I Need Help Please

[girlinlove]

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Hey Hey, ok... (hes 19 im 16) lets start i met this guy 8 months ago... we went out right away cuz we were totally fallin for each other and in 3 months sum guy kissed me even tho i pushed him away and he had no reason to kiss me i told jason (my b/f) and he broke it off afta a day of thinkin i tried so hard to have him give me another chance but it didnt work... then bout 3 weeks lata he started sayin how he missed me and all this stuff and then on christmas (bout 2.5 months lata) he tells me all this time hes been talkin to me he has had a g/f and he has been tryin to break up wit her its jus been hard so i told him w/e im not ur side stool i want nuttin to do wit u and that weekend he broke up wit her and asked me back out i told him i wasnt ready and i needed time to think and finally i took my love for him over my precautions so we went out for like 2 weeks and then my friend whos like a cousin because she is 21 rele doesnt like him and tells him and he thinks im defendin her and not him and all this so it passes but he keeps bringin it up o0o u spend to much time wit her maybe once or twice a week i see her... and we finally got in this one argument at jus bout a month and he was like o0o0o blah blah blah and i was goin blah blah blah back... i mean the fight wasnt even rele ova anything and then he was like ok well i think we should be friends and work it out and come back together lata i told him no if its friends its friends im not goin back no more.... i jus feel like he doesnt listen or respect me.... like he treats me like hes inferior.... or like if i say sumtin and he says sumtin else its his way or the highway...(except in intimensy...i get the say) and i feel i give more into the relationship then him and like for my bday he didnt get me anything, i mean he went campin wit me...and that was good enough and im not a person who wants undiein attention or gifts from her partner i could careless if he gets me fancy things or wut not but atleast a card on my bday...i dont kno... i miss him and i wanna work things out i jus dont kno how to go about it...can u please please help me..i love him

[dyermaker]

Originally posted by girlinlove

I miss him and i wanna work things out i jus dont kno how to go about it...can u please please help me..i love him

 

I can help you realize that not only do you not love this guy--but you he doesn't love you back, so no big loss. That's the best I can do.

 

I understand that you miss him, but what you really miss is the idea of him--someone there to call your boyfriend. It's perfectly natural for wishing a failed relationship could 'work' itself out, but in a situation such as yours, you're only leading to more heartache.

 

Love doesn't play games, and that's what you two are doing right now. If you feel like he doesn't listen or respect you--that he's condescending--he most likely is. Let sleeping dogs lie, and don't try to make this work.