shabookittie Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 Between this weird living together/seperation I am in (due to finances, a manipulating husband, and the sake of kids) and my new devasted heart from a MM that was my best friend I have decided on counseling. I have had so much happen to me in the past two years...I need help processing. And I am tired of just being tired from my emotions. If you have had counseling can you share your experiences? Did you try psychotherapy? Or basic counseling? My husband and I had MC at the onset of our seperation...2yrs ago. It lasted two months. MC accused me of holding him hostage to the past and said "I liked it." Needless to say, I never went back. That was a low point in life and I wasn't enjoying any of it! Link to post Share on other sites
cuddlekeeper Posted July 12, 2010 Share Posted July 12, 2010 Hi shabookittie I tried counselling a few times in my life buy I couldnt do it with my ex-H as I knew that I would get the blame for everything as I did all the time through out marriage and I knew no amount of counselling would ever change our situation...he always put me down and nothing I ever did was good enough. He also had a knack of turning things around so he was never to blame... So shabookittie now is your time for counselling and if you feel the first one is not the right one then try another as they are all different...I was lucky to find one four years ago (about two years after separation) that was fantastic and helped me enormously. He used cognitive behaviour therapy (but I didnt know it was called that then). So if you can find a counsellor that uses this type of therapy you may have a head start. I may need to go back and see one again if my A with MM ends (it has been 3 1/2 years now). So good luck shabookittie and yes counselling can definitely work Link to post Share on other sites
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