Darkangelism Posted January 31, 2004 Share Posted January 31, 2004 Ok, my friend needs advice(yes it is really my friend and not me, pretending to be my friend,lol) He is 21 and has never had a gf. He complains to me all the time about it and I want to know what to tell him. I have tried to tell him to talk to girls, but he is too shy. He thinks that if he gets muscular girls will be all over him. He isnt that attractive, but not ugly either, he is decently intelligent(cept refuses to visit the shack) Can somebody tell me what to tell him, for meeting girls and how to boost his confidence? Link to post Share on other sites
lquidmetalspine Posted January 31, 2004 Share Posted January 31, 2004 Most guys I know have this problem. Most of the time it's because they were sheltered a little to much in there life, either from girls, or a life that kids should have. Its a common thing. I dont know if this is the cause for your friend, but I think he just needs to get out more. Thats just my advice. I have a freind who is shy about talking to girls, but tells us guys how much he likes them. Maybe he just hasnt had good experiences, or hasnt had any at all. But he was into a teacher and called me for advice on how to talk to her, I told him to just talk to her, you dont have to say anything to rational, just ask her if she would like to take a walk with you, or if she would like to go out sometime. One question though. Has he told you that he wants a girlfreind but is to shy? Maybe then he is comfortable talking with you. Have you thought of maybe trying a relationship with him? And if thats not the case then just tell him to start going out more. meeting more people, even if its just saying hi to someone at the ball game, or something to that nature. You have to start out small and work up. Tell him to be confident, and if theres a girl that he would like to try to ask out, to just do it. Like the above mentioned, ask her if she would like to go out sometime. And most of all tell him that even if they say no, its not because they dont like him, maybe they have someone, or is just not ready for a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Darkangelism Posted January 31, 2004 Author Share Posted January 31, 2004 Originally posted by lquidmetalspine Have you thought of maybe trying a relationship with him? I am a guy, that is not an option. He hasnt said that he is shy, but it isnt hard to see. When he says something like "A girl talked to me today, she asked me what time it was" That isnt a good sign. He prolly has been sheltered too long...He lives at home and his parents won't let him drive more then an hour away from home in HIS car. Link to post Share on other sites
metal_chik Posted January 31, 2004 Share Posted January 31, 2004 Surprise him with a hooker and get that boy laid!!! And gettin laid should boost his confidence, every guy I know's head swells when they get some. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Darkangelism Posted January 31, 2004 Author Share Posted January 31, 2004 Originally posted by metal_chik Surprise him with a hooker and get that boy laid!!! Its against his morals, I already tried, well i told hm, it wasnt a surprise. Link to post Share on other sites
metal_chik Posted January 31, 2004 Share Posted January 31, 2004 Find a decent believable hooker and get her to act like she's interested....although, not sure how he'd feel when she took off to make some more dough Really tho, try to take him to some parties and **** like that...if he has trouble talkin to girls try and help him start a convo, just don't run off and leave him(wouldn't u hate to see ur buddy lookin like Jim in American Pie, and I don't mean the pie scene...lol). Be nice and try to find him a date since he seems to have trouble on his own. Link to post Share on other sites
lquidmetalspine Posted February 1, 2004 Share Posted February 1, 2004 LOL. Im sorry that I mistook you for a woman, it just seemed that way. Most women talk about stuff like that. Dont take me wrong. Anyways, i agree, take him to a party. Do something for lil guy. Link to post Share on other sites
Samson Posted February 1, 2004 Share Posted February 1, 2004 He lives at home and his parents won't let him drive more then an hour away from home in HIS car Well Darkangelism, we cannot choose our relatives, but we can choose our friends. You guys aren't the two characters in "Wayne's World," are you? Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted February 1, 2004 Share Posted February 1, 2004 my advice : "GO MARRY YOUR HAND!" truthfully, getting buff will get you knowhere w/o the right type of personality. it's almost like eating a donut without it's filling (be it raspberry, strawberry, lemon...etc) (fillings metaphors for personalities) anyways lets say if you're an introverted shy guy but buffed, no girl will be attracted to you. #1 you show lack of confidence #2 you show lack of self-esteem #3 you show that you're not a ppl person (anti-social) #3 you have no life when u go out or something with friends...do that friend a favor and invite him w/you does he at least have any female friends for pete sake? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Darkangelism Posted February 1, 2004 Author Share Posted February 1, 2004 I have invited him out, but he lives in upstate and I live in the city, so he can't come down that often, then when he is here he wont talk to girls, even if I do. The friends that I could hook him up with are all taken, so I cant do that. Link to post Share on other sites
rogermoore007 Posted February 2, 2004 Share Posted February 2, 2004 Wow this dude SUCKS!!!! Can you say LOSER???? HAHA this dude needs a life and real fast, what kind of loser doesn't get out and go bang some chicks? No pain no gain.... laters PATS RULE!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Darkangelism Posted February 2, 2004 Author Share Posted February 2, 2004 Originally posted by rogermoore007 Wow this dude SUCKS!!!! Can you say LOSER???? HAHA this dude needs a life and real fast, what kind of loser doesn't get out and go bang some chicks? Dont ever make fun of my friends unless you can back ur s*** up. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted February 2, 2004 Share Posted February 2, 2004 Strangely enough....most people DO end up finding someone in their early 20's. It may take an internet dating site...to break the ice for him. The other thing is....what's with the parents? If he's 21, they really can't tell him how far he can drive in his own car. They may be the reason why he is so low on self-esteem. I'm assuming he is in school and they are paying for it....thus me still has to abide by their rules. If I were him though, I would check on student loans available and get out of there. It's going to be hard for him to develop a social circle while his Mom and Dad are still calling the shots. Is he going to the gym? I don't think it would matter to most women how big his muscles are.....but it may help boost his mood and self esteem if he were to go to a gym. Another great place to meet females! I hope everything works out for him. Post later and let us know how he's doing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Darkangelism Posted February 2, 2004 Author Share Posted February 2, 2004 He does go to the gym. Hopefully It will help his self esteem. Yes his parents control his life, they pay the car insurance, he lives at home, his friends are nerdy, i.e. in the same boat, so they are no help, as for me posting, u needn't worry, i post so much its disgusting. oh and Rogermoore, you may think ur bond, but you ain't got nadda. Link to post Share on other sites
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