jdmonk Posted February 1, 2004 Share Posted February 1, 2004 I need opinions. My girlfriend of 2 years had a guy spend the night while I was out for 3 months on tour. I found out by looking into the phone records that she called a guy whom I have never met once at 730 am. THIS GIRL WOULD NOT WAKE UP FOR ANYTHING before 9am. She has never called anyone at that hour since living with me here. She called the number one time and spoke for 2 minutes. the only other time she called the number was right before she got on a plane to come visit me in the UK. The guy is married and had a kid today in fact with his wife. I confronted him on the phone in a respectfully manner trying to figure out just why she called him. He was a manager at the place she worked and the night before the call she was out at a bar celebrating his promotion to manager at another store. After lying about just calling this guy to see if he was OK after drinking the night before, I finally got it out of her that he actually came over. That she invited him flirtatiously at the bar not expecting him to actually show up. He did and she said he slept on the couch. Nothing happened. I ask why this guy denies even knowing what I am talking about. He says he was never here and that it is a mistake. Months later I find out about these two strange calls that were the only two calls made to this dude and I'm thinking. hmmmm. Link to post Share on other sites
bryanp Posted February 1, 2004 Share Posted February 1, 2004 Hello, I am sad to say that much more than likely she slept with this guy. Look at the facts. 1) She constantly lied to you about this. Why? 2) He lied to you about this. Why? 3) She flirts with him about coming over to her place. Why? 4) He comes over to her place and spends the night in her home and claims he only slept on the couch? Why would he come over (he is married) in the first place and why would she not send him home in a taxi? Why? 5) She makes suspicious early morning calls which you she would never ever do. Why? 6) You keep catching her in lies about this. Why The bottom line is your girlfriend lies to you about this. She flirts and asks another man to come to her place. The other man comes over and spends the night and she says he just slept on the couch. I am sorry but it sounds like she is playing you as the fool. If she is your girlfriend then why does she invite another married man to come over her place? What do you think she would be thinking if the roles would have been reversed? The bottom line is she more than likely cheated on you and you keep catching her in lies. It is pretty sad that a girlfriend of two years would do this to you. I think you need to reevaluate the type of girlfriend you have. Look at the facts. She is not telling you the truth. Set up a polygraph test (cost is about $400). I bet she would never even consider taking it. The bottom line is that it is good that you know what she is like before you think about marrying her. By the way, why would you want to have a girlfriend who thinks it is all right to tell a married man to come back to her place as a joke and when he shows up he spends the night? Think about it. I wish you luck. Link to post Share on other sites
faux Posted February 1, 2004 Share Posted February 1, 2004 I'm going to agree with the previous poster, and also add in: Even IF she did not cheat, she's lying. Do you really want to be with someone who lies? Link to post Share on other sites
Benedict Posted February 1, 2004 Share Posted February 1, 2004 Save yourself the $400, pal. Kick her to the curb, and consider yourself lucky that you are not married to her, with MUCH HIGHER stakes involved. Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted February 1, 2004 Share Posted February 1, 2004 Well...I'm not sure if he actually put his thingie in her thingie. But I am sure they did something that they're never EVER going to tell you about. Is this a one-time offense, or part of a pattern? Link to post Share on other sites
kkat Posted February 1, 2004 Share Posted February 1, 2004 Was the number you found from the phone bill his home or his mobile? If it is a home number - something to think about -- if he is married why would she be calling his house in the early AM (or any other time) - if the wife is around. Is it possible he was at your GF's place and he used her phone to call his house to cover his tracks from the night before? Link to post Share on other sites
wideawake Posted February 2, 2004 Share Posted February 2, 2004 Originally posted by Benedict Kick her to the curb, and consider yourself lucky that you are not married to her, with MUCH HIGHER stakes involved. This pretty much sums it up. Liars are worthless. Move on and show her no kindness. Link to post Share on other sites
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