I feel like I'm loosing my Dad

[LuckyCharm]

I haven't seen my Dad for over a month now and that's totally not like him, he normally comes to visit at least once a week mostly to see my Daughter.

 

Last I saw my Dad on June 22nd....

 

Now for a little back round...I got back in contact with my Dad after 18 years and my Dad offered my DH and I to come live with him in the States will we can stand on our feet (I'm a US citizen DH isn't).

From day 1 my Dad treated my DH like dirt but we had no money to go back to DH's country (we sold everything we had) and at the time I was pregnant so I couldn't work. My Dad kept putting us through horrible situations and we just kept shut till we were able to move out almost a year later. We thought of speaking up for our selves but decided not to just to keep the peace in the family. only my Dad kept treating my DH like dirt and some times even me but we also kept shut.

My Dad's gf started treating my DH very nasty, always making rude comments and eventually she started treating me poorly too.

 

So even though my DH always feels uncomfortable visiting my Dad he said we need to make a better effort and visit them more (gf lives with Dad).

so a day before mothers day we visit and it was just awful...my Dad tried giving my 18 month old some beer even after I told him No he still argued with my DH and I how he's always right and how he's smarter than us.

Dad's gf was also showing my Daughter some vid's on YT and she knows we don't like it when our Daughter watches things she should be seeing so my DH went to get her and was a bit rude about it so after a minute he went back and explained nicely why we dont want our Daughter watching too much tv. we thought she understood and everything was o.k.

 

DH had to go home to do some work and said he'll pick me and our Daughter up to bring us home. but my Dad said he'd drive us home and in the morning when I was getting ready to go home Dad's gf suggested she'd watch my Daughter for me so I can get ready. I thought that was nice of her so I said o.k and the next thing I know I go out to the living room and see Dad's gf but didn't see my Daughter so I asked where she is and Dad's gf says "Oh she's in the bathroom." I ask "By her self??" she reply's "Well yeah, I can't stop her if she knows how to open all the doors." My Daughter is only 18 months old and should not be left alone in there especially the fact that I walked in there just in time when she was about to open the cabinet with all the cleaning products. I thought I would just let that go too just to keep the peace and just never have her watch my Daughter again.

 

But when My Dad drove me home I went to put my Daughter down for her nap and meanwhile my Dad took my DH out side to talk. only he never let my DH talk and explain all my Dad did was lecture him on how he hurt his gf by taking our daughter from watching stupid movies and told my DH if he can't apologize and behave he's no longer welcome in his house.

DH was really hurt and called Dad's gf up right away to apologize but what does she says when my DH apologizes? "I can't talk right now, I'm busy shopping."

 

Anyhow, Since my DH has tried calling my Dad but he'll never answer, he won't even answer me unless I leave a message he'll call back. and when I finally got a hold of him I told him I wanted to talk to him and asked him if he could come down to see me. and he said "O.k" so I told him that whenever he's able to come over to give me a call.

2 weeks went by and he never called so I called again and since he never answers our calls any more I left him a message reminding him I walked to talk to him. he calls back and asked when I wanted to come over to talk...(btw, ever since what he said to DH, DH doesn't feel comfortable at all visiting my Dad that's why I need him to come over) I told him I need him to come over here so he said o.k and he'd give me a call when he could.

A week went by and didn't hear from him and since it was fathers day I knew I had to give him at least a call (of course he doesn't answer) so I left him a message. then he calls me back a day later and leave a message as if I never asked to talk and just says thanks for the father day wishes and that if I could make it over to his place cause he had a visiting relative...

 

After that I just stopped calling, i don't want to seem like a pest but this time he and his gf have crossed all line. I am trying to book an appointment for some Christian counseling but till I get an appointment I could really use the advice, do I keep calling and leaving him messages or should I just stop calling till he's ready to talk?

[LuckyCharm]

Almost 150 views and no reply..?

I really could use some advice here...nothing has changed since except for me calling him one more time on his b-day. again he didn't answer so after a few calls I had no choice but to leave him a message.

He calls me back the next day and sounded very weird just saying some of my mail ended up at his house and asked me for my address so he'll send it to me...that sounded strange cause normally just come over.

 

I have been trying to set up an appointment for some Christian counseling but I'm never able to get through to any one so till then if anybody has any advice I can really use it cause my Dad won't call me anymore unless I call him and even then he won't answer unless I leave a massage.