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[PlumPudding]

Aw shoot! That's what I get for changing the question title halfway through writing this question. Sorry for the grammar! x__x

 

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months now--we met in college.

 

Needless to say, it's summer break now.

The thing is, while we were together, he was so sweet and caring and fun and everything I never thought a guy could be (he's my first boyfriend; I was really wary to date at all). When summer break came and he went back home (2 hours away) the communication suddenly stopped.

 

Our conversations basically consist of "hey how are you" great, you?" "good."

I've tried talking to him longer but he doesn't really continue on the conversation and doesn't seem to have a desire to.

 

I finally broke down and asked about this and he told me that he really does not do well in long distance relationships. We both hate talking on the phone and he hates talking online. I visited him and everything was normal but when I left, it was back to the no-contact.

 

I know he still cares for me but how can I convince him to participate in the long distance relationship over the summer?

Edited June 27, 2010 by PlumPudding

[hoping2heal]

Aw shoot! That's what I get for changing the question title halfway through writing this question. Sorry for the grammar! x__x

 

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months now--we met in college.

 

Needless to say, it's summer break now.

The thing is, while we were together, he was so sweet and caring and fun and everything I never thought a guy could be (he's my first boyfriend; I was really wary to date at all). When summer break came and he went back home (2 hours away) the communication suddenly stopped.

 

Our conversations basically consist of "hey how are you" great, you?" "good."

I've tried talking to him longer but he doesn't really continue on the conversation and doesn't seem to have a desire to.

 

I finally broke down and asked about this and he told me that he really does not do well in long distance relationships. We both hate talking on the phone and he hates talking online. I visited him and everything was normal but when I left, it was back to the no-contact.

 

I know he still cares for me but how can I convince him to participate in the long distance relationship over the summer?

 

You can't find something where it simply doesn't exist. I'm not saying he doesn't care about you as a person but you have to be realistic with yourself. There are a whole slew of people on this very side - madly, crazy and passionately in love. From a distance! If this guy can only be warm about you when you are there in person I'm sorry but his feelings for you in the romantic sense do not run very deep and you can't force him to suddenly have those feelings, either.