Do White Men Find Black Women Attractive

[Major]

I am an attractive black woman (others have complimented, not said in arrogance:) and I am dating after getting divorced a few years ago. I was married for 15 years so dating is extremely new for me. Also, I didn't date a lot before I was married, so dating is really new. I have found that race really isn't a concern. I am currently dating a white male and I have never dated outside my race before. As I am starting to date, there are black men that I have had things in common with, and others that I did not. Being that this is the first time I have encountered a romantic interest in a white man, it really isn't as mystical as it seems. He's a man and I really enjoy his company and as we get to know each other, the chemistry grows. I think it's just different, but I agree with other bloggers, it's not the color, it's the chemistry between a man and woman. Also, I have found that men in the military have a broader and more appreciative perspective of all women because they have traveled to different cultures as opposed to being shaped by one geographic location all their lives. Hope this helps. If your heart is open to people in general, I think we all find common ground. Just as we do with friends or colleagues at work. I think it's more fear than anything. It's all the same really.

[ADF]

Some do, but many do not.

 

Someone did a study recently of people's on-line dating behavior (sorry, couldn't find the link) and found several striking trends. Among them:

 

1) White men were FAR more likely than anyone else to reject black women.

 

2) White women were FAR more likely than anyone else to reject Asian men.

 

When the study authors asked some of the white men why they rejected black women, they said things like black women were "too loud," "too pushy" ot "too in-your-face."

 

Mind you, these men had never met any of the women they rejected. Stereotypes are alive and well.

[alphamale]

well i'm a brown man so i don't know if i should reply

[Toki]

I find most races have some pretty great examples of female beauty. As a white male, Ive dated a few black women, and found it's pretty much the same throughout.

[TheLoneSock]

Sometimes. I've only ever dated (briefly) one black woman, and she was one of the most beautiful women I've ever been with, had an amazing body too. Honestly that's probably why I made an exception for her. Might sound shallow but I am being truthful.

 

Edit: Not sure if it matters, but also keep in mind I am in my early twenties. Generation may influence it some.

Edited June 17, 2010 by TheLoneSock

[tigressA]

I didn't start dating until I entered college almost 5 years ago, and I've never had a problem attracting white men. Then again, I'm half-white and have been constantly assumed to be almost anything other than black. I've been told that I'm pretty racially ambiguous in terms of not only appearance, but behavior as well--guys have said I don't "fit the stereotype". That's a huge turn-off to me, and a total dealbreaker now. What, do you expect me to be grateful when you say things like that?

[stellaluna]

No way, never.

"Pasty-white and oh so right."

[Shakz]

I've only dated two black women in my life. The first one was just a single date, as it was obvious she was just trying to use me to make her boyfriend jealous. She insisted we go to a certain club, and then here's this guy I didn't even know existed right in my face almost as soon as we walked in. The other one we went out a few times and had fun, but she seemed suspicious of almost anything I said. Anytime I'd ask her anything remotely personal she'd say, "Why are you all up in my business." Apparently she wanted to keep it superficial, but she didn't have to treat me like an IRS agent.

[stillafool]

I didn't start dating until I entered college almost 5 years ago, and I've never had a problem attracting white men. Then again, I'm half-white and have been constantly assumed to be almost anything other than black. I've been told that I'm pretty racially ambiguous in terms of not only appearance, but behavior as well--guys have said I don't "fit the stereotype". That's a huge turn-off to me, and a total dealbreaker now. What, do you expect me to be grateful when you say things like that?

 

Wow Tigress you don't look biracial. You just look like a very pretty black girl.

[JustJoe]

I think that any man who is NOT attracted to black women is probably gay. I personally would fight a running chainsaw to have Thandie Newton. I would ditto, for Tigress. She is an angel.

[Shakz]

I think that any man who is NOT attracted to black women is probably gay. I personally would fight a running chainsaw to have Thandie Newton. I would ditto, for Tigress. She is an angel.

 

Oh, no doubt.

[JustJoe]

Rosario Dawson, I rest my case.

[JustJoe]

There are too many Beautiful black women to name.

[Shakz]

There are too many Beautiful black women to name.

 

Yes, millions of them. The most beautiful woman I ever met in my life was an athlete from Ghana. Her skin was so dark that it glistened even in ambient light. Her smile exploded across a room, and her heavy lidded sultry eyes could tell a story without a word. She was so humble and polite you felt like a Philistine in her presence. She moved with the grace of a panther. What a woman!

[Feelin Frisky]

I have no clue what other white men think or prefer. All I know is that this white man sees beauty before color and has had loving and mutually respectful relationships with black women. I would marry the right one at this stage of my life if she came along.

[Disillusioned]

I do... though some other guys might think I'm strange for being attracted to black, white, and Indian women, but not to Hispanic, Asian, Mideastern, or Native American women.

[Feelin Frisky]

I do... though some other guys might think I'm strange for being attracted to black, white, and Indian women, but not to Hispanic, Asian, Mideastern, or Native American women.

You too? That's a coinkydink.

[tigressA]

Yes, millions of them. The most beautiful woman I ever met in my life was an athlete from Ghana. Her skin was so dark that it glistened even in ambient light. Her smile exploded across a room, and her heavy lidded sultry eyes could tell a story without a word. She was so humble and polite you felt like a Philistine in her presence. She moved with the grace of a panther. What a woman!

 

Wow, that's a really poetic description. I'd probably date that girl just from what you said here, haha.

 

Thanks JustJoe, I never fail to blush when reading another one of your compliments But if I may--Thandie Newton and Rosario Dawson aren't just black--they're of mixed racial/ethnic origin. I don't know if either of them refer to themselves as black or otherwise, but IME most men, and this goes for all races, not just white men, tend to list biracial/black women as the most attractive ideal within the race. Lighter skin, more European features, sometimes lighter hair/eyes and silkier hair texture.

[JustJoe]

That may be true for some men, TA, and you may have a point, because it seems that most Biracial/ Black actresses are chosen because they have some Caucasian features. But I've always found that the darker the better. It seems that darker skin is softer, like velvet.. I dated a girl from Mississippi, who had very dark skin, full lips and a natural, and I was bat-**** crazy about her. She would look into my eyes, and I knew her soul. BTW, I do have a LS crush on you, I hope you don't mind. LOL

[tigressA]

Yeah, I was mostly talking in general terms, and from experience. If ever I overheard a guy or two talking about black women they found attractive it was always Halle Berry or Alicia Keys or Beyonce, and the first two are known to be biracial, with white mothers. Never Gabrielle Union, Vivica A. Fox, Angela Bassett, Nia Long...never (throwing some models in here) Alek Wek, Oluchi Onweagba, etc etc. Darker skin and more African features tend to be devalued in our society and it's a shame because they're beautiful. ALL women are beautiful.

 

I have an LS crush on you too and I don't even know what you look like!

[JustJoe]

My Gf from Miss. had the same look as Iman or Sade. Very tall and willowy, but with a tight natural, and those wonderful Somali/Ethiopean slanted Eyes. Momma-Mia!!

[Billzebub]

I never have, but wouldn't be against the idea. My family would probably give me **** for it, but I wouldn't care. Only thing is, it's hard to find black women who aren't religious. I don;t think we'd have much in common.

[Engadget]

There are plenty of attractive black women, however the problem comes in with the personality. The stereotypical and all too present "ghetto" attitude and manner of speaking is a huge, huge turn off.

[Toki]

Yes, I agree with ghetto thing being a turn-off, however that's only fraction of black people, the first girl I dated was from the suburbs and was essentially considered a "half breed" by those living in the city, but she wasn't looking for approval by gangbangers, or people who had resigned themselves to stereotypes. The other black girl I dated was from London, and was anything but stereotypical in the American sense, she took it as a slight that she was often dumped by other people into the racist meatgrinder. Plus she had the sexiest accent

[Engadget]

Yes, I agree with ghetto thing being a turn-off, however that's only fraction of black people, the first girl I dated was from the suburbs and was essentially considered a "half breed" by those living in the city, but she wasn't looking for approval by gangbangers, or people who had resigned themselves to stereotypes. The other black girl I dated was from London, and was anything but stereotypical in the American sense, she took it as a slight that she was often dumped by other people into the racist meatgrinder. Plus she had the sexiest accent

 

I knew a girl from the Ivory Coast, and god damn was she sexy. I swear her body was molded more perfectly than any woman I've ever seen, with a perfect hourglass figure and large, supple breasts and ass.

 

Sexy accent too, but unfortunately I don't think she was into white guys so it never worked out.

 

The ghetto thing goes for all races, anyone who subscribes to that culture suffers from it.