Remembering the first time you met your SO...

[MelanieLynMarie]

So I'm yet to meet my SO in person, its our first year anniversary today, its sad that we couldn't be together to celebrate. But it got me thinking to when the day comes to when we meet...how did it go for you when you met them? Are there any expectations for the first time you meet? i don't want to intrude on your private life or anything, but i'm wondering did anyone enagage in sex when they met their SO for the first time? Its just been a common topic that keeps coming up, and i'm just wondering if other LDR couples have discussed that and curious to know how that day went.

[Pyro]

I remember it well. It was only 4 months ago.

 

I was running frantically through the airport to get to her. I was nervous and excited at the same time. I made it to the baggage pick-up area looking for her and apparently she saw me but pretended not to. I guess she was scared or something. I finally caught my first glimpse of her sitting down pretending not to notice me. I walked up to her and we gave the biggest hug to each other. It was the happiest moment of my life.

 

Everything else afterwards was instant chemistry.

[MelanieLynMarie]

awww thats really cute. lol, sounds like what i would do. See him, pretend i didn't, and wait for him to come up to me .

[Pyro]

LOL, that is amusing. Maybe she was nervous? Sounds like something I would do.

 

We met again in August still as friends, and then in October as a couple. October trip I took a cab out to his apt in Ann Arbor (he was just getting out of class). It was one of the most awkward hugs in my life! But everything after that was magic.

 

She was nervous, but I like to tease her about it.

 

I just had an interview for a job in Ann Arbor yesterday. The toughest interview that I have ever had. My fingers are crossed.

[Citizen Erased]

awww thats really cute. lol, sounds like what i would do. See him, pretend i didn't, and wait for him to come up to me .

I was nervous, what can I say. Gave me time to get myself together.

 

He missed the part where he walked me to the car and gave me a favourite flower of mine. We fit so perfectly after that first part of being nervous, he kissed me when I was getting some rest after that long time of travelling and it was fireworks, hot as hell. I doubt anything could have stopped me from jumping his bones then.

[MelanieLynMarie]

I just had an interview for a job in Ann Arbor yesterday. The toughest interview that I have ever had. My fingers are crossed.

 

Hope everything went smoothly, and good luck

[MelanieLynMarie]

I was nervous, what can I say. Gave me time to get myself together.

 

He missed the part where he walked me to the car and gave me a favourite flower of mine. We fit so perfectly after that first part of being nervous, he kissed me when I was getting some rest after that long time of travelling and it was fireworks, hot as hell. I doubt anything could have stopped me from jumping his bones then.

 

Awww you guys are adorable. Wish your relationship all the best. It makes me excited for the day I meet my SO.

[Enchanted Girl]

I believe the first time I was ever with my boyfriend was around June 2006. We had been dating since October of 2005, so we met each other after about eight months together.

 

Anyway, when I met him, I was incredibly nervous, so was he. He lives across the country from me and my family actually (luckily) wanted to go on a cross country road trip, so I winded up meeting him while on that. I drove to his house and I said to my parents,"OMG. I'm going to die. I can't knock on his door. You guys do it." I hid behind the car as he opened the door. He was nervous, too, so he actually came out with his eyes closed. I stared at him for a short while, until he opened his eyes, then I ran for my life behind the car hiding from him and giggling hysterically. He chased me around the car a few times until I finally calmed down enough to let him catch me. LOL. I actually get this nervous EVERY TIME he visits me. He always has to chase me a little bit in the airport or something before I can handle being with him again. XD

 

But all in all, it's an amazing experience. You see them on webcams and talk to them on the phone, but you don't realize how big of wall is actually between you until you're with them in person for the first time. He was exactly the same in person as he was on the phone, but more REAL. I can't explain it, but that's how it felt and always feels. The phone distorts voices and makes them sound like they are far away. It's not the same.

 

I spent the rest of the trip in lust with him. His parents wouldn't give us any privacy and yet complained about how much we kissed. What did they expect though, seriously? I'm always in a blissful haze every time I am with him. You never take being able to touch the other person or see them for granted. In fact, my boyfriend just visited me recently. He left about a week ago and seriously, I feel like crying remembering what he felt like.

 

If you have sex with him right away, it's not abnormal in my opinion. I was totally physically CRAZY about him the first time I was with him. So yea. I had very little self-control. In fact, he was kind of freaked out by it because he wasn't quite ready for all the things I wanted when I wanted them.

[aerogurl87]

So I'm yet to meet my SO in person, its our first year anniversary today, its sad that we couldn't be together to celebrate. But it got me thinking to when the day comes to when we meet...how did it go for you when you met them? Are there any expectations for the first time you meet? i don't want to intrude on your private life or anything, but i'm wondering did anyone enagage in sex when they met their SO for the first time? Its just been a common topic that keeps coming up, and i'm just wondering if other LDR couples have discussed that and curious to know how that day went.

 

Ahh the day I first met my boyfriend in person. I remember it vividly still as I'd been up for the past 24 hours trying to scurry and get everything ready before I took off (and so I wouldn't miss my 6am flight). 12 hours after I took off I landed in the city next to his small town and it was raining like crazy, and there he was at the gate, leaned up against the wall in a black leather jacket looking like someone out of the book The Outsiders. I was expecting him to be great I'll admit and I'm glad I wasn't disappointed. The only thing I wasn't expecting was for him to be better than great, and for our first meeting to end up being like having one of my best friends from home pick me up from the airport as he and I drove crazily around looking for Walmart so I could get some gummy worms. We also had sex our first night, which wasn't planned but the moment felt so right and things fell into place.

[HeavenOrHell]

He first contacted me online beginning of January this year, we'd both come out of long term relationships last July/August, 18 years for me, 11 for him, at first we talked a lot about our ex's and how we wanted them back, bit by bit though we got closer and didn't want our ex's back anymore. We started talking on the phone a lot and then Skype. We started talking about meeting up but were worried we were putting too many expectations on it, so we said ok, let's just say that even if we have only friendship then that's fine and let's not look beyond that. But of course we hoped we'd feel more IRL, like we did online and on the phone, we didn't say we loved each other or anything like that before we met, there was just this undercurrent of something brewing!

We met at the end of April, met in London, I live in the UK, he's in another part of Europe.

I'd wondered and worried about affection and intimacy with a new partner, we both felt we'd lost the love of our lives, I was concerned that being with someone else would feel wrong, I had no idea how it would feel.

We were both nervous when we met at the station, my first thoughts were he looks like all his photos and he looks young for his age which he'd told me he does!

We had a quick nervous hug

On the way to the hotel I stopped and said let's have a proper hug, so we did and it was lovely. At the hotel it was a bit awkward at first, haha, a bit like now what So I hugged him again (he's shyer with things like that at first) and basically we spent the next few hours hugging and kissing, it felt wonderful and we were both relieved! We had a lovely weekend together, came back to my house (300 miles from London) for a couple of days too. Yes we did sleep together the first time we met as we felt really close, he didn't feel like a stranger. I've never slept with someone on a first date in the past, with someone local as it were, as in the first or second time I've met them.

We met again in June and meeting again in 10 days. I'm in love Hope he is too, he seems to be

I would have found it hard to wait a year until meeting, the anticipation...I felt I couldn't really settle until me and my partner met and luckily we didn't have to wait too long, couldn't settle as I wanted to know for sure if we were going to hit it off or not. I didn't know if the sparks/chemistry would be there until we met IRL.

I don't know if I could go into a relationship where we lived TOO far apart, I am phobic about flying, so it would be a non starter, and I couldn't handle not seeing them for months But I guess if they're special I guess you find a way to make it work. At least I can get the train to see my partner even if we are in different countries.

 

So I'm yet to meet my SO in person, its our first year anniversary today, its sad that we couldn't be together to celebrate. But it got me thinking to when the day comes to when we meet...how did it go for you when you met them? Are there any expectations for the first time you meet? i don't want to intrude on your private life or anything, but i'm wondering did anyone enagage in sex when they met their SO for the first time? Its just been a common topic that keeps coming up, and i'm just wondering if other LDR couples have discussed that and curious to know how that day went.

[madjac74]

Its been one year and 2 weeks since our first date and i remember it perfectly. We met on a dating site and I had seen pics and we emailed and texted and I was definately interested. But I had no expectations because my dating life had been full of disasters and disappointments since my divorce.

 

We met at a local pub and when I first saw her my jaw about hit the floor. Her pics did her no justice at all. I was suddenly very nervous but that didnt last long because we hit it off quickly. The conversation was amazing and there were no awkward silences like you have on bad dates. We laughed so much and I immediately felt so comfortable with her.

 

I actually had to go to work that night so the date ended early (We talked about this date many times and I found out she thought I used work as a way out of the date) She was absolutely wrong! I ended up texting her after work in the early morning knowing she might be up cuz she went out with friends and she invited me over and we layed in bed and talked til dawn. I was a perfect gentleman of course but I did watch her sleep alittle

[climbergirl]

Unbeknownst to me, an old high school friend (20 + years ago) was talking to her (guy) friend about getting the two of us together since last November, but didn't ask me if I'd be willing to meet him until early spring. What is strange is that she and I have had almost no contact other than FB and even there it was pretty nonexistant. She wrote me that she didn't know what possessed her to bring him up to me, but "maybe someone out there has bigger plans".

 

We emailed and talked on the phone (not really knowing what the other looked like) and finally agreed to meet. We both made it clear to our mutual friend that the premise would only be sharing common interests with one another and not as a 'date'. We pulled that off for about 10 of the 12 hours we spent together that first day. We didn't sleep together, but had one heavy make out session.

 

As for when I first saw him-- he had a helmet on when he came to pick me up, but when he took it off? Wow. I just told him a few days ago that I wish I could draw because my memory of that moment is so vivid.

 

Maybe no expectations was/is a good thing. We both think that whatever we have gone through in the past has brought us to each other.

[carvidep]

We decided to meet as just friends, in case we didn't have that chemistry. We even booked two separate rooms at the same hotel. He was about an hour late picking me up at the airport because the poor guy had been detained at immigration for further questioning. I didn't know this so I was starting to worry that he was a no show. But he called to tell me he was on his way.

 

When I saw him I didn't know what to do! I'd imagined myself running up and jumping on him with a big hug and a smooch, but I just sat there while he asked the lady at the information desk where my flight's baggage claim was. She pointed in my general direction and when he looked, I did that little "heh. hey. it's me." wave. Then we both did the jelly-legged super awkward procession toward each other.

 

I could feel everyone's eyes on us (even if they weren't actually looking) and I went in for a hug, but decided I should also give him his customary 2 cheek greeting kiss. He interpreted that as me wanting a very passionate smooch on the lips which turned into more of a slobber fest on his end. I couldn't help but laugh, which offended him, so I gave him a big hug to make him feel better.

 

Even with that awkward kiss, from the moment we touched and I could smell his cologne, it felt like I'd found the missing piece to my puzzle. I felt 100% safe, comfortable, and at home with him. We were excited to explore the city, but most of the time we didn't get out of his bed until late afternoon.

 

I hope your meeting brings perfect chemistry between you and your man!

[Pyro]

Good luck with that! I am going to start putting in applications for a job in Ann Arbor around February. I worry about finding a job in Michigan, but a friend of mine who is from Novi said as long as you have a car then getting a job should not be a problem. I doubt it is that easy, but I can only hope.

 

Heck no its not that easy. I speak from experience.

 

The job market is very competitive, but it may be easier if you have a certain skill or two.

[Green]

I remember it well. It was only 4 months ago.

 

I was running frantically through the airport to get to her. I was nervous and excited at the same time. I made it to the baggage pick-up area looking for her and apparently she saw me but pretended not to. I guess she was scared or something. I finally caught my first glimpse of her sitting down pretending not to notice me. I walked up to her and we gave the biggest hug to each other. It was the happiest moment of my life.

 

Everything else afterwards was instant chemistry.

 

I was nervous, what can I say. Gave me time to get myself together.

 

He missed the part where he walked me to the car and gave me a favourite flower of mine. We fit so perfectly after that first part of being nervous, he kissed me when I was getting some rest after that long time of travelling and it was fireworks, hot as hell. I doubt anything could have stopped me from jumping his bones then.

 

Haha she saw you but pretended not to classic.

[Pyro]

Haha she saw you but pretended not to classic.

 

nervous to see me? Who would of thought that? I am honored.

[Romance]

We did not have sex the first time we met. However, it was going to be both of our first times. Had we been a little older, perhaps we would have. we slept in the same bed and kissed and cuddled and said I love you, but nothing else. We did have sex on our second meet up, though...after a lot of discussion.

 

 

The first time we met, I was so awkward. He was so happy and excited and nervous, and I couldn't even look him in the eyes. I don't know why, I was very very uncomfortable. It was so weird to be with him.

[nemi26]

i saw him first (i did think shall i wait till he sees me first, to see what he does plus cos of my nerves) but i coudnt resist, i felt confident and ran up and gave him a hug!

 

i find it so cute how you guys can be togther without meeting, because you dont know how your going to be in real but whatever makes you happy!

 

i met him online and met a few weeks after, saw him 6 times in 7 days, because he was going away working for nearly 3 months.

 

i am scared that when he gets back, we learn more about each other and find out we aint really suited but hes worth the wait, so i wont be too fussed about spending all my summer waiting although ill be fussed if we break up, if that makes any sense???