Question about having a hot Wife

[hungbro]

Hello everyone, My Wife is extremely beautiful and attractive, I can understand that she'll get a lot of attention but it seems everywhere we go in public or social events guy's keep eyeing her up and bending over backwards for her.

This makes her confidence very high even though she try's to play it all down it makes life awkward for me at times. Guy's who are total strangers will come up to her and pay her complements when we're out together. I'm not the jealous type but it's driving me up the wall.

I know I should feel proud and privileged to have a beautiful Wife but all this attention makes things difficult.

How do others deal with this problem? Do you feel I'd be happier with a more average looking partner?

[Green]

I wouldn't really consider it a problem. I mean you knew what you were getting yourself into... SHE WAS A HOT GF FIRST RIGHT?

 

Look seriusly I say you just have to enjoy it. All my gf's have been hot IMO including my current one. I actualy enjoy the attention of being out with a hot women and find it funny to see men looking.

 

When I travel especialy like to Vegas or Italy guys will just walk up to and hit on your gf/wife right in front of you. I just laugh it off.

 

Enjoy it and incourage your wife to look and feel pretty.

 

The only advice I will give you which would be the same advice if you had a UGLY wife would be NEVER allow her to hang out ALONE with any guys (no dinners, movie nights, ect.) I mean its cool if she has male friends which she talks to at dinner parties you both go to or at work, BUT BOTH OF YOU NEED TO KEEP BOUNDARIES WITH THE OPOSITE SEX>

 

But as for your wife being HOT I say enjoy it and the stares, because you have to know people are also looking at you and either HIGH FIVING You in their mind or JELOUSE and hating you. You should be tickled by either lol

[Maladjusted]

Well, if she is hot she is hot, there isn't much you can do about that and I would enjoy it. Does she wear revealing clothing when you guys go out?

[Mimolicious]

Do you feel I'd be happier with a more average looking partner?

 

A little late there, dont you think? I mean, you would leave your wife for a more 'average' looking partner? Is it that you feel inferior and being with someone less attractive than your W would give YOU the spotlight?

Jealousy comes in different forms!

 

If she is super attractive, not much you can do about that. The one thing you can do is be supportive and up to part. What are your stats?

Both partners being equally attractive makes them a power couple.

[hungbro]

I'm not at all bad myself 6" 2 tall, athletic build,good looks etc. When we're out any where we go she gets 50% more attention than any other woman. When were leaving friends functions i.e barbaque you'll get the guy's queueing up to kiss her goobye albeit on her cheek.

[jenifer1972]

You have a Lambourgini. People will stop on the street and look at it because it is unusual to see a car that beautiful. Comes with the territory. You really want a Honda?

[whatadeer26]

My girlfriend was a knock out. When we would go to clubs every guy would look at her and try to talk to her. I know how you feel. It is annoying, but remember in the end, THAT IS YOUR WIFE. You go home with her. It doesn't sound like you suspect anything, so be proud and happy.

[seibert253]

At one time she was your hott GF. Eventually she chose to become your hott wife. That is where your focus should be.

If she didn't want to be with you, she wouldn't.

[hungbro]

Thanks everyone for the replys, I know I'm onto a good thing she does'nt even wear really ott clothes. It's just annoying when for example you go to the toilet at a social function and come back and 3 guys have moved from the other side of the venue and are hitting on her or "just being social and friendly"

It's nice having a knock out woman, but it's seems like a lot of extra grief and hassle.

I've looked at other relationships from the outside and it seems more doors open for pretty girls and not so pretty girls have a different attitude in a relationship. They take less for granted in a round about way.

I do believe a guy gets a lot less headache and grey hairs with a 5/10 girl as opposed to a 9/10 girl.

Please feel free to air your views on this one.

[whatadeer26]

Do you think you would be attracted to a 5/10? You first need to be physically attracted to a person before you move on to dating and such.

 

Atleast that is how I am.

[Feelin Frisky]

Assuming you've given her good ones, I might suggest that she show off her rings a bit more. Maybe today people don't care or check but if I see a rock and/or wedding band, I keep my seat and just think "lucky bastard".

[Krytie TV]

Guy's who are total strangers will come up to her and pay her complements when we're out together. I'm not the jealous type but it's driving me up the wall.

 

Kinda surprised no one commented on this. Guys checking out your wife is one thing. Total strangers walking up to her while you two are out together more often than not deserves a pop in the mouth. Make sure you're standing up for yourself and her or she will likely start losing respect for you for not "protecting" her in public.

[threebyfate]

Kinda surprised no one commented on this. Guys checking out your wife is one thing. Total strangers walking up to her while you two are out together more often than not deserves a pop in the mouth. Make sure you're standing up for yourself and her or she will likely start losing respect for you for not "protecting" her in public.

Strangers rarely approach a woman who's with a man who's 6'2", athletically built, just to pay her a compliment. Something's not right in Kansas. I guarantee it.

[Green]

Kinda surprised no one commented on this. Guys checking out your wife is one thing. Total strangers walking up to her while you two are out together more often than not deserves a pop in the mouth. Make sure you're standing up for yourself and her or she will likely start losing respect for you for not "protecting" her in public.

 

You can't just pop people in the mouth as you put it with out ending up in JAIL.

 

The only time I would use violence is if it was in self-defense of myself or another.

 

Strangers rarely approach a woman who's with a man who's 6'2", athletically built, just to pay her a compliment. Something's not right in Kansas. I guarantee it.

 

Strangers will aproach a hot woman regaurdless. I'm taller then this guy and in great shape yet I'll still see guys stare or say things to my gf.

 

Not to mention she does things by herself and no doubt has men hitting on her.

 

He just has to learn not to care about that.

[threebyfate]

Strangers will aproach a hot woman regaurdless. I'm taller then this guy and in great shape yet I'll still see guys stare or say things to my gf.

 

Not to mention she does things by herself and no doubt has men hitting on her.

 

He just has to learn not to care about that.

Staring is one thing, approaching and paying compliments to a complete stranger are another if the guy next to her looks like he can take care of himself. I know what you look like and you don't look intimidating.

 

If your girlfriend is experiencing being hit on while she's right next to you with bodily contact between you like arm around her or holding your hand, these guys are either jacking with you or she's giving them the "come hither" eye contact and/or body language.

 

We're not talking about immature catcalling or honking when driving by. That kind of thing happens due to the idiocy of these guys who feel safe within the relative anonymity of their cars.

 

Now if SOs are physically separated from each other, like at a nightclub when you're walking through a crowded room, that's something completely different. Or like at a BBQ, where the two of you are on different sides of the yard or room.

[Woman In Blue]

Is it that you feel inferior and being with someone less attractive than your W would give YOU the spotlight?

Jealousy comes in different forms!

Judging by his ridiculous screen name "Hung bro," I'd say he's feeling plenty inferior by this situation.

 

I think there's merit to the song, "If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife...."

[txsilkysmoothe]

I'm not at all bad myself 6" 2 tall, athletic build,good looks etc. When we're out any where we go she gets 50% more attention than any other woman. When were leaving friends functions i.e barbaque you'll get the guy's queueing up to kiss her goobye albeit on her cheek.

 

 

Come on, seriously?

 

Who does this? How do they know a kiss is welcome?

[phineas]

This is where personality comes in.

I dated a really hot woman once or twice when younger & dudes do come up & hit on them when your standing right there.

 

One ate up the attention.

 

The other one basically insulted the guy for being so rude / stupid / full of themselves to hit on a woman who was obviously with someone.

 

both women almost got me into fights for different reasons. LOL!

[make me believe]

Strangers rarely approach a woman who's with a man who's 6'2", athletically built, just to pay her a compliment. Something's not right in Kansas. I guarantee it.

 

Yes. This stood out to me, too. Checking her out is one thing, but if they are actually approaching her while her husband is right next to her, there HAS to be a reason other than her appearance. I can't imagine the average guy being ballsy enough to approach another woman and tell her how hot she is right in front of her husband! Come on. She has to be doing something to signal that their attention is welcome. Eye contact, suggestive looks or body language....something.

 

Additionally, male acquaintances are "lining up" to kiss her when they leave get-togethers? Really?? And they don't do this to the other wives or girlfriends in the group? Again -- this woman is doing something to make them feel that this kind of behavior is ok.

[alyssatranswarrior]

Suggest her to do photo modeling so she is getting paid to have men jerk off over her after they see her.

 

It also may ground her into the belief she won't always be the most sought after in the crowd looks wise if 20 other women on the shoots are getting hit on and she isn't so much.

 

Anyway, my real opinion is ;

 

The guy = too weak

The wife = too flirty (dressy clothes or not..)

 

Girls should NEVER be flirty with a guy while their husband is next to them. They should always repell, its just fair on the man in her life to do so.

[jenifer1972]

I agree. She is doing something to ENCOURAGE this amount of come on from other guys. Guys are not stupid. They are not going to go up to some woman because they need practice being 'shot down'. She is giving come hither vibes whether you see it or not.

 

I am attractive also, and I see men looking at me in public venues, but if my husband goes to the restroom and some guy might thing I was alone and come up, he would quickly get the message nicely that I was with my husband and I was not interested. There would be no "que for kisses" at the end of an evening...

[hungbro]

Thanks for all your replys,I have plenty of food for thought. I'll try and relax about the whole situ a little and not fight the situation. What's to be will be, at the end of the day like many of you say she is with me after all.

[hungbro]

The thing is other women at functions friends or not seem to love her company and enjoy being around her. I'd imagine if she were giving out signal's to men etc the other women would'nt take to kindly to this behaviour, it's the opposite. That makes me feel the problem is in my court? Or maybe I'm just being over protective and insecure?

[imagine]

Hi Hungbro, My wife was a very hot number when we got married. A couple friends tried to deter her from taking up with me (some friends).

 

A woman gives herself over completely to a guy when she gets married. Normally two years after marriage these feelings fade. Do not fail to pay her compliments about her inner person.

 

I urge you to study what a POJA means. Check out the articles at marriage builders.com.

[lordWilhelm]

I have a similar problem, and although my GF does her best to send the appropriate message I'd like to do my share as well in minimizing unwanted attention. Could you guys suggest some behaviours that would help in this regard?