K'aycie Posted July 27, 2010 Share Posted July 27, 2010 I'm doing much better, finally. Link to post Share on other sites
Thorgs Posted July 27, 2010 Share Posted July 27, 2010 =( ...same here my friend. I'm young, I shouldn't be in this situation. My friend actually texted me to come over and grill and have some drinks, but it was just her and her bf...I declined. I'm not up to anything. Well, at least you live in Boston area...that's a great place for us mid 20 y/o's. I'm stuck outside of Hartford and the social scene isn't too great, unless all you're into is clubs and drinking. Anyways, tomorrow is a new day. Have you thought about writing a letter to his parents apologizing? Maybe they don't know you're really shy. I don't know if it would matter or not, but at least you can make things right with them...even though some might think it's pointless. Link to post Share on other sites
jen_r Posted July 27, 2010 Share Posted July 27, 2010 Well, at least you live in Boston area...that's a great place for us mid 20 y/o's. I'm stuck outside of Hartford and the social scene isn't too great, unless all you're into is clubs and drinking. Anyways, tomorrow is a new day. Have you thought about writing a letter to his parents apologizing? Maybe they don't know you're really shy. I don't know if it would matter or not, but at least you can make things right with them...even though some might think it's pointless. Yeah I live in Boston, but I'm not into clubs or bars...I used to be, but I kind of grew out of that phase. I have written his mother an email and she seemed to be willing to give me a second chance, but then my ex started some crap with me and he went to his mom and told him a bunch of stuff i was doing - crying and calling him a bunch and I guess they just decided they had had it with me. It's a hopeless situation at this point because he wants nothing to do with me, he is absolutly done. I'm not, but that doesn't matter - does it? You're in hartford? I would think there would be a little bit of a social scene, isnt that a major city in CT? Link to post Share on other sites
Thorgs Posted July 27, 2010 Share Posted July 27, 2010 Yeah I live in Boston, but I'm not into clubs or bars...I used to be, but I kind of grew out of that phase. I have written his mother an email and she seemed to be willing to give me a second chance, but then my ex started some crap with me and he went to his mom and told him a bunch of stuff i was doing - crying and calling him a bunch and I guess they just decided they had had it with me. It's a hopeless situation at this point because he wants nothing to do with me, he is absolutly done. I'm not, but that doesn't matter - does it? You're in hartford? I would think there would be a little bit of a social scene, isnt that a major city in CT? Yeah, I'm not into the bar/club scene anymore. Sorry that he is being so difficult. At least you can look back later in life and say you didn't give up. Hartford area is great, lots of outdoor stuff to do, but I don't have any family here and my friends that I made (I just moved here a couple years ago) turned out to be very sketchy...so I'm a lone ranger Link to post Share on other sites
wrencn Posted July 27, 2010 Share Posted July 27, 2010 That's the worst part, it would be so much easier without innocent kids involved. I'm moving out at the end of next week to 'give her some space' as she puts it. Gonna have to find somewhere for me and my scruffy dog. I've never felt this low but reading the posts and comments on here is giving me hope for the future. Thanks guys... Scruffydog Oh it would be so much easier if we didn't have kids. I would be back in Texas with my family not here in Va, where he is the only person I know sigh. Ugh you got the "space" talk too huh? Well I'm giving his ass infinite space. My door only swings one way. I hope you and your scruffy dog find a nice place to stay and happiness. Link to post Share on other sites
Thorgs Posted July 27, 2010 Share Posted July 27, 2010 Oh it would be so much easier if we didn't have kids. I would be back in Texas with my family not here in Va, where he is the only person I know sigh. Ugh you got the "space" talk too huh? Well I'm giving his ass infinite space. My door only swings one way. I hope you and your scruffy dog find a nice place to stay and happiness. Is that you in your avatar? Looks like you have a scruffy dog too Link to post Share on other sites
wrencn Posted July 27, 2010 Share Posted July 27, 2010 Is that you in your avatar? Looks like you have a scruffy dog too Yup that is me. I don't have her anymore though. She was a terror lol! And she was my husbands. Link to post Share on other sites
Thorgs Posted July 27, 2010 Share Posted July 27, 2010 Yup that is me. I don't have her anymore though. She was a terror lol! And she was my husbands. Oh sorry Link to post Share on other sites
wrencn Posted July 27, 2010 Share Posted July 27, 2010 Oh sorry No worries. I got rid of both dogs in my life Link to post Share on other sites
Thorgs Posted July 27, 2010 Share Posted July 27, 2010 No worries. I got rid of both dogs in my life At least you are being positive, I wish I could be right now! Link to post Share on other sites
wrencn Posted July 27, 2010 Share Posted July 27, 2010 At least you are being positive, I wish I could be right now! fake it til you make it. It works...sometimes. Link to post Share on other sites
agonizingoverthis Posted July 27, 2010 Share Posted July 27, 2010 My grief has no bounds. I cry every day. Therapy and meds don't help. I want to die, but I won't do it. I haven't been able to accept that she doesn't want me. Link to post Share on other sites
jen_r Posted July 27, 2010 Share Posted July 27, 2010 My grief has no bounds. I cry every day. Therapy and meds don't help. I want to die, but I won't do it. I haven't been able to accept that she doesn't want me. I feel exactly the same f**king way. It's almost as if death would be easier than to deal with this gut wrenching pain. I didn't know a heart could actually hurt. Link to post Share on other sites
jen_r Posted July 27, 2010 Share Posted July 27, 2010 Oh god, if i'm already crying at this hour then I can't imagine the rest of the day going any better. Why doesn't he care that I am hurting and suffering right now? I don't understand how I can go from an important person in his life to virtually no one. Link to post Share on other sites
wrencn Posted July 27, 2010 Share Posted July 27, 2010 My grief has no bounds. I cry every day. Therapy and meds don't help. I want to die, but I won't do it. I haven't been able to accept that she doesn't want me. How long have you been on the meds? You may need to try another combination. It takes about 3 weeks for an antidepressant to kick in, but anti anxiety medicines work a lot faster. Getting on an anti-anxiety med is what finally stopped the spontaneous crying outbursts I had. Good luck, and I promise when people tell you it gets better it is the truth. I mean the sadness is still there but the "I wish I was dead" feeling goes away. If it doesn't talk to your doctor please. Link to post Share on other sites
wrencn Posted July 27, 2010 Share Posted July 27, 2010 Oh god, if i'm already crying at this hour then I can't imagine the rest of the day going any better. Why doesn't he care that I am hurting and suffering right now? I don't understand how I can go from an important person in his life to virtually no one. (((HUGS))) - don't worry about the rest of the day. Just worry about getting through the next minute, then the next hour and so forth. That is all you can do when the pain is still so fresh. You've got to find little ways to trick your brain into not thinking about him for a few minutes at a time. I would give myself a facial or pedicure and I would focus as hard as I could on the task at hand. I know it sounds silly but find little things that will make you feel better about yourself and don't take very long (if it takes too long your mind will wander). If that doesn't work, go sit out in the sun with a pen and paper and write down all his flaws. Right now you still don't care about what his flaws were but do it anyways. Watch reality TV about people whose lives are way worse than yours- sadly that helps me. I know you don't want to do any of these things but please try something, anything. Today. Link to post Share on other sites
jen_r Posted July 27, 2010 Share Posted July 27, 2010 (((HUGS))) - don't worry about the rest of the day. Just worry about getting through the next minute, then the next hour and so forth. That is all you can do when the pain is still so fresh. You've got to find little ways to trick your brain into not thinking about him for a few minutes at a time. I would give myself a facial or pedicure and I would focus as hard as I could on the task at hand. I know it sounds silly but find little things that will make you feel better about yourself and don't take very long (if it takes too long your mind will wander). If that doesn't work, go sit out in the sun with a pen and paper and write down all his flaws. Right now you still don't care about what his flaws were but do it anyways. Watch reality TV about people whose lives are way worse than yours- sadly that helps me. I know you don't want to do any of these things but please try something, anything. Today. thanks for the tip. I just can't do anything right now. I'm actually planning on driving up to his house tonite, which isn't that close to me! But he won't respond to me and I'm not putting up with being ignored. Ugh, I will most likely be back on here in tears later... Link to post Share on other sites
Thorgs Posted July 27, 2010 Share Posted July 27, 2010 thanks for the tip. I just can't do anything right now. I'm actually planning on driving up to his house tonite, which isn't that close to me! But he won't respond to me and I'm not putting up with being ignored. Ugh, I will most likely be back on here in tears later... Don't do it! I did this with my first ex...she lived at UConn...45 min drive. I kept driving up there to talk but it just led to me making a fool of myself and it turned out she was with another dude (which is why she ended up breaking up with me). Link to post Share on other sites
Thorgs Posted July 27, 2010 Share Posted July 27, 2010 Got a text from the ex today. I mailed her a letter last week. It was more of a "thank you for the great times we shared" and "goodbye" letter. She text me today saying, "Hi I have a letter for you that I'd like to email...I want you to see some of my latest pics...where should I email to???" What the hell, pics? That is so confusing to me! Thankfully I was at work and I could let it out. If she really cared I would think she would write a letter back or be knocking at my door or even remember my email address. Wow I feel like I meant nothing to her, blah. Link to post Share on other sites
jen_r Posted July 27, 2010 Share Posted July 27, 2010 Don't do it! I did this with my first ex...she lived at UConn...45 min drive. I kept driving up there to talk but it just led to me making a fool of myself and it turned out she was with another dude (which is why she ended up breaking up with me). My friend went to Uconn! And the drive to his house is also 45 mins...but I don't deserve to be ignored like this. I would never do this to him, and if I look like a fool (which i already have manyyy times) then so be it. Cause I am trying my hardest here. =( Link to post Share on other sites
sandiego Posted July 27, 2010 Share Posted July 27, 2010 Rough day.....ex broke up with me 10 months ago. Spoke with her today (I made the mistake of calling)....ended up a crying mess (after finding out she's onto her third guy since our breakup). After two weeks, they're already set out to meet eachothers parents......clearly information I didn't need to know. 10 months and feeling back to square one........unreal. Link to post Share on other sites
jen_r Posted July 28, 2010 Share Posted July 28, 2010 I drove all the way to my exs house, caught him outside having a cigg, he rolled his eyes and said "jen, what are you doing here? you shouldnt be here"...gave me about hmm 5 mins of his time. His exact words "once im done with this ciggarette I'm going inside." He was not joking, he smoked it, stood up and said "I'm done smoking, good bye Jen.." walked inside and locked the door. It's officially over and I am more pissed than hurt at this point. I absolutely hate him. Link to post Share on other sites
SassyKitten Posted July 28, 2010 Share Posted July 28, 2010 So much better now! Link to post Share on other sites
BigProc Posted July 28, 2010 Share Posted July 28, 2010 I'v been in nc now for nearly 2 week afteri broke up with my ex girlfriend 2 month ago. Shes now with her other ex and im gutted cos i still love her . One of my worst symptoms of the break up are terrible nights sleep, dreaming about my ex constantly and then when i wake up in the morning i feel dreadful. I finally thought i was getting somewhere, i was starting to feel better, not thinking of her too much and having better nights sleep. But for some reason out of blue I had them old feelings come back again and 1 of those awful nights sleeps followed by that horrible feeling as soon as you wake up . Thanks for putting up with my morbid story, i hope i start to feel better again soon. Link to post Share on other sites
Scruffydog Posted July 28, 2010 Share Posted July 28, 2010 It's not a morbid story, it's your story. Life can be such a s**t sometimes. I have episodes when I awake, or even during the day, when I get a feeling that it's all a dream. It's a rather surreal feeling for a moment, almost as if my mind is drugged; you know, like when you first inhaled a cigarette? Reality soon bites back though. Sd Link to post Share on other sites
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