Is it weird to never talk on the phone?

[Bogo123]

I hate talking on the phone, would much rather talk to them in person. I only text funny messages and to set up dates. Only time I call them is when we are trying to meet up on the day of the date. So before getting into an exclusive relationship, is it really necessary to talk on the phone? My last girlfriend we didn't talk on the phone for three months, but had plenty of text conversations and dates. Only when we became official did we slowly start calling each other but just for brief "how was your day" type convos. So how important is it?

[sigurpol]

I'm a talker, so I enjoy phone conversations. Or, routine ones, I guess? Like if I get off work late at night, I enjoy calling whoever I'm dating on my way home. I look forward to things like that.

 

Texts are fine, like to check in about things, or for cute/funny messages. And yea, like you said, before being exclusive, I feel they can play a role.

 

Then again, my longest relationship was a LDR one.. so phone calls was all I had. And I'm used to that.

[MyNameIsJane]

I guess I might be reading this too literally... Are you actually NEVER talking on the phone? Or just never chit-chatting on the phone?

 

I am not a huge phone talker - only if I have been away from the guy for a bit... other than that, I have no reason to constantly talk on the phone. My bf is a TALKER... we see eachother EVERYDAY and yet he still calls me once or twice on the way home from work and it drives me crazy...

 

But yes, it is weird if you NEVER talk on the phone for three months. I am not saying have a 20 minute convo about your feelings and your day... but maybe calling once a week and talking for 5 minutes... hey, how are you... wanna get together tomorrow for a movie?... nothing wrong with that.

[lab_brat]

I'm not a phone talker, its always awkward because i run out of stuff to say after about 90 seconds. I think it depends on the people, and if its normal for you two then its fine. My best friend will happily call up and talk for an hour straight, and all i have to add is the occasional 'yup', 'uh huh' etc, and i like that, because im not really expected to contribute.

[Mimolicious]

With the tech revolution and all the texting, emailing, AIM, etc... I feel like people don't even want to MEET anymore, let alone talk on the phone. LOL!

 

IMO- I rather establish a phone interaction before really investing time into someone. I don't have much time to meet often (unless I'm really feeling the person and want to see them as often as I can!) so to get a feel if we kinda click or not, to get on the phone is a must for me.

 

Texting, typing and all that can be edited, backspace, deleted, etc... Nothing like an actual voice interaction.

 

I dated someone that wanted to text all day, when we would get together he was BORING! He was like a wall. NEXT!!!!

[bac]

if you are looking for a serious LTR relationship, it is very important for a girl. It reflects an emotional/intellectual connection.

[make me believe]

I'm not a phone talker, its always awkward because i run out of stuff to say after about 90 seconds.

 

Haha! Me too. I really dislike talking on the phone. My boyfriend isn't much of a phone person either, but we don't see each other much during the week because of his work schedule, so we end up talking on the phone a bit on the days we don't see each other. Other than that, though, I like to text or speak face-to-face.

 

To the OP, it depends on the other person. Some people will take a lack of phone conversation as an indication that you're not interested in them. I'd just explain up front that you're not much of a phone person so that they don't take it personally.

[iheartlavalamps]

We never talk on the phone really.

 

We work opposing shifts sometimes, and so we might send each other a text to say good morning or good night, or i love you. Aside from that, we might go 3 or 4 days and not hear from each other.

 

With any other relationship, I'd have been on edge. But with this one, I've realized that it's fine, it's just a matter of making sure the other person knows that it's not them.

[ecto-1]

I hate talking on the phone, would much rather talk to them in person. I only text funny messages and to set up dates. Only time I call them is when we are trying to meet up on the day of the date. So before getting into an exclusive relationship, is it really necessary to talk on the phone? My last girlfriend we didn't talk on the phone for three months, but had plenty of text conversations and dates. Only when we became official did we slowly start calling each other but just for brief "how was your day" type convos. So how important is it?

 

Interesting, the woman I'm "Seeing", whom I'm chatting with on line , when I would be starting to chat with her online, I'd ask, "Hey, want to continue this on the phone?" I already have her #, but she says, "nah, I prefer to either text or chat"

 

I don't have texting on MY phone, I have no real need for it, since I don't text people much anyhow.

 

Seems TEXTING has replaced the phone conversation altogether.

[Versa]

I think it's fine not to call specially if you perfer texting. I really hate calling people, rather text. If I call someone then I would just be saying what I need to say and then that's it, but if I was texting I can make the conversation into a whole different level. Me and my ex would be texting all day from morning to 2 o'clock at night but if I call her then I would be done talking in like 5 minutes. But I guess it depends on people, some people can talk on the phone for hours and hours but I can't so I rather text.