pppenguin1 Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 Hey everyone. So me and my LD girlfriend broke up about 1 month ago for reasons that it had become a bit overwhelming and intense. We did the no contact thing for about 3 weeks. However, the other day we started talking again over skype. We talked about what we'd both been up to during the few weeks and the relationship in general. After that however, we have just been chatting about usual stuff, how we used to talk before (but without the romantic element). I am just confused as to how to bring about the topic of getting back together, without seeming like I am desperate for her back. I don't want to appear weak or anything. We've only just started talking again so maybe give it time? I'm confused! Will she just be happy talking as a friend, or will she be thinking the same? I'm pretty sure she still loves/has strong feelings for me and everything so maybe it's a case of no-one wanting to make the first 'move'. I know I couldn't stand being someone to talk to whilst she starts dating others..if that were to happen.. Thoughts? Thank you! Link to post Share on other sites
ADF Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 I would only consider getting back together if you can close the distance between you soon and permanently. Open-ended LDRs never work, and are always torturous to the people involved. Link to post Share on other sites
StarrySkyBlue Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 What exactly does "overwhelming and intense" mean? It usually means one party is being too needy in the relationship while the other needs more space. If you haven't solved that issue, getting back together right now isn't a good idea, because the same thing will happen again. Link to post Share on other sites
JacquesA.LeFrancais Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 Hey everyone. So me and my LD girlfriend broke up about 1 month ago for reasons that it had become a bit overwhelming and intense. We did the no contact thing for about 3 weeks. However, the other day we started talking again over skype. We talked about what we'd both been up to during the few weeks and the relationship in general. After that however, we have just been chatting about usual stuff, how we used to talk before (but without the romantic element). I am just confused as to how to bring about the topic of getting back together, without seeming like I am desperate for her back. I don't want to appear weak or anything. We've only just started talking again so maybe give it time? I'm confused! Will she just be happy talking as a friend, or will she be thinking the same? I'm pretty sure she still loves/has strong feelings for me and everything so maybe it's a case of no-one wanting to make the first 'move'. I know I couldn't stand being someone to talk to whilst she starts dating others..if that were to happen.. Thoughts? Thank you! I think you should let go. She is going to hurt you. Just let it go, as hard as it will be, let it go Link to post Share on other sites
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