carmelapple Posted February 3, 2004 Share Posted February 3, 2004 help! my boyfriend keeps accussing me of badgering or hassling him when ever i try to say something to him about things he does! it does not matter what the situation is if i ask him to stop doing something that bothers me he says i am hassling him and gets pissy about it. i try to tell him the difference between hassling or badgering someone and simply making a request, still he continues to accusse me of these stupid behavior. what can i do to stop him from making these insults, as i take them extremely personally when he says this, i feel that he thinks i am a nag. is this on me or him? my hang that i should learn to avoid/ignore or what can i do about this if anything? Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted February 3, 2004 Share Posted February 3, 2004 Ditch him and get another one. He hasn't grown up yet. He's still trying to shake off Mommy's 'control' over him. People like this are bad prospects for relationships. They freak and think every single thing you ask or say is 'control'. Find a grownup who understands communication and compromise and that people are entitled to make reasonable requests of one another. Link to post Share on other sites
doniker Posted February 3, 2004 Share Posted February 3, 2004 what tone of voice do you use? I know people that have that tone of voice that sounds as if they are constantly irritated and sound like they are nagging. hey moimeme....how you you know this guy is the problem? This woman may be a total nag. Link to post Share on other sites
carmelapple Posted February 3, 2004 Share Posted February 3, 2004 LOL, i am NOT a total nag i guarantee you that! i ask him things in a regular tone of voice, for fear of retribution anyway or making him even more pissier since i know how he will respond when i ask him these things, so i try to be gentle as i can. does not really seem to matter how i ask him anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
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