Why are personal trainers like this?

[i'mfaraway]

So I'm having problems with my personal trainer. I think he might have crossed the line with his verbal comments and personal questions. He also overdoes it on the niceness. I only want a professional trainer! I don't need him to be a friend, lover or personal conceirge.

 

Then I heard from some friends that trainers are (almost) all like that. They're in sales so need to provide an all-rounded service (I hope sex isn't included ). But why do they have to "stoop so low?" Why can't they just train their clients and help them achieve the results they want instead of acting like a male escort?

 

Has anyone experienced this? Share so I can feel like I'm not alone?

[Ruby Slippers]

I was doing some writing for this guy who used to be a personal trainer, and in our interviews, he told me all about it. He's a very fit, good-looking guy, and he said 75% of his clients (almost all women) wanted to have sex with him regularly. He said he was totally professional with them up front, but they would almost always make it personal and sexual.

 

So I guess personal trainers are expecting this, and some of them, like yours, push for it.

 

If it's making you uncomfortable, why not switch to a different trainer?

[SpanksTheMonkey]

So I'm having problems with my personal trainer. I think he might have crossed the line with his verbal comments and personal questions. He also overdoes it on the niceness. I only want a professional trainer! I don't need him to be a friend, lover or personal conceirge.

 

Then I heard from some friends that trainers are (almost) all like that. They're in sales so need to provide an all-rounded service (I hope sex isn't included ). But why do they have to "stoop so low?" Why can't they just train their clients and help them achieve the results they want instead of acting like a male escort?

 

Has anyone experienced this? Share so I can feel like I'm not alone?

 

thats why I would only ever join a all female gym with female trainers that sounds horrible I would change gyms.

[USMCHokie]

I was doing some writing for this guy who used to be a personal trainer, and in our interviews, he told me all about it. He's a very fit, good-looking guy, and he said 75% of his clients (almost all women) wanted to have sex with him regularly. He said he was totally professional with them up front, but they would almost always make it personal and sexual.

 

 

Really...? I'd better get started on my PT certs...

[Shakz]

Really...? I'd better get started on my PT certs...

 

In 20 years I've never had sex with a client. And I'm frickin' gorgeous. It's what you call unprofessional.

 

You should Hokie. You'd be a good one.

[2sure]

Mine was the opposite. He was militant. He called me names. He hurt my feelings. He made me angry.

 

But I knew all of this ahead of time because I checked his references and spoke with clients.

 

Like anyone else in this type of service...there are different styles to suit the various needs of the clients..some people are motivated via flirting some through yelling.

[xpaperxcutx]

I go to Lucille Roberts, and most of the female trainers are very down-to- earth and easy-going. There are male instructors as well but they're in there to train their clients and once they're done, they're out. I've never seen them try to make a move on the clients, but alot of the women there like to flirt with this particular male instructor that comes in once a week. But he's been real professional and not letting most of the women's comments get to him.

 

PS. If anything I would like a trainer that's a drill sargeant with Jillian Michaels' attitude. I know I work harder when there's someone constantly yelling for me to go faster.

[i'mfaraway]

I was doing some writing for this guy who used to be a personal trainer, and in our interviews, he told me all about it. He's a very fit, good-looking guy, and he said 75% of his clients (almost all women) wanted to have sex with him regularly. He said he was totally professional with them up front, but they would almost always make it personal and sexual.

 

So I guess personal trainers are expecting this, and some of them, like yours, push for it.

 

If it's making you uncomfortable, why not switch to a different trainer?

 

 

He doesn't push for sex but it's just a lot of mostly non-sexual talk that's more than a professional trainer should chat about.

 

I haven't switched because he charges less than others but he's not a bad trainer.

[i'mfaraway]

I'm now testing a new trainer.

 

Would you 1. keep a good trainer if he makes you uncomfortable (please see the first post in this thread)?

 

Or 2. swich to a new trainer, who may or may not be as good as the first trainer, and get to know the program and trainer all over again?

[Not strong enough]

Well, i could be wrong here, but maybe hes trying to keep you distracted for what your doing alittle bit, to increase your performance. Music increases performance for the same reason, it takes your mind off what your doing, your still doing it, but its kind of like when you zone out while your driving, your aware of it, your just not thinking about it. So the 20 minutes on the cycle seems more like 10, and the 6 sets of 10 seem more like 3.

 

Or maybe he's just bored, because his job is standing around telling you to do something and watching you do it. I know i would get bored if all i did was say, do 3 sets of 60 on the seated leg curl. Wait 10 minutes in silence while you did it. Now do 20 minutes on the eliptical at 6.5 mph, and stand there and watch you run. That would get old quick.

 

Or it could be a combo of both.

 

Or maybe he is just the kind of person, that likes to know his clients in depth, i know i do, and im in a completely different business. It helps you to make a judgement call on whats best tailored to client for the current time.

[TaraMaiden]

I'm now testing a new trainer.

 

Would you 1. keep a good trainer if he makes you uncomfortable (please see the first post in this thread)?

 

Or 2. swich to a new trainer, who may or may not be as good as the first trainer, and get to know the program and trainer all over again?

 

A good trainer motivates you and gets your adrenaline running.

A good trainer never evokes emotions of resentment, but admiration.

If the first guy isn't doing this for you, it's not a question of comparisons.

It's a question of compatibility.

You get trainer #2 to work for you.

You are paying them, remember?

They work for you.

You lay down the working rules:

Your most favoured style, what works for you, what doesn't and you give them a trial period.

 

isn't that how it's meant to work?

[i'mfaraway]

Well, i could be wrong here, but maybe hes trying to keep you distracted for what your doing alittle bit, to increase your performance. Music increases performance for the same reason, it takes your mind off what your doing, your still doing it, but its kind of like when you zone out while your driving, your aware of it, your just not thinking about it. So the 20 minutes on the cycle seems more like 10, and the 6 sets of 10 seem more like 3.

 

He would be if he was talking to me instead of asking questions I need to answer and that means I can't focus on my breathing.

 

 

Or maybe he's just bored, because his job is standing around telling you to do something and watching you do it. I know i would get bored if all i did was say, do 3 sets of 60 on the seated leg curl. Wait 10 minutes in silence while you did it. Now do 20 minutes on the eliptical at 6.5 mph, and stand there and watch you run. That would get old quick.

 

I suspect he doesn't like the awkwardness that comes with silence. But shouldn't a trainer know his job is not the most adrenaline-rushing kind? Shouldn't he not try to kill his boredom at the expense of my training?

 

 

Or it could be a combo of both.

 

Or maybe he is just the kind of person, that likes to know his clients in depth, i know i do, and im in a completely different business. It helps you to make a judgement call on whats best tailored to client for the current time.

 

He sends me texts that some friends read as a boyfriend sending to a girlfriend. Ewwwwww.

 

Because of the events that have happened since my last post, unless things take a different turn, I have another trainer in the lineup.

[i'mfaraway]

A good trainer motivates you and gets your adrenaline running.

A good trainer never evokes emotions of resentment, but admiration.

If the first guy isn't doing this for you, it's not a question of comparisons.

It's a question of compatibility.

You get trainer #2 to work for you.

You are paying them, remember?

They work for you.

You lay down the working rules:

Your most favoured style, what works for you, what doesn't and you give them a trial period.

 

isn't that how it's meant to work?

 

 

 

I think I was torn because it would be a "waste" to lose a good trainer. If he was a bad trainer and hit on me, then I would let him go without second thoughts.

[TaraMaiden]

I think I was torn because it would be a "waste" to lose a good trainer. If he was a bad trainer and hit on me' date=' then I would let him go without second thoughts.[/quote']

 

Doesn't this, tie in with this, then?

 

He sends me texts that some friends read as a boyfriend sending to a girlfriend. Ewwwwww

 

He's not a good trainer if you have questions and doubts about his methods, motives and means of getting results.

 

Because of the events that have happened since my last post, unless things take a different turn, I have another trainer in the lineup.

 

go for it.

You actually have very little to lose......

[i'mfaraway]

Doesn't this, tie in with this, then? He's not a good trainer if you have questions and doubts about his methods, motives and means of getting results.

 

LOL. Actually what I meant is he's a good trainer that hits on me. There's a slight difference to he's a bad trainer that also hits on me.

 

 

 

[quote=TaraMaiden;2899623go for it.

You actually have very little to lose......