Still dealing with aftermath of abusive relationship is that normal?

[SpanksTheMonkey]

Hi guys I was in a extremely abusive relationship with an alcoholic partner for about 3 years mentally and then finally physicality. It ended going on a little over a year ago now thank god!

 

I took a few months about 4 if I remember right after we went our septate ways to just get myself back on my feet. I then met a good guy and now a year later were still together and for the most part happy as lary I can truly see myself with this person for the long term.

 

How ever I still can't help but feel I have issues from the past is that normal? should I seek help for it you think or will it fade away in time? I know I should just let the past go but some times it creeps back into my mind.

 

I was also the victim a massive robbery back then they took everything I owned im fairly sure it was an inside job by the partner anyways im now back on my feet for the most part in that regard but I find I have major trust issues in some ways as a result.

 

I guess I just want some feedback on my situation from long term survivors of abuse dose it get easer to forget/trust again as time goes on? Thanks in advance.

[SpanksTheMonkey]

33 views and no responses really? This is a very real issue for me I do my best to help others I can't help but feel a little jilted/saddened by this.

[strongertoday]

I am 2 days out of a relationship like that.... so hard to cope... still got makeup covering the bruises

 

I dont have any advice but your story at least gives me hope

 

thank you

[BlackLovely]

33 views and no responses really? This is a very real issue for me I do my best to help others I can't help but feel a little jilted/saddened by this.

 

I understand how this may hurt you. I felt that way too when I got only one response

[BlackLovely]

33 views and no responses really? This is a very real issue for me I do my best to help others I can't help but feel a little jilted/saddened by this.

 

 

I understand how this might upset you. I have felt that way myself. Perhaps you can focus on other activities so that you won't be compelled to look for responses.

 

Yes, it is normal. I am a survivor of child abuse and I still get flashbacks more than 15 years later.

 

I would recommend a therapist to make sense of your experience.

 

Good luck sweetie. Message me if you need to talk. *hugs*

[rocket182]

I've never had a boyfriend physically abuse me, but I've had multiple who were emotionally abusive. The most extreme being my first boyfriend. it doesn't sound like much compared to stories of people getting hurt and such, but it's shown me how much stuff like that can stay with you. Even now, I'm in a great relationship and I still have flashbacks of the stuff I went through before and get scared. Really I think the best thing to do is to talk about it with somebody you really do trust, because when you've been let down by so many people in your life it's hard to move on. I found it hard to talk to a counselor about it because it was a stranger and I didn't feel like I could trust them. What helped me the most was to talk to close friends that I really trusted to try and get it off my shoulders. Good luck to you.