After nc is this a good sign

[halfwaygone]

I hate dribbling on about every detail so i won't but basically in OCT 08 i started a new job. Immediately met and started working with a lovely guy called Jeff. We had an instant attraction and spent 1 year flirting, dreaming, hinting, not being sure what eachother thought, until finally it came to a point where we ould not hide it any longer. We finally got together a year after we met and it was amazing. Chemistry, attraction, we clicked, loved the same music and so on and so on. And after a year of crushing on eachother it was certainly like a dream for us both.

 

He met my family on new years eve (nothing formal) and he liked them all was well.

 

Then he got a little distant. Turns out he was told that a transfer 1700kms up north had come through. COmpletely out of the blue. HE never thought it would happen and had even forgot about it.

 

It was his dream to move up north to start a fishing business. He has turned it down once in the past and was battling in his head what to do. Because he said meting me was obviously meant to be.

So he went. He stopped in at my place before he left, it was tough. My heart broke i sobbed in the dark all night. He got one hour up the road and nearly turned back. But he had a job and a unit to go to so he had to continue. Besides i knew he had to to do it to be sure...i tried to support him and gave him a gift and a card which he loved.

 

We tried long distance... for about 3 weeks. Not good. I regret not trying harder but at the time i was so miserable and hurt and didn't se the point if he had no set plans to come back..

So we went no contact....well him more so. I sent him a text or a message on facebook every now and then...no reply. He did at one point say it was too hard and we needed time to get over things.

 

 

SO last night i sent a message stating all the things that remind me of him/us. Little things, our things. I knew he''d check his messages after work but i did not expect a reply.

 

 

But he replied. He said he is coming down in the next few weeks and he will try and stay in touch more....and that he hopes i'm well.

 

 

 

This is after he read my soppy message about all the things i miss. WOuld he bother mentioning he is coming down if he didn't want to see me??? Is it likely he is now over me and can deal with it? I can't imagine us seeing eachother and ont still feeling something? Could he be rethinking???

 

 

I am just so happy to hear from him..it had been 2 months nc.My heart is up there with him. When i met him i looked at him and knew he was the one i'd love.

Edited June 25, 2010 by halfwaygone

[StarrySkyBlue]

I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. It's hard. But if it's something he has always wanted to do all his life and if it's that important to him, you just need to let him go. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you. Sometimes external circumstances can make a relationship impossible. For now, don't expect too much. He clearly still has feelings for you, but he might not be looking for a relationship at the moment. Try to work towards becoming more independent and focus on what you want out of life. If you're meant to be together then you will eventually be together.

[halfwaygone]

thank you for your reply.

 

I have tried to move on, i know it takes time but it is so hard. Everything was so amazing, we finally had our chance and it was falling into place so well. When we kissed on new years eve i would never have believed that 3 months later he would be gone... i don't think he did either.

 

 

It's strange how out of all my messages to him he replies to the soppy lovesick one.... the rest were all just polite and friendly and he never replied to them.