jnsac23 Posted June 22, 2010 Share Posted June 22, 2010 I can't take it anymore! He just continues to lie and put me through this emotional rollercoaster. He just keeps making all these phonecalls, email accounts and then turns around and says that I am psycho and just imagining them. He turned my 15, 13 and 12 year old girls against me because they think I am the one who caused all the fighting in the home because I keep on him for accusing him of the cheating. They don't understand its because I keep finding these things. All he has to do is just keep denying it and say I am crazy. I CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE. I just don't know what to do. I don't work and he has control of all the banking accounts so I cant file for divorce. I just hate him!! He says no judge in the word will give me the kids because of my history of depression. I never thought a man like that would do this to after 17 years of marriage. I just can't believe how much another human being could put another human being through suffering of abuse both emotional and physical. May god have mercy on his soul. Link to post Share on other sites
JacquesA.LeFrancais Posted June 23, 2010 Share Posted June 23, 2010 I can't take it anymore! He just continues to lie and put me through this emotional rollercoaster. He just keeps making all these phonecalls, email accounts and then turns around and says that I am psycho and just imagining them. He turned my 15, 13 and 12 year old girls against me because they think I am the one who caused all the fighting in the home because I keep on him for accusing him of the cheating. They don't understand its because I keep finding these things. All he has to do is just keep denying it and say I am crazy. I CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE. I just don't know what to do. I don't work and he has control of all the banking accounts so I cant file for divorce. I just hate him!! He says no judge in the word will give me the kids because of my history of depression. I never thought a man like that would do this to after 17 years of marriage. I just can't believe how much another human being could put another human being through suffering of abuse both emotional and physical. May god have mercy on his soul. I am sorry to hear about what you are going through. Do you have family that can help? Do you have anyone that can assist you? There are programs that can help women in situations such as yours. There are plenty of online resources. Do not allow anyone to tell you that you don't have rights. You do, don't forget that! Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted June 23, 2010 Share Posted June 23, 2010 Start reading about controlling and/or abusive men so you can understand what you're dealing with, if he fits the profile. The best book to read is Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men, by Bancroft. Finally, you CAN divorce him, he WILL have to pay child support, because you WILL get custody of your kids. At best, he would get 50% custody. All you have to do is get a lawyer who will take payment after the divorce, because he will at that point have to pay you. Go to www.unitedway.org. They will help you take care of everything. Why do you not work? If your kids are that old, it's time to get out and find a job. And start putting your money in your own savings account that he can't access. Link to post Share on other sites
bunnixkisses Posted June 24, 2010 Share Posted June 24, 2010 My advice is: First off, get your "depression" under control. Make sure you are seeing a therapist that will be able to tell a judge that yes, indeed, you can parent your children. If you REALLY want to leave him, and want to get away from this, create a wall between your emotions and his abuse. Tell yourself every day that YOU are BETTER than he is, and you don't care if he is cheating. Second, get a job. Even if it's part time..because if you get a divorce, and he tried to get custody...the judge will look at that. Third, divorce his dumb ass. OR you can seek couple's counseling Link to post Share on other sites
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