A tale of 3 singles groups

[Disillusioned]

If you search a certain site I won't name here for singles, you'll get at least a dozen IRL groups in this area to join and hang out with. So far so good.

 

There are 3 in particular, I'll call them group A, B, and C. Group A is run by Jean (not her real name), and she says she'd like to have more members join up, but at all of her meetings I've been to, the group has a kind of hit-or-miss atmosphere about it, like a bunch of kids fresh out of college who are trying different things to figure out what works.

 

Group B is run by Jane (also not her real name), but even though her members are clamoring for another meeting, when I asked her about it, she just sounded sorry that she ever started the group. She even told me I need to work on myself before I think of trying to get into a relationship (I've been working on myself for the past 25 years!). Incidentally, Jane was the same woman who nailed down all the hunches I had about being ready for a relationship. Well, she's also a full-time divorce recovery counselor, which explains why she's too busy to run her group... AND, I put 2 and 2 together, and figured out that she probably tried to morph her group into a professional matchmaking clientele, and failed. That is a shame, because the people in Jane's group have all had their hearts broken and they're looking for the right person to help them rebuild trust.

 

So, I mentioned this to Jean, who looks forward to taking in what's left of Jane's group B and merging it to form a new, bigger group. Here's where my buddy John (again, not his real name) and I get involved in brokering the transition: Jean isn't sure what makes relationship-minded people tick, but she's a good host and is excited about the idea of morphing her casual-daters group into one which will eventually be able to boast a few happy marriages between its members. John has never hosted a group, but he has been through the divorce wringer and knows what WON'T work for serious singles who know what they want, therefore he says he's willing to coach Jean too. In all, I hope I'm doing something that will help both A and B group's members, and not end up with a Frankenstein monster.

 

So, where does group C fit into this? IMO group C represents what groups A and B should NOT want to become. Most of group C's members are women in their 50s and 60s who have partied and played games for so long that they'll probably find the habit impossible to kick, yet they still act like teenagers when they try to bag a man for themselves. Pretty pitiful.

 

So... do you think I'm doing the right thing by trying to help Jean take in a group which Jane is sick of dealing with?