TwiztidNIN Posted February 2, 2004 Share Posted February 2, 2004 I've been with my boyfriend for almost 4 yrs and I think that it may be ending. These feelings got to me so bad last Saturday, I was crying for almost 2-3 hours just thinking about everything and he felt bad because he couldn't settle me down. I talked to him about it later that night. How I needed someone mature enough to handle their own and doesn't act like a kid (i'm 22 - so is he but he acts like he's 16). I feel like I've grown up and he's the same way he was when we started seeing each other when we were 18. He's into video games so basically all he does is go to friend's houses and play his games. When he's with me we'll go out to the bar or just lay on the couch and watch tv. When we were talking, he told me that it seemed that I didn't like who he was because there was so much that I wanted him to change. That's not true. I think that I feel more like friends to him than a girlfriend. Sometimes I even feel like his mother, telling him what he should do. It's only been a week but the more I think about it, the more I think that I am lying to myself about if I still wanted to be with him or not (I got upset like last week, but not as bad) I love him to death, but I'm not sure if I'm in love with him anymore. Maybe I wasn't in the first place and I was fooling myself. I dont want to hurt him but I don't want to lose him totally. I want him as a friend (I hope that's not selfish). I would always love to keep in touch. I haven't done anything about it yet, but I think I need to. My sister told me something today. "Just because it is over right now, doesn't mean there isn't a chance in the future. People change and have different needs. If it's meant to be, in the future something may become of it again". Please tell me your thoughts...... Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted February 3, 2004 Share Posted February 3, 2004 If it ends today, is that a horrible thing? You had 4 years of happiness, with a beginning, middle and now perhaps an end. You can turn that into a sad story or a joyful story, your choice. And yes, even if you split up, you can always remember him for what was wonderful, and the great times you shared, and the growing you both did together (or maybe that was just you. whatever). Boys do mature later - unless you catch one of the good ones like our underage hunk dyermaker - so it is not surprising that the two of you are out of synch. Perhaps you may come together again in a few years...perhaps he will just be a gleam in your eye and a few photos in your dresser drawer. Live your life, young lady. Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
julieg Posted February 3, 2004 Share Posted February 3, 2004 personally, i could never marry someone i didn't respect. ambition and intelligence were big attractions for me. unfortunately love is not all black and white and there are feelings involved. i can see how you are turned off to your bf and being torn apart at the same time. he may just be a late bloomer? Link to post Share on other sites
Author TwiztidNIN Posted February 3, 2004 Author Share Posted February 3, 2004 Throughout the day I feel sometimes it will work, then other times...I don't think it will. He may be a late bloomer, but what if he isn't? Should I wait to find out, take a break, or just break it, period? He was a good friend of mine before we were seeing each other and I wouldn't want to lose his friendship. I just don't know what to think and how to feel, especially being friends with other guys the same age with a maturity level 2x higher than his. It's not that I don't have any respect for him, it's just that I think we have different goals in life and they totally conflict each other. Link to post Share on other sites
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