Cheating on my husband

[samsungxoxo]

Thanks for all the advice all and the rude comments weren't right.

There is a site call www.survivinginfidelity.com where people are interest in hearing both the BS (betrayed spouse) as well as the WS (wayward spouse) side of the story. Over here, many are only going to side with a BS.. because those are the ones venting out so you won't find very helpful advice from them.

After telling him and divorcing (which is very likely to happen) then it might be wise getting into counseling before moving on with your move.

In case your husband still wants to work it out with him what will you do then? Would you want to work on it as well too or still leave him?

Edited June 29, 2010 by samsungxoxo

[Loving_You]

There is a site call www.survivinginfidelity.com where people are interest in hearing both the BS (betrayed spouse) as well as the WS (wayward spouse) side of the story. Over here, many are only going to side with a BS.. because those are the ones venting out so you won't find very helpful advice from them.

After telling him and divorcing (which is very likely to happen) then it might be wise getting into counseling before moving on with your move.

In case your husband still wants to work it out with him what will you do then? Would you want to work on it as well too or still leave him?

 

Thank you I will check that site out tonight since I am here alone for tonight. I likely will go talk to someone about what I did before I move on. If I get a divorce I will wait a long time before getting into a marriage. My marriage/dating is only 1 year young. If he wants to work it out then we will go to counseling and I will take it slow with him. I do love him I honestly do even though I am sure most here won't believe me.

[LSNoob]

I never said I wasn't going to tell him. In fact, when he gets back from Tennessee I am telling him. I am expecting to be a single woman but I am okay with that. I will move on with my life. Yes, it was passionate sex. He called me a bitch and a lot worse I guess it just hurt. But I will move on without him. Hurt being called that. I grew up in a household as a child where my father would berate my mother anytime he could. Thanks for all the advice all and the rude comments weren't right.

 

So first you came here worrying that your husband will leave, now you saying its fine?? So the point of this whole thread was ... ??

 

Listen, what you did was horrible and unhuman. You think what you did to your husband is not hurtful? I'm not here to bash you or any thing, but trying to wake you up and put you on the right path. Don't care what your husband called, yes he is a douche for calling his wife names, but that doesn't give you the right to behave in this manner ( IT'S FOR YOUR OWN GOOD).

 

Sorry to hear about your father, sound's like he was a lousy husband.

 

Loving_You, I got a question. So your husband called you a b---- right? Now when he gets back and you tell him what you did, do you think you;

a) proved him wrong about what he called you? Or

b) proved him right??

What do you think huh???

 

Do you think its ok for you to ruin family relationships just for your selfish needs? Are you that selfish? I wonder why your husband called you those names? Don't you think??

 

A good girl wouldn't turn to a trashy girl in like minutes. It takes years of growing up. I don't think any good girl will be able to go cheat on her husband, with her brother in law (and describe the sex with her brother as hot, passionate and erotic), just because she was horny. Now do you really think a good girl will turn into that kinda girl in like matter of minutes??

 

Please, one more thing. Forget the cheating. But sleeping with your brother is wrong, awful, sinful, gross and flat out disgusting. I'm telling you, every one here reading your thread prob just wants to vomit, and you come here say the sex with a brother is passionate, hot, and sexy etc...??? You NEED a professional help. Go and tell them what you described a sexual encounter with a family member (passionate, hot, ...). You are not normal, you really need help to fix your self. You need urgent help NOW.

 

I'm NOT bashing you. I'm trying to give you help. I hope you get the help you need and be cured and be normal like the rest of us. You will be in my prayers always. The best of luck.

Edited June 29, 2010 by LSNoob
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[jnj express]

You knew it was wrong, when you let the brother come over in the 1st place----and then you for sure knew it was wrong when you started to have sex----The brother didn't just jump on you, as you spread your legs for him----there had to be some foreplay----and while that was going on, what exactly were you thinking. Did you not think there would be repercussions. Are you just too immature to know right from wrong??? How many more times will you spread your legs for another guy every time you have a problem in your mge. Mge. is hard work, but instead of putting in the work, he splits, and you screw. The 2 of you make a great couple.

 

You had better tell your H., if you have any hope of making this mge., work---cuz if your brother tells him, and there are reasons why he might blurt it out----him getting p.o'd at your H., or a drunk revelry, where he spills the beans---or any number of other things might happen----if it comes from your H. brother.---then not only do you have the ONS hanging over your head----but your H. will also have all the time that goes by---where you look at him every day, and say every thing is all right---knowing you are keeping this dirty, dark, little secret from him.

 

Right now you are cheating on your H. by Omission---so you have a ONS, and cheating by omission stacked against you----Time to come clean---suck it up and take your punishment---and do what you can to try to get back into your mge.

[LSNoob]

Thank you I will check that site out tonight since I am here alone for tonight. I likely will go talk to someone about what I did before I move on. If I get a divorce I will wait a long time before getting into a marriage. My marriage/dating is only 1 year young. If he wants to work it out then we will go to counseling and I will take it slow with him. I do love him I honestly do even though I am sure most here won't believe me.

 

Pleaseeeeee don't be in any kind of relationship ever again. It's really unfair you treat people like crap and hurt people just for your selfish needs. Really unfair. If you just gonna open your legs every time you get in an argument with your significant other, then let me tell you by 2020 you will end up sleeping with the entire town, including the mayor. Again I'm going to say this. Its very mean, hurtful and unfair to treat people like crap and hurt them just for your selfish needs. So stay away from relationships. It's very simple, just be single and then you get to sleep with all the guys you want. And everyone will be happy.

 

And no you DO NOT love your husband, do you know what love is? Huh? Tell me, you know what love is?

Edited June 29, 2010 by LSNoob

[mark982]

there's only 1 thing lower than sleeping with his brother. his dad. you from kentucky,west va, or tenn,by chance.

[White Dove]

Pleaseeeeee don't be in any kind of relationship ever again. It's really unfair you treat people like crap and hurt people just for your selfish needs. Really unfair. If you just gonna open your legs every time you get in an argument with your significant other, then let me tell you by 2020 you will end up sleeping with the entire town, including the mayor. Again I'm going to say this. Its very mean, hurtful and unfair to treat people like crap and hurt them just for your selfish needs. So stay away from relationships. It's very simple, just be single and then you get to sleep with all the guys you want. And everyone will be happy.

 

And no you DO NOT love your husband, do you know what love is? Huh? Tell me, you know what love is?

 

Perfectly said.

[Dexter Morgan]

Thanks for all the advice all and the rude comments weren't right.

 

you mean the TRUE comments weren't right TO YOU

 

the truth is alot like that and people don't like hearing it.

[2sure]

Having sex with his brother is something that most men would find unforgivable. I get that it was a mistake, I get that you may be young, I understand you regret it. But the brother combined with the sex...thats a tough one for a man.

 

Your H will find out. The more time between now and then...will make it worse. Could be 10 years from now. I hope he is not a violent man toward you or his brother. Between a brother and a wife...many would chose the brother. Even if he never finds out...its there. You know and his brother knows. You will wonder who else knows. All of this will undermine your marriage.

 

Also, to me: The whole being pissed about a pair of shoes would be a deal breaker anyway. I'd put them on and walk.

[Mimolicious]

Ok JLO... (cause that is JLO in your avatar) Tell your H, him and his brother will no longer have a relationship and you will be his exW. End of story.

[Loving_You]

here's only 1 thing lower than sleeping with his brother. his dad. you from kentucky,west va, or tenn,by chance.

I am actually from Tennessee but I moved to Kentucky

[Bryanp]

Nobody knows for sure what your husband's reaction will be. He just might surprise you. Be honest and show true remorse and whatever happens will happen. I think the brother is a true scumbag. If he is married I hope you inform his wife or girlfriend also.

[Loving_You]

Jennifer Lopez? LOL.... no I wish I did look like her she's gorgeous,

 

Nobody knows for sure what your husband's reaction will be. He just might surprise you. Be honest and show true remorse and whatever happens will happen. I think the brother is a true scumbag. If he is married I hope you inform his wife or girlfriend also.

 

Yes, I will tell him. He will be home tomorrow for sure. His brother is not married at all, he's been divorced a few times...Thanks for the advice. I can always hope and will pray before I reveal it to him.

[LSNoob]

Ahhh so you from Tennessee then moved to Kentucky... that explains it =P

 

But keep us posted, hope it works out for you. Good luck.

[Dexter Morgan]

Having sex with his brother is something that most men would find unforgivable.

 

having sex, or even emotional cheating, with another guy is unforgivable to me.

 

having sex with a family member is not only unforgivable, but will get all her belongings tossed out the front door with a note that says, "don't come back"

[Mimolicious]

Jennifer Lopez? LOL.... no I wish I did look like her she's gorgeous

 

You changed your avatar after I said that and if in fact that is you, I don't see the need to envy JLo's looks.

[Darth Vader]

I never said I wasn't going to tell him. In fact, when he gets back from Tennessee I am telling him. I am expecting to be a single woman but I am okay with that. I will move on with my life. Yes, it was passionate sex. He called me a bitch and a lot worse I guess it just hurt. But I will move on without him. Hurt being called that. I grew up in a household as a child where my father would berate my mother anytime he could. Thanks for all the advice all and the rude comments weren't right.

 

 

Straddling your husbands brother and riding him and orgasming as his brother squirted his sperm in you while doing it in your and your husband's bed isn't right either! This was out of Revenge! That's all, and it's NO mistake either!

 

You may be pregnant too because you didn't use a condom!

 

Tell your husband, tell him it was to get back at him, because that's what it was for!

[Darth Vader]

Straddling your husbands brother and riding him and orgasming as his brother squirted his sperm in you while doing it in your and your husband's bed isn't right either! This was out of Revenge! That's all, and it's NO mistake either!

 

You may be pregnant too because you didn't use a condom!

 

Tell your husband, tell him it was to get back at him, because that's what it was for!

 

 

You realize that's a double betrayel, Ouch! Hubby's gonna beat the piss out of brother, I hope you're happy with that! Because you caused all of this!

[Darth Vader]

having sex, or even emotional cheating, with another guy is unforgivable to me.

 

having sex with a family member is not only unforgivable, but will get all her belongings tossed out the front door with a note that says, "don't come back"

 

 

I hear you Dex. There's no reason for what happened. Somehow I think she may have wanted it to happen, that's what I get from this.

[Loving_You]

You changed your avatar after I said that and if in fact that is you, I don't see the need to envy JLo's looks.

 

Actually that was Vanessa Marcil in my avatar, I am a huge fan of her's she plays on many shows. I have my own picture it is located below. The only problem is I don't know how to put it in my avatar to fit.

 

However, I have a update. I told my husband about it and he left to confront his brother. Obviously he was very upset but he said we both are to blame what happened. He loves me and he believes I love him. He believes I slept with his brother for revenge sex. He said we need a break and doesn't know if he can forgive me anytime soon. He'd love to work things out but he said we'd need to move away together to fix our problems.

 

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[Loving_You]

Straddling your husbands brother and riding him and orgasming as his brother squirted his sperm in you while doing it in your and your husband's bed isn't right either! This was out of Revenge! That's all, and it's NO mistake either!

 

You may be pregnant too because you didn't use a condom!

 

Tell your husband, tell him it was to get back at him, because that's what it was for!

 

I am not pregnant thank you very much. And he didn't beat his brother either he argued with him.

[mark982]

your husbands a wimp!! should of tore him a new azzhole, and told mom/dad what a lowlife son they raised.

[Bryanp]

I told you you might be surprised by his reaction. It really sounds to me like he loves you a great deal. Will you try to work it out with him if possible?

[2sunny]

i'm not sure i believe any of this either. why is it not in the infidelity forum?

 

this wasn't an accident. this is part of who you are.

 

what are you doing to change that? are you doing counseling to unsure you don't do this again? do you have the core issue of why you thought this was your solution?

 

it's terribly selfish and self centered - and based on anger. i'd start there in counseling. what gave you the right to think this was ok within your M?

 

how do you insure that you won't do this again? you need to willing to show your husband that you are willing to change anything and everything about YOU to make sure you're not that person anymore.

 

you have a ton of work to do for yourself. are you going to do this?

[LSNoob]

So your husband called you names and he hurt your feelings out of anger and in the heat of moment, maybe he said stuff he really didn't mean to hurt you. But you went and hurt your husband, on purpose-100% aware of what you doing, in a way more horrible manner. Not to mention disgusting. You prob have sick and evil personality.

 

He just consoled me and I never meant to sleep with him.

ok...

He believes I slept with his brother for revenge sex.

 

Oh, look what we have here, a cheater and a liar too?? Nice... you lied to the LS members as well. Why?

 

The question is, why is your husband so desperate? Not like there's only one woman on planet, there's 1 thousand trillion billion women out there, what is he doing wasting his time with this marriage??? If he really wants to be married tell him to find a classy woman and a wifey material one. Marriage is not a game for people to sleep with their brothers.

 

Originally Posted by Darth Vader View Post

Straddling your husbands brother and riding him and orgasming as his brother squirted his sperm in you while doing it in your and your husband's bed isn't right either! This was out of Revenge! That's all, and it's NO mistake either!

 

I know man:sick::sick:. I can't believe the husband, what a desperate man he must be. How can he even touch his wife again??? That will be the most disgusting thing ever. Yuckkkk :sick::sick:

 

Loving_You, I have serious question. When you were young did you find like your father, brother or grandfather etc.. attractive? Like you sexually attracted to them?? Did you have any incest behavior? If you be honest with us people here will help you a lot. I agree with others who said you really need professional help. Please get the professional help so you can sort your life out. OMG this is so BLAGH >.<