Leia Posted June 15, 2010 Share Posted June 15, 2010 Talked to a friend a few days back about relationships and she came up with these 5 points/rules: LoveTrustRespectCommitmentAcknowledgment Not in that particular order. Myself, I believe that trust comes first before love. As how would I love someone without trusting him? Then comes love and everything else. Is it the same for all of you? My previous relationship has opened my eyes in ways they haven't before and I have come to realize that I am ready to love again BUT I am taking my time cos the last thing I want is to waste on someone that isn't good for me. Are those points above the core points in a relationship or do you have more to add? I would like to hear your opinion on this matter. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted June 15, 2010 Share Posted June 15, 2010 for me, respect is the foundation of any relationship, and from there, other stuff grows. When you respect someone, you strive to be honest, etc ... tomorrow, we'll have been married 18 years and I can definitely say that it's the one single thing that's kept us together for so long. Love is good, but it's not a very useful tool if you don't have a mutual respect for your partner. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leia Posted June 15, 2010 Author Share Posted June 15, 2010 Whoa. 18 years? Happy anniversary! Yea, that makes sense. I had all of that in the previous relationship but for him, I don't think he had any of those for me. Not as much as I did, which is sad. But I'm not going to let that stop me from moving on Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted June 15, 2010 Share Posted June 15, 2010 thanks, kiddo! LOL, or, as I like to tell people, "I ain't killt him yet!!!" relationships are tricky beasts at their best, but when there's no reciprocal respect, it makes it that much harder. The good news is, there are guys out there who feel the same way, and place the same emphasis on the that quality, so don't give up! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leia Posted June 16, 2010 Author Share Posted June 16, 2010 thanks, kiddo! LOL, or, as I like to tell people, "I ain't killt him yet!!!" relationships are tricky beasts at their best, but when there's no reciprocal respect, it makes it that much harder. The good news is, there are guys out there who feel the same way, and place the same emphasis on the that quality, so don't give up! I hear you on that! I'm not giving up But I am taking my time before the next one! Link to post Share on other sites
Nikki Sahagin Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 I'm not sure in my mind that one comes before the other. I'm trying to think. First step for me is always lust/infatuation/obsession/friendship which all can develop without any sense of trust (bar friendship), but which for me definately fade without a sense of respect. If a man I like gives signs he is dissrespectful to me or to women, I find my interest dying and I get revengeful. I suppose once you feel you can trust someone, and that they respect you, it makes the other feelings, lust, admiration etc, free to develop into love. Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 Leia, add in strong two-way communication and the ability and desire to resolve issues. Also, a reasonable level of unselfishness (no martyrs plse!). Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leia Posted July 11, 2010 Author Share Posted July 11, 2010 I forgot about this thread! Yes, that is important tbf. Strong communication. I have yet to get that but I know I will one sweet day! Link to post Share on other sites
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