confidence low and cant attract nice girls.

[uongy]

im having trouble finding new love interests.i broke up with my ex gf in Sept since it was a long distance relationship and she couldnt handle not being close to me so she cut it off.i was totally devastated as she was so prefect for me and we were great together.

 

its has taken me a while to get over the hurt (she was my first gf) but i had been feeling great and even thought about seeing others ie starting the search for a new gf.

 

i met a new set of people in Sept. mostly girls and have began some gd friendships.there was this one girl i realy liked but she has said that she doesnt fancy me and that im only a good friend ie she only loves me as a friend not like THAT.

 

im realy disappointed and my confidence has been knocked.there dont seem to be any others im interested in and i realy want to enjoy meself in my teens but dont seem to attract anyone i fancy.it realy sucks.

 

i do have acne which i assume its a major burden in my bid to attract girls but i am quite picky to and consider myself to be a nice guy and i have had ppl tell me im a great guy and "girls would b mad not to want me" as a friend said.

 

is there anything i can do other than be myself to improve my attractiveness?

any help thx.mikey.

[SoleMate]

Smile.

 

Be friendly and courteous to EVERYONE (all ages, both sexes), not just girls you fancy.

 

Focus on other people, not yourself.

 

And yes, the acne is a problem. Have you spoken to your parents and seen a doctor? I would definitely put a lot of effort into this.

 

Stay positive.

 

About being picky...what kind of picky are you? Are you the kind of guy who will only consider girls who are more attractive than himself? If so, you may be in for a long haul.

[Darkangelism]

Well Acne needs to be cleared up. Otherwise if you act confident girls will like you.

[amerikajin]

The thing I've finally learned about dating is that it's like anything else in which you want to succeed: you have to have a game plan, and you have to stick to it. You have to be methodical, organized, well-prepared. You have to know what you're looking for, know what you're capable of getting, and then go after it.

 

I won't say looks or superficial matters don't matter - they do. It's no different than the way you look at a woman. Attraction is what it is. But that need not mean that you shouldn't go after women you feel are in the whiskey goggles department, either. Women (more than men) will sometimes overlook obvious flaws in physical appearance if they see the things in a man they're really looking for. They look for things like how clean a guy is; his level of ambition and zest for life; how organized he is; and of course, how comfortable he is with himself and in the presence of others. I know of some average looking people (and even some who weren't quite average) who got some surprisingly good looking women, just as I've known some really handsome men who couldn't keep what they had for those same reasons.