why can't people be happy when you are starting to look good?

[Lucky555]

i recently lost some weight. i became a lot more motivated and focused on myself after a break up. I was not obese to begin with but i always desired a flat stomach and nice body.

 

well i have 10 lbs to lose before i am at 115. I am only 5'3. I know at 115 i am not going to have a flat stomach but i will make another goal after that.

 

So right now i look ok but not a bikini body yet..what i really want!

 

I am a young woman in the 20's and my mother is commenting in indirect ways of how skinny some people are from not eating. The fact is i lost weight because i cut the carbs and the sugars and the sweets for the most part!! All the things that make you fat!! I have been doing this slowly for over a year and this summer really have taken the time to watch and control what i eat. Things have been tempting but im keeping focused.

 

I am actually not even thin. I consider myself still fat as I would not look hot in a bikini right now.

 

My mom is over weight and she does not like her self image at all! however she does not want to do anything about it.

basically because she has such low self esteem about her body, i should be fat and be like her??

 

Really i am so sick of her indirect comments. I finally am feeling optimistic about looking hot in a bikini and she is jealous!!

 

I was also working in a store this past month and women who were obese were jealous of me too! Some of them. Its so dumb how people are jealous but its like they can do something about their bodies too if they really tried and wanted to!!

 

i envy fit people because it takes a lot of determination to stay fit and get away from the junk food we have so much of today!

[Lucky555]

another thing to get me motivated i started tanning for a few minutes a day and got a nice tan. I know the effects but some exposure is ok. its when you really tan a lot that it becomes a problem. I then get the indirect comments of how i should not tan. this is so funny because im an adult and my mother is trying to control me. really?? lol

[monkeymaid]

is there a question here?

[reservoirdog1]

Try not to let it bother you. They ARE jealous, but that's their issue, not yours. I'm sure some people have actually given you positive comments; focus on those, and ignore the doubters.