Interracial Dating is it taboo?

[Mia-n-Bk]

Im a black woman & I find myself attracted to white men. I love my own race but I've always wanted to date a white man. My thing is I dont have any white friends and I have no clue if white men are find me attractive. Thats my issue but what are your views on interracial dating? Is interracial dating still considered taboo????

[Billzebub]

You look pretty cute to me. I think I heard recently that in teh 40 and under set, over 80% are now cool with interracial dating. My only hangups about dating a black woman would be:

 

A)My family having an issue with it

 

B)Do we have anything in common

 

But I do always have a nagging question about intteracial relationships (one addressed in Spike Lee's film, Jungle Fever - are both parties in an interracial relationship just guilty of satisfying curiosity? Is it just for kicks, in other words?

[JustJoe]

MIA, I don't have any issue with this. I've dated and had relationships with all sorts of women, including BLK women, and never encountered any problems. Sure, there will be some old-fashioned people, who will look down on it, but those people you just ignore.

[Fay]

Im a black woman & I find myself attracted to white men. I love my own race but I've always wanted to date a white man. My thing is I dont have any white friends and I have no clue if white men are find me attractive. Thats my issue but what are your views on interracial dating? Is interracial dating still considered taboo????

 

Taboo?? What century are you living in?! You can date whomever you want, silly.

 

I mean, I guess it also depends on whether you live in a proper city or in Mississippi, LOL

[Mia-n-Bk]

Thanks for the compliment...lol I ask if its taboo cause my friends judge me alot for simply listening to rock music (which they refer to as "white music",I hate when they say that:mad:)So I couldnt imagin theri reaction to me dating a white man.There opinions wouldnt stop me from dating outside of my race but the constant judgement would get on my nerves...Billzebub had a great point what if his family had a problem with my race but I guess u take that chance of the faminly not liking or approving of u in any relationship.

[Sivok]

Thanks for the compliment...lol I ask if its taboo cause my friends judge me alot for simply listening to rock music (which they refer to as "white music",I hate when they say that:mad:)So I couldnt imagin theri reaction to me dating a white man.There opinions wouldnt stop me from dating outside of my race but the constant judgement would get on my nerves...Billzebub had a great point what if his family had a problem with my race but I guess u take that chance of the faminly not liking or approving of u in any relationship.

Your friends are living in the wrong decade. Interracial dating is the norm these days. Four of my friends are in said relationships right now - one is german and engaged to a black woman, one is Italian and dating an asian, another is German and dating an asian, and the 4th is Irish and dating a latina. Infact, among my social circle, I see interracial couples more than racial couples.

[Feelin Frisky]

I'm very attracted to black females and lived together in NYC for 5 years with one I still love even though we split a long time ago. I've known and had deep feelings for many in my years working on Wall Street where I think black women seem a majority. I've had many platonic relatioships with girls on every level in this community from temp clerks to VP's. They seem to find me attractive--I don't know if it's physical or that I'm just confident, acessible and have never worn a wedding band. What I'm not attracted to is many African American women who seem to want to take on the stereotypical "black" PERSONNA of slickness and semi litteracy dressed up as eubonics instead of embracing their own uniquness and sincerity of personal identity. In any event I find black girls more assertive in letting you know that they are interested and less hung up and status conscious than white chicks. Some white people see "black" and "sameness" before anything else. I see beauty and intrigue of nuance in looks and identity before anything else. So needless to say a lot of black woman have lit my love lamp and time and reality would let me know whether there is hope or not.

Edited June 22, 2010 by Feelin Frisky

[BWLoca]

I'm a black female whose current b/f is white. I never would have guessed he would be attracted to me (kind of dorky and preppy at the same time) but you never know.

 

You should be aware of the ones who just want to satisfy their curiosity, though. Usually starts with "I've always wanted to date a black girl..."

[SouthernSunshine]

Thanks for the compliment...lol I ask if its taboo cause my friends judge me alot for simply listening to rock music (which they refer to as "white music",I hate when they say that:mad:)So I couldnt imagin theri reaction to me dating a white man.There opinions wouldnt stop me from dating outside of my race but the constant judgement would get on my nerves...Billzebub had a great point what if his family had a problem with my race but I guess u take that chance of the faminly not liking or approving of u in any relationship.

 

Umm.. they do know who Tina Turner is right? Oh, let me guess... she's lame? Your friends sound very stereotypical, and racist. Date who ever you want girl! Good luck!

[Mia-n-Bk]

After reading the comments I'm starting to realize I need to get more open minded friends like the ppl that have replied to my post.Its true that black women seem to be more assertive & forthcoming with our opinions(Im not saying that white women arent, but black women are just more known for these characteristics) & based on that it takes a strong man to deal with a strong woman. I known alot of ppl/closed minded friends that believe that the only race that cant deal with a black woman is a black or latin male, which in my opinion is not true.

[ecto-1]

Im a black woman & I find myself attracted to white men. I love my own race but I've always wanted to date a white man. My thing is I dont have any white friends and I have no clue if white men are find me attractive. Thats my issue but what are your views on interracial dating? Is interracial dating still considered taboo????

 

I hear that mostly family members of the people dating take issue with it more so than the actual couple dating, at least so I have noticed....a lot of parents would probably disapproved (even known black parents to disapprove) of inter-racial dating.....from what I hear from friends.

[reservoirdog1]

Is interracial dating still considered taboo????

Not where I come from, anyway. Sure, you will encounter people -- of either race -- who have a problem with it. The real question, however, is whether or not it's okay with YOU, and whether or not you'll let THEIR problem become YOUR problem.

 

If you find a guy you like who's a different race, go for it! And if somebody doesn't approve, tell them to shove it up their a$$ sideways.

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Just last night, I saw an asian guy dating a black girl and they looked really cute together.

 

Interracial dating is less restricted nowadays and most people are very open to the idea and concept. The only way it's still eer going to be a taboo is if someone is racist to go against it. Ultimattely I do believe it comes to personal preference.

 

You shouldn't be too hard on yourself for liking white guys. You should just date who ever you want. The onlly thing is that a long relationship might face certain obstacles like cultural, background differences.

[Feelin Frisky]

As for the "tabooness" of it, it can depend on your situation. I for instance am the eldest of 8 siblings and we used to live in a two family house in which my grandmother and as yet married uncles and aunts lived up stairs. It would have been looked upon as a bad example for me being the role model for all those other kids to go black. Now my sibs are married and have kids, my grandmother and dad are deceased and I rarely see any of those aunts or uncles or their kids. Where once my mom would have probably torn her hair out, I believe today she'd be happy for me if I went black and never came back (as the expression goes.) All my younger sibs were just about a year apart in age. So all of those family dynamics changed in a short period of time. It's not that my family were racists, it was just presure on me to set the tone of things because I was the first of my generation. I'm sure if the girl was a real honey she would have been accepted and treated lovingly. But if she were some caricature with two kids already by someone else at age 20, they would have slayed me.

[SilentVoice]

I am not to sure how much of an impact that your friends have on you ,but you truthfully shouldn't care. I am not going to lie you are going to hear the jokes but if they're are truly your friends it is all for kicks(laughs). I have went from Hispanic to Indian to White and I have heard it all. But remember this is your life and you got to do what is comfortable for you.

[Crazy Magnet]

As someone noted geographic location will impact the "taboo" factor. It's not only North vs. South, but also urban vs. rural.

 

When I lived in NYC I was the only white person among my circle of friends and it wasn't weird in any way no matter where we went in the city.

 

Where I live now (down here in the South) my larger group of friends is predominantly white but my two best friends are not. When I attend parties are there house where everybody is either Mexican or African American but me, yes I get stares and questioning looks if they have never met me before and this is just hanging out with my girlfriends! It's simply not as common down here to mix races because old stereotypes and prejudices still flourish and interracial dating is met with more stares and remarks.

 

You will always encounter both sides of the coin on this one, some will say it's "taboo" while others won't. I've dated all races and several nationalities and clearly from the postings here there are plenty more like me out there! I say go for it! Just walk up to a guy you find hot and flirt with him.

 

PS: Now I can't stop singing Proud Mary....thanks whoever that was! ahhhhhhh!

[ADF]

It is probably not as taboo as it was a couple of generations ago, but it is still taboo in many parts of the culture.

 

Many white men--again, not all, but many--resist dating back women because they've been influenced by stereotypes. They often see black women as "to pushy," "too loud," and "too aggressive."

[Diezel]

And why do we care what other people think???

 

Just some food for thought.

[fishtaco]

Depends on where you are. Generally in areas where people are more mixed, it's less of an issue. I date almost exclusively interracial. I'm generally not interested in Asian women (I'm Asian myself). Never had a problem. Well, once I was dating this black girl, and we went to a predominately black & Hispanic club. The other black women there didn't like the fact that she was dating a non-black guy. Plenty of stares and attitudes. The black guys there were surprised, but they didn't care. The Hispanics there didn't even notice.

 

But I know certain areas, like some parts of Texas, that's a big no-no, even today.

[donnamaybe]

I hear that mostly family members of the people dating take issue with it more so than the actual couple dating, at least so I have noticed....a lot of parents would probably disapproved (even known black parents to disapprove) of inter-racial dating.....from what I hear from friends.

 

I have never disapproved of who my kids dated based on what they look like.

[Chrome Barracuda]

I'm a black guy, now im finding white woman attractive. Whoever I date though is not predicated on a racial aspect. Its how they treat me as a man. you know?

[jamal]

I am a black man myself. There is absolutely nothing wrong with interracial dating if it is done for the right reason (mutual attraction) and not all the wrong reasons. Sad to say that in this age of enlightenment there are still some black people who view dating white people as a status symbol. This is more so a problem with some black men. There is also another black sector that hates and despises their own and would wanna date other races so they can stick it to their fellow brothers/sisters. Frankly, this has been more of a problem with the black females.

 

I can "generally" spot those two categories by the disparity between the couple. A brother would lower his standards and settle for the trashiest and uggliest white woman so long as she is white. A pro golfer would marry a white nanny/maid but would not consider marrying a black nanny/maid.

 

As long as you do not fall into any of those two categories that I mentioned you should be fine. You can not control who you fall in LOVE with. If the chemistry is right go for it.

 

I was married to a black woman for 7 years. I then met a half white/indian woman I really like. I am an independent self assured male and will only go out with a woman because I like her and we can click. In fact, I didnt even know her exact racial make up since I met her online and she had not posted a pic on her profile. Her description just said she was mixed and mixed could have meant black and white like Alicia Keys.

[marsle85]

I never bought into that "steal our men" crap. Go for it girl. Love is love, grab it if you can and never let go.

[Woggle]

I hope your friends know that rock music is pretty much a black creation invented by people like Chuck Berry and Little Richard. Jimi Hendrix who is considered by many to be the best guitarist ever was black as well.

 

I don't see anything wrong whatsoever with dating outside of your race. Love is love and why pass up on a chance at it because of the color of a person's skin. I wouldn't go looking for a white man specifically though. Not all white men are the same anymore than all black men or hispanic men.

[D-Lish]

Im a black woman & I find myself attracted to white men. I love my own race but I've always wanted to date a white man. My thing is I dont have any white friends and I have no clue if white men are find me attractive. Thats my issue but what are your views on interracial dating? Is interracial dating still considered taboo????

 

No, not for most of us. It's not the 1950's anymore!

 

I know a lot of white guys that would be soooo open to dating a black woman, but they are in the same boat as you- they aren't overly connected to the black culture because of geography, exposure, etc.