What does my temptation to cheat mean

[regina]

its not hard to say no...its just frustrating how much i actually consider it (after the fact). I was hoping to hear the temptation is normal and people in long term relationships go through it...im beginning to realize that is not truly the case and for everyone jaded by a cheating ex....I will be honest and as upfront as I can be to my BF. I think he deserves the world, and I will NOT take the easy/destructive way out...I'm saddened to realize I'm not ready to commit completely..but you all have shed light on the situation for me. Thank you, I never thought I'd be the shady person in any relationship but I will be as upfront and honest as I can.

[jenifer1972]

I really suggest you read Mating in Captivity. It is all about your issue, and how to keep the spark alive with your partner.

 

I think it is human to occasionally meet someone who tempts you, but you need to realize if you are an attractive person, there will be people everywhere who will "give it a shot" with you if they can. It is devoid of any meaning, and if the guy knows you are with someone else, well then, you know he is of questionable character.

[Dexter Morgan]

You need to edit.

 

yup, forgot to put the "not" fit for committment in.

 

you know what I meant

[sumdude]

I think this happened with my ex-gf now ex-wife.. ironically.

 

Before we were married about three years into our live in relationship she tried to explain it to me. I was so naive then. Our sex life had taken a pretty big downturn. Tried to tell me I wasn't enough of a challenge anymore. I didn't understand what she was trying to say to me. In fact looking back now I'm pretty sure she either cheated or was very very tempted at the time. Was it her addicted to the chase and the thrill? Was it me taking things for granted?

 

Fast forward four years after that time. We're married less than two years. She lies, cheats and leaves me without warning. There was no chase at all anymore. We were married.