m&m Posted July 13, 2000 Share Posted July 13, 2000 u just keep sayin to set limits n be strong n stuff like dat. u forget any loves gotta have its ups n downs. u forget dat sometimes loves gotta forgive n forget n things work out. i just wanna say i lost my gf cuz people like u and that im not abad guy. stop playin in the guyz mindz til y get u own balls. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted July 13, 2000 Share Posted July 13, 2000 You would have nicer (and classier) girlfriends if you used nicer grammar and spelling. Don't blame Taressa or anybody else for your problems. You create them yourself. You will be a full fledged, officially certified grown up when you learn to take responsiblity for what happens in your life. If a post here causes your relationship to end, it was an extremely sorry relationship to begin with. If your girlfriend read a post by Taressa and gave you your walking papers, she had it in her mind to do that anyway. If Taressa's annonymous and distant words had the power to tear the two of you apart, you were both dangling at the edge of a cliff by a thread. Get your act together and take the wrap here. If you had been decent to your girlfriend, she would be with you now. Yes, love does have its ups and downs. But if a girl is with you and the downs are 95 percent of the time, she is going to be GONE. Learn from this situation, take some responsiblity, work on yourself, become a better person and get with the program. Those who do not learn from their mistakes are bound to repeat them. Also, the language you used in your last line to Taressa is vulgar and uncalled for. If you talked to your lady like that, I don't blame her for leaving you. Until you clean up your act, you'll be a very lonely man. Link to post Share on other sites
Taressa Posted July 13, 2000 Share Posted July 13, 2000 If you took time to read my previous posts you might see the theme is trying to save relationships that have become abuseful or neglectful in some way. The limits I suggest are the same as placing a fence around your valuables. In this case, the valuable is most often someone's values, emotions, and self-esteem. I'm truly sorry you were hurt through a lost relationship. If you quit looking outside yourself to place blame, however, you may find habits or attitudes that led to the breakup. My bet is that if your lady loved you and was receiving unselfish, supportive love from you there is no one (especially me, au unknown post-er on an internet forum) who could have convinced her to leave you. As to men's balls and minds, I want to assure you I acknowledge them for the complex, unique things they are. Thanks for the reminder that there are two sides to each story although the post gives only one. For now, I remain steadfast, believing that most relationships are proven or saved by placing limits on the treatment you allow to come your way. u just keep sayin to set limits n be strong n stuff like dat. u forget any loves gotta have its ups n downs. u forget dat sometimes loves gotta forgive n forget n things work out. i just wanna say i lost my gf cuz people like u and that im not abad guy. stop playin in the guyz mindz til y get u own balls. Link to post Share on other sites
Taressa Posted July 13, 2000 Share Posted July 13, 2000 As always, well-stated Tony. You're a class act. On a better note I thought I would send a personal update: Four weeks ago you gave some good advice in response to a question on a love that turned out not to be mutual. I backed off that relationship and, although a little lonelier for it, feel good to have put a false hope to rest. Last night I had a phone call from a friend recently returned from missions work in Indonesia. We first met 3 years ago through our parents who have been friends for 20+ years. The first meeting I was so impressed with him that I asked God to make him my husband someday. Tonight I'm having dinner with him (Greg) and his sister. It would be wonderful if something became of it but I've learned to be careful in choosing where to place my hope... I hope to have a good evening and get to know more about this interesting man. How nice to get the chance to be with someone like him. Thanks again, Tony, for your original advice and for your post in response to m&m. Hoping someday to return the favor, Taressa You would have nicer (and classier) girlfriends if you used nicer grammar and spelling. Don't blame Taressa or anybody else for your problems. You create them yourself. You will be a full fledged, officially certified grown up when you learn to take responsiblity for what happens in your life. If a post here causes your relationship to end, it was an extremely sorry relationship to begin with. If your girlfriend read a post by Taressa and gave you your walking papers, she had it in her mind to do that anyway. If Taressa's annonymous and distant words had the power to tear the two of you apart, you were both dangling at the edge of a cliff by a thread. Get your act together and take the wrap here. If you had been decent to your girlfriend, she would be with you now. Yes, love does have its ups and downs. But if a girl is with you and the downs are 95 percent of the time, she is going to be GONE. Learn from this situation, take some responsiblity, work on yourself, become a better person and get with the program. Those who do not learn from their mistakes are bound to repeat them. Also, the language you used in your last line to Taressa is vulgar and uncalled for. If you talked to your lady like that, I don't blame her for leaving you. Until you clean up your act, you'll be a very lonely man. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted July 14, 2000 Share Posted July 14, 2000 . The first meeting I was so impressed with him that I asked God to make him my husband someday. I THINK I SPEAK FOR MOST REGULAR VISITORS TO THE FORUM THAT WE LOOK FORWARD TO INVITATIONS TO THE WEDDING!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Taressa Posted July 14, 2000 Share Posted July 14, 2000 In dreams he would be mine. Facing reality, however, he is a beautiful stallion not ready to tame. I tell you I am fascinated with the wonderful, full life he is leading. His laugh and his life are contagious; he inspires me to live larger and better. If ever his favor and heart fall on me I will consider it the greatest gift from God. It is a pleasure knowing him and a pleasure talking with you, Taressa (Signing off for the weekend) Link to post Share on other sites
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