Author TroyNJ Posted June 26, 2010 Author Share Posted June 26, 2010 Troy, you need to get your butt home. Is there any way you can get some time off from your job? Yes in fact Im off for the next 4 days but I'm afraid if I go home I will be pushing her. I'm trying to play it as cool as possible, this may be my last chance. Link to post Share on other sites
RedDawn Posted June 26, 2010 Share Posted June 26, 2010 Hire a PI while you're still out of town so she'll have her guard down. I agree with you the only thing tht makes sense is an OM. Find out now so you'll know what you're dealing with and can action accordingly. Link to post Share on other sites
Corporate Posted June 26, 2010 Share Posted June 26, 2010 After reading your first post, my initial reaction is, she is having an affair. Does she use computer? If so, install a keylogger to find out what she's up to. Do you have access to her phone records? Find out whom she has been calling or texting. Do you have password to her email addresses and facebook account? (the keylogger will help.) What does she do all day at home? (placing a voice activated recorder at home or in her car will help uncover what she is up to). Find out the truth and make an informed decision. Link to post Share on other sites
hopesndreams Posted June 26, 2010 Share Posted June 26, 2010 After reading your first post, my initial reaction is, she is having an affair. Does she use computer? If so, install a keylogger to find out what she's up to. Do you have access to her phone records? Find out whom she has been calling or texting. Do you have password to her email addresses and facebook account? (the keylogger will help.) What does she do all day at home? (placing a voice activated recorder at home or in her car will help uncover what she is up to). Find out the truth and make an informed decision. Completely agree with this. Time to pay her a visit. Link to post Share on other sites
Butterflair Posted June 26, 2010 Share Posted June 26, 2010 After reading your first post, my initial reaction is, she is having an affair. Does she use computer? If so, install a keylogger to find out what she's up to. Do you have access to her phone records? Find out whom she has been calling or texting. Do you have password to her email addresses and facebook account? (the keylogger will help.) What does she do all day at home? (placing a voice activated recorder at home or in her car will help uncover what she is up to). Find out the truth and make an informed decision. Doing the above is how I finally discovered the truth regarding my husband. He would never tell me the truth and would smooth everything over. I was betrayed in a huge way. Sometimes we are forced to do things that we don't want to do in order to get the truth. You might find out that she is doing nothing at all. Link to post Share on other sites
txsilkysmoothe Posted June 26, 2010 Share Posted June 26, 2010 Why does there have to be an OM? Some people just can't get past a betrayal. They can't trust the cheater with their heart, mind, soul, life - even if they really want to let it go. It looks like she has tried. You moving away for work may have awakened her fears that you would have another EA or maybe a PA. Link to post Share on other sites
Corporate Posted June 26, 2010 Share Posted June 26, 2010 Why does there have to be an OM? Some people just can't get past a betrayal. They can't trust the cheater with their heart, mind, soul, life - even if they really want to let it go. It looks like she has tried. You moving away for work may have awakened her fears that you would have another EA or maybe a PA. The chance of the above scenario is 35% and the chance of she having an affair is 65%. Link to post Share on other sites
Author TroyNJ Posted June 27, 2010 Author Share Posted June 27, 2010 The chance of the above scenario is 35% and the chance of she having an affair is 65%. Well if she's having an affair she is damn good, I have a 13 year old daughter that is home with her all day. I've checked cell records, I monitor E-Mail constantly. No hint of it. I just think she is depressed or going through a MLC. Either way I'll live but damn I hope we can work it out. Financially neither of us will come out very good, I already pay everything mortgage & all other bills. We live paycheck to paycheck as I also have to keep my apartment in GA. but that will change when I start my new job on 8-2, I get to go back home. She hasn't filed or anything so I still have a shot. Problem is bitterness is starting to set in and once I get that way it will be over. I talked to her mom (we have always been close) and she thinks my wife is making a huge mistake. I promised my MIL I'd keep trying but that will have a time limit. I'm not a bad looking guy and finding a partner won't be a problem. The problem is right now I love my wife and will put forth my best effort to get her back. I think I have to play it cool and let the chips fall where they may. Link to post Share on other sites
Corporate Posted June 27, 2010 Share Posted June 27, 2010 Well if she's having an affair she is damn good, I have a 13 year old daughter that is home with her all day. I've checked cell records, I monitor E-Mail constantly. No hint of it. Is your daugher with her mom 24/7? Are you 100% sure that a 13 year old will sit down with her dad and tell her dad what her mom is/might be up to? Doesn't she go to school or hang out with her friends once or twice a week? An affair doesn't have to be a full time job from 9 to 5. It can be 2 emails a day through a secret email account or facebook. It can be an hour meeting, once a week at a local motel. Would you daughter, who is not suspecting anything and who is not trained as a private investigator giving an assignment to checking up on her mom able to detect such infrequent discretion? Link to post Share on other sites
scatterd Posted July 7, 2010 Share Posted July 7, 2010 I hope you the best be strong but also be gentle.When you get home take the wife out and ask her what she is filling.Be very active with your children. She could be hurting still and tiered of not having you home.I am happy about your job.I would go to go to counseling I hope it ends up well Marriage is work but its so rewarding.good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts