scotteh Posted July 8, 2010 Share Posted July 8, 2010 Well my girlfriend i found out yesterday cheated on me with her best friend who is a guy, I forgave her, but the moment she told me keeps playing in my head and even she dont know if she going to do it again, i dont know what to do and i dont know if i love her anymore, ive been with her for a year, i even have a ring to propose to her with but now i'm not sure Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted July 8, 2010 Share Posted July 8, 2010 Your girlfriend: 1. Cheated on you with her best guy friend 2. She put your health at risk for STD's 3. She disrespected and humiliated you and your relationship. 4. She tells you that she does not know if she will do it again. The answer is yes you are a total fool for staying with her. Her actions and words indicate she has no respect for you whatsoever. If you do not respect yourself then who will? Why would you settle for this? Link to post Share on other sites
H1N1 Posted July 8, 2010 Share Posted July 8, 2010 Well my girlfriend i found out yesterday cheated on me with her best friend who is a guy, I forgave her, but the moment she told me keeps playing in my head and even she dont know if she going to do it again, i dont know what to do and i dont know if i love her anymore, ive been with her for a year, i even have a ring to propose to her with but now i'm not sure Forgiveness and how you deal with the act of cheating are two entirely different things. I think forgiveness is a good thing. I don't think you have to forgive someone right away, because I think you need to let an anger phase set in. You need to go through a series of emotional stages. If you're not angry, then you have no pride, and that's not good. You need to be angry, but then you also need to turn the page. That's what forgiveness is: accepting that someone did something to you that they shouldn't have, but that you can handle life after that and that you don't necessarily have to carry around a grudge forever. Forgiveness is letting go and moving on. Forgiveness is not to be confused with being passive and tolerating crappy behavior, or trusting people who don't deserve to be trusted. In this case, someone you care about -- someone who you thought cared about you in return -- cheated on you. That is a matter of trust. I think you wouldn't be wise to put yourself in a position to have her do this again, but that's just me. It has to be you who decides, and you have to decide the reasons for either staying or moving on. Some people believe that the relationship is worth preserving and that cheating is an incident; others, however, find it impossible to forgive someone until they have actually stopped the relationship and moved on to someone else. You have to decide what's right for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted July 8, 2010 Share Posted July 8, 2010 Yes you are. If you marry her you are out of your mind. Link to post Share on other sites
Daniel89 Posted July 8, 2010 Share Posted July 8, 2010 It's very likely she will do it again. Shes got away with it once, and you've taken her back. It kinda shows her that you don't even mind being cheated on. You can try and forgive her, but gaining trust back from someone who cheated is the most difficult thing you can do. I personally think you should leave her completely if shes not going to change her immaturity. Or, you can just be a snoop with Computer spy software or phone spy software. Its ashame you can't trust anyone nowadays.. Link to post Share on other sites
ComputerJock Posted July 8, 2010 Share Posted July 8, 2010 If you fu$k a friend, then he becomes her lover, and you are 2nd place. Search the internet for Chris and Ashley on Twiturm.com radio. He bought a ring and was going to ask Ashley to marry him when his friends came to him and told him Ashley had been seen out with her FRIEND and they were necking in public. This was after Ashely found the wedding ring and knew Chris was going to ask her to marry him. He dumped her on the air. The second broadcast Chris came back on and said Ashley had admitted she slept with FRIEND for five years, the same amount of time she and Chris had been going together. Dump her and get on with your life. Link to post Share on other sites
reservoirdog1 Posted July 8, 2010 Share Posted July 8, 2010 Among the many reasons you should dump her, one is that if you try to keep the relationship going, she's going to have to completely end contact with her best friend/fyck buddy. Period. Full stop. And even though she will have been in the wrong and will still have been responsible for things coming to that, she'll resent you for requiring her to do so. And anyway, you don't know if you love her anymore. Kick her to the curb, return the ring to the store, and spend the money on a trip somewhere with friends. That would be a far better and less risky investment than marrying her, that's for sure. Link to post Share on other sites
rubberguard Posted July 8, 2010 Share Posted July 8, 2010 Forget her, dude. She doesn't love you. Link to post Share on other sites
Disintegration Posted July 8, 2010 Share Posted July 8, 2010 You can forgive her, but you don't necessarily have to be with her. She said it herself, she isn't sure if she'll do it again. What if you do marry her and she cheats on you during marriage? You should cut your loses and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Iconoclast Posted July 8, 2010 Share Posted July 8, 2010 even she dont know if she going to do it again Game over. Link to post Share on other sites
Author scotteh Posted July 9, 2010 Author Share Posted July 9, 2010 Thank you, you have all been a great help! Link to post Share on other sites
lso802 Posted July 9, 2010 Share Posted July 9, 2010 Yes. I recently broke up with my girl, because she went on a date with some guy her friends fixed her up with. Let her go. Link to post Share on other sites
samspade Posted July 9, 2010 Share Posted July 9, 2010 Dump now. Forgive later. Link to post Share on other sites
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