spookie Posted August 10, 2010 Share Posted August 10, 2010 She's concerned that you're too quiet, so you back off and don't call her for a week? Yes, I guess you are too quiet for her. A non-quiet guy would have been calling her wanting to talk it through, and to communicate what he's thinking, and to understand more specifically what is troubling her. You are content to give her space - which only serves to prove her viewpoint isn't without merit - and to detach from you altogether. Try calling her. Otherwise, this is going nowhere. I don't know, if my boyfriend told me I was "too quiet" I'd want to pull away further, too. That's like saying, "sorry, you're great, but I don't like your personality." Some girls like quiet - myself included. I am an introvert (though it's probably not too apparent at first) and I feel more comfortable with guys who are the same. I believe much of the stress in my relationship is due to the fact that my BF is an extreme extrovert. Link to post Share on other sites
jadedone Posted August 10, 2010 Share Posted August 10, 2010 Hi Jane ..thanks again. I really don't understand what you mean by "open up a little". Maybe she feels the same. As far as I feel, I have opened up with her quite a bit. I've told her practically everything there is to know about my family, my childhood, school days, college days, flings, past relationships ...you name it. I've been a open book with her. I've even talked to her about trivial things which I usually don't. In fact I don't even think that I am THAT quiet the way she describes me, but maybe she wants more and I don't understand what more does she want. Dude, I totally had the same complaints from my last gf. FOr heaven's sake I just don't really think she needed to know about every little cut and scrape I got as a child. We can only talk about our "dreams for the future" so many times. I was the first BF she ever had that wasn't clingy and obsessive. Nothing you can do. she's not compatible. Link to post Share on other sites
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