She sees dead people?!

[Star Gazer]

I can't stop shaking. Hopefully this will be coherent.

 

As many of you know, I've been coping from a relatively difficult breakup. Many believe (including myself), that Skiman (now-ex) had a drinking problem... and that his drinking was a cause of the demise of our relationship.

 

Alright, so... Over the past week or so, I've been finding myself thinking about my Grammy a lot. She passed in October 2008. At one point, I was even praying to her to help me through this. I'm not sure what's made me think of her specifically. Could be because she's the closest person to me who's no longer here, and I invision her in heaven, watching over me. Or, it could be because I had to go pick up one of her paintings from Skiman's house when I was getting more of my stuff. Or, it could be because she left her alcoholic husband (my grandfather) after 25 years of marriage, and made me wonder what she had experienced in that relationship. Or it could be because she met and fell in love with Bob, who she described as the true love of her life, when she was 52... thereby giving me hope that no matter how long it takes, I'll find love again.

 

Whatever the cause, I've been thinking about her a lot.

 

With that in mind...

 

I have become friends with my court reporter (I'll call her Dee), as I book her for all of my depositions. Over the years, we've shared info about our personal lives, built a rapport, etc. I've talked about Skiman to her before (in the good days), and she knew how I'd thought we were going to live happily ever after, etc. I saw her on Monday, and when she asked me how I was doing, I almost broke down in tears in front of my witness and opposing counsel. I regained my composure, and got on with the day. But afterwards, we spent 2 hours talking about what I've been going though. She's been through nearly exactly the same experience (with an alcoholic ex-husband), and can relate to everything I've experienced with him and the emotions I've had. Talking with her has led me to a few "ah ha" moments that brought me a lot of peace. To say it's been SO incredibly helpful to talk to her about it, has been an understatement.

 

Anyway, today I had another deposition, and Dee was of course there. Afterwards, she asked me how I've been doing, etc. So we talked more, and I shared things I've discovered about myself, things I'm dealing with in therapy, etc. She's like an extra therapist! For free! Haha!

 

During today's conversation, I had fleeting thoughts of my Grammy again... a sort of, "I wonder what she went through, I wonder what she'd be telling me right now." While I have previously very briefly told her that my grandfather was an alcoholic, I did NOT share these thoughts with Dee about thinking about my Grammy so much.

 

All of a sudden, in the middle or conversation, I feel this intense warmth on my shoulders/upper back. And out of nowhere, she says, "Does your grandmother have big glasses, salt and pepper hair that's more grey than black, and red lipstick?" I looked at her, stunned. I said yes. She then asked if she often wore baby blue. I said yes.

 

She said, "She's standing right behind you, she wants you to know you're here, and that you're going to be okay."

 

Instantly, I felt Grammy's presence. I felt she was standing behind me and slightly to my left. I asked Dee where Grammy was standing, and she told me the same exact place.

 

 

I was like, "Are you serious?" And then the warm feeling went away, and Dee said, "She's gone now, but she wanted you to know that she's with you."

 

I'm still shaking.

 

What's happened here???

[Bike_Ride]

I'm shaking too, Star lol...I don't do well with ghost stories anymore.

 

I don't know what happened, but being in such a great mood, exercising and REALLY making attempts to get over myself and all the crap I do, and the fact that your other thread is closed I'll say it here.

 

Just wanted to give ya a cyber hugg for your recent break-up. My sister went through this twice with her ex husbands and I've seen how hard it was. It sucks and I hope you can rise above it. Also you're young..you have time, but most important....stay happy no matter what. I can do it, so you can do it too.

[Green]

Its only in my dreams that I can see dead people.

[Ronni_W]

What's happened here???

Your Grammy came to visit you, Star

She's with you, and you're going to be okay.

 

Some will try to tell you that what happened didn't really happen...but you can just go by your own experience.

 

Wishing you the best.

[Bike_Ride]

Your Grammy came to visit you, Star

She's with you, and you're going to be okay.

 

Some will try to tell you that what happened didn't really happen...but you can just go by your own experience.

 

Wishing you the best.

 

 

I agree... I have had something happen recentley and I don't know what it is, but anything is possible and I believe it now lol. Don't be afraid or scared..open up to it and it makes you feel great.

[quankanne]

I think that love-bond between you and your granny is so strong that it's surpassed death and distance and time ... and that she's able to connect with you on a whole 'nother plane of existence because she knows you need her.

 

haven't quite had that kind of "visit" from my mom, to whom I was very close, but the day after my 40th birthday, I heard her clear as a bell in my dreams, when usually conversation is like something from a Peanuts cartoon between Charlie Brown and his teacher ...

 

love can accomplish some wonderful things, even from beyond the grave

[pureinheart]

Hi SG...((((((hugs)))))),

 

I am so sorry you are going through such a difficult time...I didn't know that you were going through so much and thank you so much for all of your help in various threads....anyway...

 

To make a real long story shorter....I lost my mom and went through a VERY bad time...my moms dying wish was that my stepdad would make sure I was ok...didn't happen. He passed away...I inherit their place of which I lived in also as a teenager.

 

This place (house) was REALLY run down almost to the point of being condemned. My mom always liked things taken care of but didn't and couldn't after a time do it herself. When getting this place I made it my mission in life to fix it up the way she would like it. I worked night and day for months (still am actually). More than halfway through this, while doing a project as God as my witness I heard her voice very loud and clear. I don't remember the exact words, but she was happy with my accomplishments.

 

I can't make this type of thing happen if you know what I mean...some might say that I willed this type of thing because I wanted it/needed it...no, it didn't go down that way...I have heard her voice several times now.

 

Take care SG....

[aerogurl87]

SG it's things like this that make me wonder if this life is all that there is. I'm hoping and praying that's not true, but I believe love when it is true and pure can find ways to reach you even when it seems impossible. I've never had an experience like what you mentioned before, but when my ex and I who were extremely close, in fact closer than I have ever been to any other person in my entire life, broke up it was a month down the road and I swear I felt like a sharp pain go through my body like my soul was seriously aching. Well six months or so later I find out that around the same time my ex was going through a whole lot in his life and it had basically fell apart and he'd hit rock bottom. Could it be a coincidence? Maybe, but I honestly believe that when two people are linked by love that transcends what most people get to experience it finds a way to reach out to us.