Crush?

[kittie s.]

I've been in this long distance relationship for a couple years.He is the one that moved from me.I've been waiting patiently for so long.It has been very difficult at some times and lonely.I wanted to move with him,but he wanted me to wait so things would be better for us economically.Well now Things have improved greatly so will be able to get a place soon and finally move.

 

However,I have a new friend I chat with all the time,and it feels like I can't learn enough about him.He's fascinating and I feel so bad for feeling that way.It's obvious I have a crush on him,but I don't know what I should do.He's a very good friend to me now,and I can't stop being friends.Has this happened much with any of you?Will the crush go away?

 

I feel so bad I don't know what to do.Also,my boyfriend has been online almost constantly when I am.Like constantly talking about random stuff.I just feel like I have some kind of anger built up towards him for leaving me behind for so long and not even trying to be romantic towards me.I worry that things might not be so fun when I move if he can't give me a compliment or hold my hand without me fighting him to.Everything else he does is beyond amazing.I truly love him,which is why I feel so bad about this crush.Please advise me and share your similar situations.I need help.

[StarrySkyBlue]

Do you like this new friend of yours romantically? I know your bf hasn't been able to be close to you, so I think what happens is you're looking for emotional support somewhere else. This is not a good sign for your relationship.

 

Can you plan a visit where you go stay with your bf for a week or so without actually moving there, and stop talking to this 'friend' during that time? I think that can help you sort out your feelings better. If you don't feel the same way with your bf anymore and keep missing your 'friend' like crazy, I think it is a very bad sign that might mean the end of this relationship. Try to clear up the issues (anger) you have towards your bf and know that he made a logical decision financially and that's an indication that he's a responsible, dependable guy. If you can't visit your bf, you have to talk to him about how you feel, but in a problem-solving way, not an accusing way. The distance couldn't have been helped. It's just the way things are in real life. Not all situations are ideal. You've lasted this long. I'm sure it's worth giving your relationship another shot.

 

Good luck!

[kittie s.]

I'm not sure.Some days the crush is stronger than other days.It's really confusing.If I went to see my SO for a week,I wouldn't be able to talk to my friend,and I'm sure I'd be okay with that.It's mostly like this when I'm here.

 

I've been working on trying to get past the frustrations towards him for these things.I thought he was being responsible until he bought a brand new car.Once he did that,he started buying different parts for it and spending this money on it.That's when I started growing frustrated.So much money wasted on that.If he really wanted me there at that time,I think he would have done things differently,but he says he wants me there.He didn't even plan anything for our anniversary even after I kept trying to set up a trip,he said we could wait to set it up.We weren't together on it and set up a real short trip finally but it was two weeks later.But he plans big trips months ahead with his other friends and doesn't plan much of anything ahead with me.Our visits are random and last minute every time.All of this makes me feel taken for granted.

 

I know he loves me,but I don't like the way he expects me to just be here all the time and to be ok with not planning anything until it's convenient.I worry that I might be unhappy when I move away from my family if he puts me underneath these other events.I've never been away from my family,and will be missing them dearly.To be ignored during that change will be the worst.