MorningCoffee Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 Wondering what you all (women particularly) might have to say about this: (a) Common wisdom has it that once a woman puts him in the friendzone, the guy will almost never make it out, so best to move on. (b) Yet there are also stories of longtime friends gradually or suddenly realizing they are a good match and becoming romantically involved. So, does anyone care to post any experiences that shed light on when (b) rather than (a) occurred? and why? Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 IMO, if a man is in the friendzone when a woman is single, he's likely there for good. If the woman is married or in a LTR, OTOH, if the man remains *friendly* but not *invested*, like the 'edge' of being a friend vs being an acquaintance, he's not as likely to generate those irretrievable 'brother' feelings in the woman. It's possible that she might later find him attractive, something she could never feel for a 'brother'. The way to do this (friendly but distant) is, for a man, to always deal with her like a woman, not like a buddy, and actively meet, greet and date other women and share those experiences with her, but in a circumspect way, omitting details, like one would in polite company. Of course, mutual love, care and shared interests are a must. If the only shared interest is that regarding the dynamic of the friendship/attraction, then call it what it is. Attraction, ostensibly by one party. It's not a healthy interpersonal interaction, IMO. Hope that helps Link to post Share on other sites
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