WEll, I have a date...older man....PLEASE READ AND NEED ADVICE....

[longlegzs80]

Well, I should be excited that someone has asked me out right? Since I talk so much about being single and wanting a boyfriend. Anywho, in a thread that I did once before about this guy who started comming into the store roughly 2 weeks ago and his worker friend told me that this guy thinks I am hot has asked me out.

 

He came in twice today and was very very friendly. The second time he came into the store he talked to my boss as she was cashing him out and he told her to tell me that when I was done today to come over to his store. So, I did. We talked for a bit and he asked me, "What would it take for me to go out to dinner sometime with him." I just was shocked that he has asked me out, but I knew it was comming.

 

Now, before I go any further here is the rundown of the guy. He is 37, divorced, from Virginia, been working next door at the Matress Firm for 5 weeks, and has a 5 year old son.

 

So when I was at the store talking to him, I asked him why me? I said I am 22 and your 37 so why me? That is all I could get out. I asked him why a 22 year old? His reply was, "why not." So, I thought about it, and told him that I would go on a dinner date with him when he comes back from business. WEll I just said okay I would and he said when I come back from the business trip.

 

I am beside myself. I should be happy right? Well, I think I am kinda attracted to this guy, but don't know what I want. Do I want to go out with a 37 year old? Why would a 37 year old go for a 22 year old? And that is when he said, "why not."

 

So, help me.

[quankanne]

why you? I think you've got the answer on this one:

his worker friend told me that this guy thinks I am hot

 

don't worry so much about the age difference if it's just a simple get-to-know you date. Remember the adage that women mature much faster than men? Maybe mentally you're the same speed as him ... or maybe, as a divorced dad, he feels comfortable asking out a sweet young thing without feeling weird about it. or maybe on top of him thinking you're truly hot, he's attracted to your personality.

 

there are a variety of reasons, but don't drive yourself nuts trying to second-guess him (or you). just go out, enjoy yourself as much as you can, then at the end of the date, see if he's someone you can handle the idea of having a second date with.

 

personally speaking, I never was able to date guys my age, it felt almost incestuous because I identified with them as "brother" material. I'd go for older men because it was just easier for me to relate to them. In fact, my husband is 13 years older than I, and it's worked out all right ... especially now that he can get senior citizen discounts on certain things!

[Arabess]

Dammit WOMAN!

 

He didn't ask you out because you were 22 and he was 37. He asked you out because he LIKED YOU! He liked the way you look, the way you smile and probably everything else about you!

 

Don't you DARE second guess yourself!

 

If you are 'attracted to him' it doesn't matter if he's 67. Age is not an issue. YES, you should be happy.

 

You are going to wear something wonderful and sexy and have a GREAT TIME! You don't have to plan or worry about anything but this one date. It doesn't matter if he's your soulmate or not. Right now, he's just a date and you are going to enjoy it....more importantly.....he's going to enjoy it because you are lovely company.

 

ORDERS from Arabess

[SoleMate]

You heard your orders from Cpt. Arabess. Stand up straight and look your CO in the eye!

 

Have a good time. But I would have liked this story better if he had not had someone ask you to come over to his store to hear the invitation. "Longlegsz, REPORT! to the Mattress Firm on the double!"

 

Also, if he makes any jokes about the two of you "trying out his merchandise", you can tell him from me it's neither funny nor a turn-on.

 

I'm just a curmudgeon today.

[Arabess]

curmudgeon What the hell is that??????

 

I wasn't going to start making 'mattress' jokes until right before the date or right after.....especially if Long doesn't post very early the next morning. We will ALL ASSUME.....since we read her 'horny' post. BWAHAHAHAHA!

 

Just kidding Long....

[Clancy]

Longlez, if Ashton can date Demi what should stop you? Also consider that most 22 year old men would love to date an attractive 37 year old woman. Just have fun.

[monkey00]

Originally posted by Clancy

Longlez, if Ashton can date Demi what should stop you? Also consider that most 22 year old men would love to date an attractive 37 year old woman. Just have fun.

 

that's not always true, but it happens.

 

well..if i was in his situation and couldnt score with someone around my age group, i'd probably do the same...lol

 

he's 37 and has a kid, just make sure u knwo what you're getting yourself into.

i dont think any long term stuff should happen...cause before you know it you already screwed yourself over.

[Java]

He asked you to eat some food with him, is all.... as the others have said, don't worry about age for now, all you need to focus on is having fun, being good company and seeing if he's good company too, and a gentleman. Forget about the potential romance element if it's doing your head in, just think of him as a potential new friend... and take it from there.

 

I agree that women mature faster than men... hence it's more satisfying to relate to someone older. But the irony and fact is.... women outlive men by at least 5 years.

[moimeme]

curmudgeon What the hell is that??????

 

Ask Samson

[Samson]

Bah!

 

M's you know how fragile my sensabilities are!

 

I cannot decide whether you are more cruel or unusual????

 

Curmudgionly Yours,

Samson

[Samson]

Sorry about my asside w/ M's, Legz, but now that I've dried my tears and recovered my composure I though I'd add my 2 cents as someone close to your date's age.

 

Do I want to go out with a 37 year old? Why would a 37 year old go for a 22 year old?

 

Why wouldn't anyone go for you?

 

Based on what I've read about you, you're artistic, intelligent, and probably very attractive at 5'10" with weight proportioned despite whatever barbs your mother has given you.

 

Now don't let all this go to your head

 

But more importantly, maintain a high sense of self esteem around this guy. If he's worth anything at all, it will only make you more attractive than you are.

[Darkangelism]

Im glad to hear that you have a date. Good luck.

[longlegzs80]

Thanks everyone. I do plan on going out with him. He is a customer who comes in my store every Monday, sometimes only once or sometimes twice. I do want to give him a chance. And I figure the only thing we are doing is dinner so that is it.

 

I am kinda looking forward to it. Now I know everyone wants to make some comments about how he works at a Mattress Firm that is next door. So, let me have it. I find it quite funny myself.

[yes]

hey longlegz,

 

sounds fine to me. do enjoy the date but keep your ears up - a past marriage and a kid are no joke.

 

have fun,

-yes

[Thinkalot]

I second what yes has said. Have a good time and let us know how it goes.

[longlegzs80]

Of course, I will always keep you guys posted on what goes on with me. But, this little dinner date is going to happen sometime after the 19th of FEB. He mentioned that he is going to see me again before he goes on the trip. But, you can tell that this guy is into me. EVen my boss could see right through this guy.

 

I do understand that he has prorities with having a kid which is fine. I don't plan on comming inbetween that. I just want to get to know him as friends first and get to know him where I feel comfortable, then see where things lead.

[silk_sword]

22 and 37. y wouldn't an older man want a young, attractive woman? he may also like younger woman. but, it seems that he is just really into u! besides older men r great! no no no - not like that - i can already see the thoughts running through some of u love shackers! i love older men. i think men get better with age. and i don't mean maturity. i think older men r very physically attractive! i don't know y. it's always been a fettish of mine. so go for it girl, especially if u r attracted to him! good luck and HAVE FUN!!!!!

[Dug]

My girlfriend is 12 yrs younger than me....but aside from that.... there is a significant number of situations where a young woman (18-28) will find herself unknowingly picking out a "bad boy" as a sort of project. Don't know whether its a nurturing or nesting instinct, because men will do the same thing. My point is...often those women will find alot of security and happiness with an older man who is not the classic "party boy" they thought they could turn around and save from himself. At somepoint in your life you will seek stability and consistency, and the older man is often the answer. Give the guy a chance, and good luck.