shawnm789 Posted June 27, 2010 Share Posted June 27, 2010 how true is it that a MM/MW in a happy marriage could still cheat?dont get it....one of my friends was reading this on a website and told me about it.... Link to post Share on other sites
lolapalooza Posted June 27, 2010 Share Posted June 27, 2010 You tell us. Aren't you cheating on your wife? Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted June 27, 2010 Share Posted June 27, 2010 how true is it that a MM/MW in a happy marriage could still cheat? I don't know if it's "true" but I do think it is possible. I think how it can happen is: Sometimes a "happy marriage" can be that way because it's warm, comfortable and familiar. That is "happy", too, and from inside of that, we can somehow lose sight of the fact that there are also such things as passion, ecstasy and bliss. And then something happens that shakes us out of our warm, comfortable, familiar and... But, before that happened, it's not that we would have called our marriage "unhappy". There's a book by Mira Kirschenbaum, 'When Good People Have Affairs'. I haven't read it, but it may help to answer some of your questions. Link to post Share on other sites
seibert253 Posted June 28, 2010 Share Posted June 28, 2010 Happens all the time. My FWW readily admits that right up to her A, she was in love with me and enjoyed her life. She'll also tell you that during the A, she still loved me and admitted her life was good, but in her words "I was addicted to the high it gave me". To this day she still can't concretely describe it, but admits it was "overpowering". She knew it was wrong but "couldn't stop". Today she's much better at saying No. Even to me. LOL! Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted June 28, 2010 Share Posted June 28, 2010 Shawn, why do you keep doing this? Why do you keep posting virtually the same question, slightly re-worded each time...when you already know the answers??? What do you keep hoping to hear from the posters here at LS????? You keep trying to find 'reasons' for what's been going on. What you NEED to do is to stop looking for "reasons", and start making some grown up, solid decisions OF YOUR OWN. FOR YOURSELF. Stop trying to speculate what's going on in her marriage, and start focusing on Shawn, his life, his morals, and what his next steps should be. Link to post Share on other sites
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