times a year, like i said, we live very far away and we really only see each other 2-3 times a year. I think I have shown emotion to him before, i mean, it does not need to be said out loud, but I'm sure he can feel it. I need to be connected to him everyday, minus the weekends. I don't have any intention to be together with him a long run. I do love having him to talk to like a really good friend, but I do like the little bit of love he shows me. I can live without the physical part, actually, i would prefer it (although, i really love his hug, holding me really tight, etc, all are very sweet ). I am reluctant to start a thread because i really don't need to be judged, fully understand that all the pain is brought onto by myself. But I do appreciate you replying, it's very difficult when I can not talk to anyone, not even my closest friend because this is just so wrong on so many levels. Link to post Share on other sites
Tsm Posted June 23, 2010 Share Posted June 23, 2010 I just found that MM was attending a function with his W yesterday, when we just broke up about a month ago. I could have gone to the function but decided not to, he knows that i could have gone. I dont know maybe he wanted to show me that he's working on it Link to post Share on other sites
U2RockZz Posted June 23, 2010 Share Posted June 23, 2010 The AA suit I can understand at least (Though they are VERY hard to prove and any judgments rendered usually overturned by higher courts after thousands spent by both parties in legal fees. ), but please explain how Joe could be sued for defamation for having an affair? What in the world is cyber alienation? (Me thinks someone is reaching a bit here...) And public vulgarity?? lmao.. Joe, were you naked and vulgar in public and not share that news?? i think you are still living in a 18th century......let me say how he can press the charges....now Mr.joe written lengths of his escapades with this woman...each and every account is linked with a email id(i hope he is using isolated one) and IP address..... if he(H) can prove that id and IP belongs to mr .joe(which he can) ....he can submit all his threads as transcripts....yet he may not win anything...it will definitely spoil the fun...all this will take 2 mins of time and energy.... i do not have the time to troll over the net...believe what you can...anyways that explains what kind of bubble you live in....now LYAO (joe, don't be offended for using that as a scenario)... Link to post Share on other sites
JustJoe Posted June 23, 2010 Share Posted June 23, 2010 Not offended at all,U2. But would like to remind you that there IS a real world out there. Perhaps you need to spend more time in it. Link to post Share on other sites
Fallen Angel Posted June 23, 2010 Share Posted June 23, 2010 Not offended at all,U2. But would like to remind you that there IS a real world out there. Perhaps you need to spend more time in it. I agree that perhaps making up legal statutes is something that happens out-side of my bubble. LMAO.. If that is what people do in the real world though, I prefer my bubble. Where I deal with REAL issues and REAL legal problems if they arise rather than making stuff up to try and harrass some stranger on a message board. lmao.. (Hey Joe, I will share my bubble with you, it is where all the sane people like to hang out.. !) Link to post Share on other sites
jj33 Posted June 23, 2010 Share Posted June 23, 2010 TSM shes his W. You have to expect her to be at EVERY function from now on. I know its difficult but that is how it is. And you just have to avoid them or have minimal contact when you do see them together because its inevitable that you will. Link to post Share on other sites
U2RockZz Posted June 23, 2010 Share Posted June 23, 2010 (edited) I agree that perhaps making up legal statutes is something that happens out-side of my bubble. LMAO.. If that is what people do in the real world though, I prefer my bubble. Where I deal with REAL issues and REAL legal problems if they arise rather than making stuff up to try and harrass some stranger on a message board. lmao.. (Hey Joe, I will share my bubble with you, it is where all the sane people like to hang out.. !) whether you like it or not, that is how real world works..... Edited June 24, 2010 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
JustJoe Posted June 24, 2010 Share Posted June 24, 2010 Most of what U2 says about all of this "legal", action the BS can take. is extremely difficult to prove, without an admission of guilt. In all of this, it would be his word, against mine AND his ex,my GF's. The possibilities are very, very, remote. U2 probably read about this somewhere and thought it would be a real good, trollish thing to bring up. Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted June 24, 2010 Share Posted June 24, 2010 OK, back to updates. I told MM today that I just can't be here if he goes on that cruise. Just thought I'd let you know since I keep getting PMs. He acts like he didn't see it coming but he knows it was. I'm sure he will be fine as he's always had his backup plan. I know I will be fine--I am my own backup plan. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted June 24, 2010 Share Posted June 24, 2010 OK, back to updates. I told MM today that I just can't be here if he goes on that cruise. Just thought I'd let you know since I keep getting PMs. He acts like he didn't see it coming but he knows it was. I'm sure he will be fine as he's always had his backup plan. I know I will be fine--I am my own backup plan. wow - good for you WF! this is a strong approach and a very healthy boundary for you. i like your back up plan too! hehe proud of your strength and growth. Link to post Share on other sites
JustJoe Posted June 24, 2010 Share Posted June 24, 2010 FA, I would be delighted to share your bubble. A sane place to be is very rare.:D Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted June 24, 2010 Share Posted June 24, 2010 wow - good for you WF! this is a strong approach and a very healthy boundary for you. i like your back up plan too! hehe proud of your strength and growth. Who wouldn't love my backup plan--it's ME!! Thanks 2sunny:) Link to post Share on other sites
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