maintaining LDR

[ankit]

Iam 22 living in india , i am moving to ireland for 1 year MS. My GF and i have talked about maintaining a LDR , we have been seeing each other from 4 mnths only and it has been great maybe because incidentally this is first for both of us.

 

 

People please tell me wat kind of problems can i face , i am looking at least stayin there for 1.5 to 2 years.

[StarrySkyBlue]

Do you plan to go back to India in the future? Will it be possible for your girlfriend to visit you during the time? Or for you to come home and visit her?

 

Anyway, LDRs can work, but only with two people who are committed to making it work. There might be jealousy/trust issues. You might also feel very lonely sometimes and decide it's not worth it. Phone bills and visits are expensive. There's also the time difference, so you will be free at different times and will end up not communicating enough. Open communication and complete trust are mandatory for a healthy LDR -- so make sure you know what you're getting yourself into before you do it.

 

Personally, I think if you two think your relationship is worth it and are willing to put in the work, I think it can definitely work!

 

Good luck!

[MelanieLynMarie]

Time Differences- This is a tough one for me. We're only 5 hours apart, but its hard to be able to maintain a balance being with my SO, and with the other duties in my life.

Desire: Some days you want them so bad, but you know that it would be impossible b/c of the distance.

Not being there for important events: It hurts alot when you can't be there to celebrate or support your SO during hard or good times.

Communication: This is also hard. Many questions of how will you communicate: through phone, online services: MSN,AIM Sykpe, etc... You would probably want to see and hear eachother...so investing in a webcam would have to be considered.

[aerogurl87]

Problems will include:

 

1) Time zone differences. My boyfriend and I only have a 2 hour time difference which isn't so bad because I have a weird sleeping schedule where I like to stay up late at night anyway, so it works itself out.

2) Visits. If you plan to be there for 1.5 to 2 years she's going to need to come visit you and/or you visit her. Which leads to issue 3.

3) Money. This can be a make or break it factor. If money's tight and you two argue about it alot, this can lead to a break up. LDRs are expensive with high phone bills, expensive flights, and so on. So you two will need to budget well to make it work.

4) Missing each other alot. The time apart will make you two miss each other alot and things will get lonely sometimes.

5) Communication. If your communication is bad your relationship will die. LDRs are basically communication only because you lack the physical aspect of being together and you two will need to be honest and trust each other 100% to make it work. Good luck!