rockstarmusician Posted February 5, 2004 Share Posted February 5, 2004 My friend Melissa is the shyest girl I've met in my life. She's 21 (I believe), and she sounds like she's 10. I'm so not kidding you. She sounds like she hasn't gone through puberty yet! Her voice is so high, you know? Well, I would absolutely love to help her get out of her shell and learn to meet some new people and interact with others. Today at lunchtime, she comes up to the table I was sitting at and she's like, "Can I sit here?" I'm like, "Of course you can!" and she said, "Well, I just thought I should ask because I always feel like a loner." I really wish there was some way that I could just get her to loosen up a bit! If she's comfortable, yeah, sometimes she'll start talking, but that's a rare event. I used to be as shy as she was at the beginning of the school year but I grew out of it. So it's not a problem for me anymore but to see someone like her just really bugs me because I just really wish there was something I could do to help her! Link to post Share on other sites
Nameless Posted February 5, 2004 Share Posted February 5, 2004 Find out what she is interested in, what she likes to talk about, or like what she knows atleast. Then you can talk to her about those things. You can introduce her to more ppl and maybe she'll grow out of it. You can always recall what u did to grow out of ur shell. Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted February 5, 2004 Share Posted February 5, 2004 people make themselves who they are, they bring it on themselves what type of person they are. if they're shy, or outgoing, or full of confidence...they choose to be that way. shy ppl are usually unconfident about themselves, you cant force her to change just like that. nervousness also leads to shyness. do her a favor, when u go chill with friends ask her each time to come along...more interaction w/other ppl leads to socializing, which decreases shyness and increases confidence... the best way to cure yourself of something is to expose yourself to the perfect medicine. in other words, exposure to ppl that you want to be like/ become. Link to post Share on other sites
zidie Posted February 6, 2004 Share Posted February 6, 2004 [color=red]she is 21, and she sounds like she's 10[\red][\quote] Good thing! let her take time to grow, no rush! no push! respect and accept the way she is. she is much luckier than these 10 years old who look & act like 21 years old! late bloomers are always something! Link to post Share on other sites
joel Posted June 30, 2004 Share Posted June 30, 2004 is she asian gal because i found lots of asian gals seem to be quite and shy. i'm a asian guy btw. white gals from i see seem to be more out spoken Originally posted by rockstarmusician My friend Melissa is the shyest girl I've met in my life. She's 21 (I believe), and she sounds like she's 10. I'm so not kidding you. She sounds like she hasn't gone through puberty yet! Her voice is so high, you know? Well, I would absolutely love to help her get out of her shell and learn to meet some new people and interact with others. Today at lunchtime, she comes up to the table I was sitting at and she's like, "Can I sit here?" I'm like, "Of course you can!" and she said, "Well, I just thought I should ask because I always feel like a loner." I really wish there was some way that I could just get her to loosen up a bit! If she's comfortable, yeah, sometimes she'll start talking, but that's a rare event. I used to be as shy as she was at the beginning of the school year but I grew out of it. So it's not a problem for me anymore but to see someone like her just really bugs me because I just really wish there was something I could do to help her! Link to post Share on other sites
honey2005 Posted July 21, 2004 Share Posted July 21, 2004 I'm white and I'm shy. Link to post Share on other sites
RoboHobo Posted July 21, 2004 Share Posted July 21, 2004 Yeah, white peeps are also shy. I was the shy guy sitting in the corner, and I'm still very quiet. You need to accept her as she is, she will change in time. What you can do is create an environment that will help her to come out of her shell. It's probably different for everyone, but I found that being in a small group of friends who would ask me questions during conversations helped to get me included. One on one conversations are also great, if you can trust one person you will slowly learn to trust others. She will probably always be quiet, but you will at least be able to get her to participate and feel included. Don't push too hard, that will scare her off. The other thing that helped me was getting a part time job where I was forced to interact with customers. Kind of a sink or swim situation. I still can't handle being in large loud groups though. I think it's really cool that you care for her by the way. You're being a good friend. She'll appreciate that. Link to post Share on other sites
dudesomewhere Posted July 21, 2004 Share Posted July 21, 2004 I knew a girl with a really high voice. She always said she was shy but she also flirted with everyone and talked to everybody about everything. But she kept saying she was shy. I think she just thought it was kind of cool to tell people that because of her voice. Yeah, she wasn't shy and she got around. I just remember the whole oddness of it. If you could imagine how strange...it would be as if Pamela Anderson were to tell you she was shy. hehe, very weird that one indeed. Link to post Share on other sites
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