frenchgirl Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 A couple of months ago I had dinner with a guy at work and we ended up talking for like four hours. We went to the same place recently and talked for over four hours again. We laughed a lot and there was never a dull moment. When two people can talk for so long, is that a sign of chemistry? Could spend that much time with someone you are not attracted to?
hopesndreams Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 Could spend that much time with someone you are not attracted to? Yes. You are both off to a good start. Time will tell.
carhill Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 Could spend that much time with someone you are not attracted to? IME, yes. I've been with numerous women with whom we could go on and on and on, for years in fact, but they weren't attracted to me in the least. They liked 'being' with me. There's a difference. They preferred to bang their husband or boyfriend
guy.lepage Posted June 25, 2010 Posted June 25, 2010 Personally, if I spend that much time with someone just talking, I'm attracted to her. Otherwise we'd have to be doing some kind of activity or else I'd be bored beyond my mind.
Serenitynow Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 I met a girl from a dating site awhile back, and we talked for about four hours. Just leaning against her car in the parking lot. She was only the 2nd women I ever met that we just clicked right from the start. never a dull moment, no weird pauses. It was like we knew each other for months. At the end of the date, she told me more than once what a great time she had, and she would love to do it again. Of course, like with every female. She disappeared, never to be heard from again.
carhill Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 (edited) The best way to picture it is that she had a form of sex with you, peculiar to the female species... er...gender. It was a nice ONS but no meaningful bond formed. Some women repeat this over and over, kind of like FWB, except the benefits (to them) are not sexual, rather a pleasurable hit to their ego. Then, without cue or warning, as quickly as they appear, they disappear. My healthiest way of handling such interludes has been to accept them as interesting moments in life but without substantial meaning. The differences I note when having such 'experiences' with men is that, often, we swap business cards and have subsequent contact and, in some instances, friendships have started. With women, nuh uh. Can't think of one, ever. There were a few who deluded me into *thinking* we were friends Edited June 26, 2010 by carhill
MyNameIsJonas Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 The best way to picture it is that she had a form of sex with you, peculiar to the female species... er...gender. It was a nice ONS but no meaningful bond formed. Some women repeat this over and over, kind of like FWB, except the benefits (to them) are not sexual, rather a pleasurable hit to their ego. Then, without cue or warning, as quickly as they appear, they disappear. While this a horribly negative way to put it, this is generally true. That being said, I wouldn't limit it to just women and broaden it to people in general. Some people are just simply friendly and are capable of talking to complete strangers for an extended period of time. Those people normally fly frequently where conversation is inevitable and thus you get pretty good at it. Unless you get some physical (key word here) signal that the person in question in interested in you, I wouldn't look at it much more as just good conversation with a good person, and a lot better than spending an extended period of time talking to yourself.
carhill Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 Oh, the women were physical too, just not *sexual*.... I really don't see it as a negative, although I did when younger. It's just people doing what they do, whether it's a guy angling to get his noodle wet or a woman looking for a receptacle or ego feed. Obviously, it's not that way in *all* cases. Sometimes it's just two humans connecting NSA for a short period of time. IMO, that's a healthy way to look at it. Living in the moment
Serenitynow Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 I could care less if shes not interested. I understand that everyone doesnt have to like each other. I just hate when you hit it off like that, and they lie right to your face, when all along they know they wont see you again.
MyNameIsJonas Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 (edited) Oh, the women were physical too, just not *sexual*.... Oh yeah I know what you mean. I have drawn a bit of a correlation between personality types and that tendency towards the non-sexual touching and I've been generally on target. I really don't see it as a negative, although I did when younger. It's just people doing what they do, whether it's a guy angling to get his noodle wet or a woman looking for a receptacle or ego feed. Obviously, it's not that way in *all* cases. Sometimes it's just two humans connecting NSA for a short period of time. IMO, that's a healthy way to look at it. Living in the moment Good good. I just wanted to clear the air for everyone! Edited June 26, 2010 by MyNameIsJonas chickens
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