holls76 Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 I moved in with my boyfriend of a year and his brother. After a few months of being there, the arguments started and it was nearly impossible to be around each other. My boyfriend works nights so it left me and his brother alone all night long. We ended up having deep conversations and becoming really good friends. I was always attracted to him but it intesified once I really got to know him. I kept everything to myself until one night we were sitting outside and I caught him staring at me. I asked him what was was wrong and he said that I tempting him to misbehave in a manner that no one would understand or accept. Before I could say anything, he kissed me. Kissing led to other things pretty quickly and it ended up being the most passionate, romantic, amazing night I've ever had. Ever since that night, I've been sleeping in his bed besides on the weekends when my boyfriend is home. I find myself looking forward to snuggling up with him every night and talking for hours. I still feel connected to my boyfriend yet I'm emotionally attached to his brother. I still feel hope that my boyfriend and I can work it out yet I know after what I've done, that could never be possible and I'm not sure if I could let go of his brother completely. His family and mine both would never accept us a couple and if they did, it would always be awkward and uncomfortable. My friends support me no matter what but because of this, I don't get much feedback from them. I need an outsiders point of view... Link to post Share on other sites
aerogurl87 Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 Wow, this is just low. So you move in with your boyfriend and his brother, then you mess around with his brother behind his back, going so far as to cuddle up with him everynight your boyfriend is at work? And yet you expect your boyfriend to forgive you for this? If you were attracted to his brother the first thing you should've done was told him so. You should've talked to him about it and yes I'm sure he would've been pissed, but I'm sure he would've gotten over it better. But what you and your boyfriend's brother have been doing is pretty freaking low. Like seriously. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 I feel very sorry for the 2 brothers.. or at the very least the one brother who is getting eff'd in this deal and that isn;t the guy your are bangin while your BF is at work. There is no solution to this problem as this will tear them apart and their relationship will forever be marred from this.. What were you thinking ?.. and his brother is just as bad.. banging you knwoing you are his blood's girl.. This is nothing but trouble... the only way out is to just leave them both.. Link to post Share on other sites
White Dove Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 I can't decide which one of you is the biggest betrayer here -- you or your boyfriend's brother. This is unforgivable, sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
Author holls76 Posted June 17, 2010 Author Share Posted June 17, 2010 There's a lot more to the story than just me moving in and having an affair with his brother. I know there's no excuse for doing what I have done but I would like everyone to know that there many issues with my relationship. He had been emotionally attached to someone else and I was being neglected at home. I went weeks without a peck on the cheek and months without even going to bed together. I tried to work thru everything but I gave up and hoped he would come around on his own. Like I said, there's no exucuse for what I've done, but it wasn't as if I was in a deep loving relationship when it happened. Link to post Share on other sites
Cracker Jack Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 ^And even when taking all of those "issues" into consideration, not one ounce of it justifies sleeping with his brother. That's just the lowest of all lows. You work issues out in a relationship--not keep them bottled up and look for comfort in the arms of your boyfriends brother. Why even hang onto the poor guy when your heart is with his brother? This is a very sad story to read. Link to post Share on other sites
White Dove Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 There's a lot more to the story than just me moving in and having an affair with his brother. I know there's no excuse for doing what I have done but I would like everyone to know that there many issues with my relationship. He had been emotionally attached to someone else and I was being neglected at home. I went weeks without a peck on the cheek and months without even going to bed together. I tried to work thru everything but I gave up and hoped he would come around on his own. Like I said, there's no exucuse for what I've done, but it wasn't as if I was in a deep loving relationship when it happened. Two wrongs don't make it right. When you gave up, you should have just left him instead of letting it be. You may not have been in a 'deep loving relationship' then but it still does not make it right!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author holls76 Posted June 17, 2010 Author Share Posted June 17, 2010 I never said what I did was right and I would never try to justify the siutation because I know it was wrong of the both of us to do what we did. I did try to work things out with him way before I was romantically involved with his brother. Yes, I should have left the second I found out about his infedelity, but I stayed hoping to overcome it. The whole reason for me even coming here was to, first, let it out...get it off my shoulders, and the second was to hear the honest truth. There's a connection here, its not just sex. It was never about seeking affection and attention from someone else because I wasn't getting it from my boyfriend. It was innocent for the longest time, feelings developed, and it happened. Link to post Share on other sites
Cracker Jack Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 Kay. So is there anything you're trying to do specifically at this point? Or are you just going to continue walking on this thin line until you're caught? Link to post Share on other sites
mansquito Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 So what are you looking for? Validation? Sorry, you screwed the pooch on that one. Mature adults break things off when things have reached a point where they feel like they can no longer be faithful. Instead of doing that, you started boning this guy's brother. Do you have a sister? A female cousin? Best friend, maybe? What do you think would happen if your boyfriend started screwing one of them? Do them both a favor: admit to the infidelity, break up with him, and move out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author holls76 Posted June 17, 2010 Author Share Posted June 17, 2010 His brother and I have just stopped everything at the moment. He went on a little vacation to get away so I could think this through. I'm torn on whether or not to tell my boyfriend what has been happening or just leave without mentioning it. He's not going to be surprised if I leave either way, he's pretty much doing his own thing right now anyways. I know what its like to be betrayed and cheated on. My exhusband had an affair with a coworker of his for the last 2 years of our marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 What a crappy brother your boyfriend has. Link to post Share on other sites
Cracker Jack Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 If you know the pain of such a despicable act, then you really should've known better--since you had firsthand experience with the pain. Oh, well. What's done is done, right? I think you should just leave. You guys no longer have a relationship. It's simply gone. Link to post Share on other sites
O'Malley Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 You need to end the relationship with your boyfriend now and move out. Now. No excuses -- it doesn't matter what your boyfriend has done to you, you chose to stay with him. End contact with both of them -- any potential you are imagining with the brother is overlooking the relationship dynamics of the brothers and their family. It doesn't matter if that's fair or not, it's the way things are. As far as telling your boyfriend what has occurred -- I'm inclined to disagree. It would be devastating for your boyfriend to discover how his brother has betrayed him, and it could lead to serious repercussions in their relationship. He's not going to appreciate your honesty, but see it as a way of getting back at him. The best ending to this situation involves you realizing that you are using the brother as a substitute, walking out of their lives entirely and leaving this mess in your past. Link to post Share on other sites
Mimolicious Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 I'm not going to lie, the way you put it sounded very Danielle Steel' ish. Sweetpea- people get murdered for betrayal like this. Ever watched "Snapped"? This is not funny at all and actually sad that 2 brothers will be forever torned apart because of a piece of a$$. Leave your BF, move out and find another BF before you loose the little that you have left. It's true that you "can't help who you fall in love with" but you can control how to act it out. STOP! The both of you! before things turn ultra ugly! Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 congratulations, you are going to be the cause of 2 brother's hating each other. I think you need to break up with your boyfriend and move out. Link to post Share on other sites
make me believe Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 congratulations, you are going to be the cause of 2 brother's hating each other. Hey, it's pretty unfair to pin all of the blame on her. The guy could have decided to, you know, not f*ck his brother's girlfriend. holls, you need to break up with your boyfriend immediately and get away from both of these guys. The brother is absolutely disgusting to start up an affair with his brother's girlfriend in his own house. You guys sleep together every night during the week until your BF gets home? Do neither of you have any bit of a conscience? No matter how neglectful your BF was, the least you could have done is ended the relationship before fcking around with his brother. It is absolutely unforgivable. Look, everybody who is involved in an affair is convinced there is a "connection," and that it "just happened" and all that starry-eyed bullsh*t. The fact of the matter is you are trying to lessen your responsibility in this situation. Nothing "just happens." When the brother told you his feelings & leaned in to kiss you, you could have gotten up and walked into the house. Instead, you chose to have sex with him. And then you chose to continue having sex, cuddling, and getting emotionally involved with him. This is NOT because of some cosmic "connection." I feel so bad for your boyfriend. I can't imagine what it would be like to know my partner and my sibling were fcking under my own roof. Damn. Link to post Share on other sites
U2RockZz Posted June 20, 2010 Share Posted June 20, 2010 wow, what a load of crap....what makes you think that having sex with BF's brother will vanish your issues.....that brother and you really deserve each other.....break up before you two got found out....it will become more dangerous if it comes to the point Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted June 21, 2010 Share Posted June 21, 2010 Hey, it's pretty unfair to pin all of the blame on her. The guy could have decided to, you know, not f*ck his brother's girlfriend. oh believe me, I don't put all the blame on her. but she is the one here telling her story. I think the so-called bf needs to move out, or kick her and his brother out, and disown his brother. Link to post Share on other sites
stace79 Posted June 21, 2010 Share Posted June 21, 2010 Dexter is right once again. Regardless of who is at fault, she needs to end her relationship with her bf, tell him what she/the brother have done, and move out. The brother is a blood relative so it's up to her STBE if he can forgive the brother. But she needs to just get out and start fresh somewhere else, hopefully having learned a good lesson. Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted June 22, 2010 Share Posted June 22, 2010 This girls needs to tell her BF what she and his brother did, end her relationships with both. Then go find a good IC. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted June 22, 2010 Share Posted June 22, 2010 This girls needs to tell her BF what she and his brother did, end her relationships with both. Then go find a good IC. and also she needs to stay away from committed relationships. she obviously isn't fit for them. Link to post Share on other sites
impz Posted June 23, 2010 Share Posted June 23, 2010 and also she needs to stay away from committed relationships. she obviously isn't fit for them. Aye, no point saying who's right and who's wrong. Everyone in this story stated by TS is wrong. TS should just leave, and not have a committed relationship until she knows what it means to be committed to a SINGLE PERSON, and not let her h*** take charge of what she wants. Link to post Share on other sites
Loving_You Posted June 27, 2010 Share Posted June 27, 2010 (edited) Can't help you when I have my problems lol Edited June 27, 2010 by Loving_You Link to post Share on other sites
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